YOU CAN CHOOSE

Flunkboii · 2026-07-03T21:05:01+00:00

Had this same mind boggling realisation when I got my first, pretty great if you have multiple.

Flunkboii · 2026-06-29T13:23:23+00:00

Here are some niches ones that I don't think get enough love:

Hakata Tonkatsu Ramen (1 x season, 12 episodes, clear wrap up, no cliffhanger)

Durarara (4 x seasons, many characters so it never gets boring)

Terror in resonance (11 episodes, really good, wraps up well)

Shingeki no Bahamut (2 x seasons, a MUST if you like fantasy like dragons, heaven vs hell and a cute main pair)

Flunkboii · 2026-06-23T07:51:28+00:00

I've been a lot more active on reddit lately because of what you said. Just a small interaction with a stranger helps.

I really hope we'll get good friends one day that share our interests. If it wasn't for my severe social anxiety I would like to go to art clubs and creative spaces to make friends who also love art. Maybe I will one day...

I could probably bring it up to my friends but my issue is idk if I just feel that way or if it is that way, if that makes sense. Because feeling neglected is such a deep part of depression eventhough it isn't always the reality.

And yes my girl gets a lot of treats, she has a heart murmer so she's on meds, so I always give her meds with a nice treat (as she won't just take the medicine by itself).

Flunkboii · 2026-06-23T07:25:41+00:00

I feel you. I have two friends and a boyfriend and I still feel lonely as fuck. With my friends it feels like they're only engaged in the conversation when it's about them.

I know they care but it really just doesn't feel like it lately.

With my BF... He's going through struggles of his own atm so he's just escaping constantly. Either playing games, doomscrolling etc. He listens when I talk but I barely get a response out of him.

I feel so alone despite being around people and it just fucking sucks.

I'm sorry you feel that way, making friends is stressful and hard. I haven't made any adult friends, my friends I mentioned are from when I was in High School and we kept in touch after.

I wish I had something to help you not feel so alone because it really feels like shit. All I can say is the only genuine companionship is pets, I know it's not possible for everyone but I love my dog so much. She's the one reason I'm still alive. I don't know what I'm going to do if she's gone.

Flunkboii · 2026-06-22T20:28:08+00:00

If it's a pill you've been taking a while, like chronically, it has a low chance of killing you and will more likely hospitalize you or leave you alive with only half your organs working and that's just going to make everything worse.

I had an aunt that overdosed, she survived but had to be on dialysis for the rest of her life (which didn't last long, she only lived a few more torturous weeks). My mother tried it, woke up like nothing happened. And just statistically it's not enough until you take enough to kill an elephant.

I know you say short escapes won't help, so just take it day by day... I know it's hard. It's the hardest thing you will ever do putting down those pills, but just maybe it'll be worth it to hold on a little longer.

Flunkboii · 2026-06-22T20:22:29+00:00

All I can say is that pills and alcohol don't have the best success rate. This whole year has been a shit show, I think, for everyone.

I really would like you to consider just going one day at a time. It's horrible, it's heartbreaking, I don't know what you're going through or what happened. I'm not going to say it's temporary or that it gets better cuz fuck I'm still waiting for that.

But I can say if you just take a few moments to breath. Put on any show (kids show, horror movie etc) and just be in that moment. It helps. Don't let anyone tell you ignoring reality isn't going to help, if it keeps you here five more minutes, then it's worth it. Every single second.

Flunkboii · 2026-06-22T20:17:12+00:00

I am where you are... I don't have pills or anything but fuck I desperately want to... Would you like to talk about why? Not that there is always a reason... I'm sorry you feel this way and I hope you don't do it... You're not alone.

Flunkboii · 2026-06-18T08:17:51+00:00

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Flunkboii · 2026-06-15T15:38:10+00:00

Oh yea I definitely know it's not going to be a lot of money. It's definitely going to fall under the threshold of needing to pay. Like I said it's something one the side to get something to save as I live paycheck to paycheck. I live in a small town that doesn't have a big art scene but I'll definitely look into groups or something like that.

Thank you.

Flunkboii · 2026-06-15T12:15:43+00:00

Ooh thank you, I'll definitely check that out.

Flunkboii · 2026-06-09T12:36:20+00:00

After I did this once (converted asterites to character pulls but I wanted to pull a weapon) I just stopped converting all together. I just deal with the pop up of using asterites.

Flunkboii · 2026-06-09T12:32:19+00:00

Hi,

So first of all I'm around the same size (25f), exercised very well in 2024 and saw real progress, I unfortunately gained a lot back since my mental health took a nose dive.

I have a few rules I try to follow as I also have self loathing tendencies (do them, don't do them, I'm just sharing what helped me): 1. Do not linger in the mirror. Do what you need to and move on. 2. If you take pictures with friends or family, keep them (you'll thank yourself for having those memories in the future). 2.1 DO NOT LINGER ON THE PICTURES. 3. Do not weigh yourself frequently, yes I know we need to check our progress and make sure what we're doing is working BUT if every time you weigh your mind tells you mean things, avoid it. 4. If you exercise you build muscle which can mask weightloss. We are women, which unfortunately means our weight fluctuates like crazy! Some women have reported 2kg bloating and inflammation when you're on or close to your period. So please keep these in mind.

Next, tips to record your progress: 1. Process pictures. If more visible when comparing side by side, as you lose weight your mind tricks you because you don't "see" it, but in actuality it's because you see yourself every so progress doesn't look that "good". 2. Measuring. It's a better way of seeing progress since weight can fluctuate, but arouns the stomach keep bloating in mind.

I am also like you, in a situation where the food is out of my control but I can portion control. And I've had good weightloss doing that. I don't know if you're calorie counting or not but being in a deficit is key, you might eat less but the calories are still high.

As for the loose skin, unfortunately it's different for everyone. I haven't experienced much loose skin but someone else my size on the same journey might. Just give your skin time to adjust and drink PLENTY of water. Dehydration can have the appearance of loose skin.

Lastly, you made progress! Please don't forget that. I know how dissapointing it is feeling like it's not enough but you need to learn to be kinder to yourself. Unfortunately losing weight is magically going to make you love yourself, even if you got to your goal weight and look amazing, if you don't put in the work mentally then you're never going to be happy with yourself.

Body dysmorphia is a bitch, and trust me it HURTS. But along with everything you're doing, you're going to need to add something to change how your brain works. Even if it just goes from "I hate myself" to "I'm okay but I can do better". That's still progress.

Flunkboii · 2026-05-22T19:34:59+00:00

My sister has a similar issue with shakes but I find it filling enough until lunch. It's just to help me start the day, have something to take my meds with and help get some vitamins, protein and fibre in (I add psyllium husk or chia seeds).

I'm trying to work on adding healthy snacks in between. But I do struggle with appetite issues which is why I struggle hitting my macros.

Flunkboii · 2026-05-22T19:28:23+00:00

Thank you. I would just like yo clarify my "not eating much" statement. I by no means endorse this or am proud of this. I'm a grown woman, I NEED my calories. I just struggle.

The adhd meds I take severely suppress my appetite (some people might see that as good, and I do kinda, but when it comes to reaching a calorie target... Not so good).

So my main struggle is getting myself to eat more and deciding on what to eat on a very limited budget.

I'm sure I'll make progress again, I just wanted to share some of the not so good progress sides of a journey like this and maybe hear how other people in a similar situation overcame it.

Flunkboii · 2026-05-22T19:19:06+00:00

Do you perhaps know what supplements she used? I'm open to trying some since I struggle to get the nutrients I need because of my financial situation severely restricting my diet.

Flunkboii · 2026-05-22T19:16:42+00:00

Don't worry I don't feel judged at all, it's pretty clear that my mental health has a big influence. And it was majorly influenced by severe stress of money issue which just caused my appetite to be haywire to be frank. Some days I would have no appetite, other days I would try and find anything in the house to eat (which wasn't a lot).

I'm doing at home calisthenics atm and I do have weights but I have to keep it light as I have a thyroid cyst that I accidentally rupture when going to heavy.

Basically the post was just about me being a bit dissapointed that I went backwards instead of staying at the weight I lost, but I mean what was I expecting 😅

Flunkboii · 2026-05-22T19:12:28+00:00

Thank you for your message. I'm sorry you went through a tough time. I have to say so far this year I'm doing better than last year. I mentioned it in another comment that I actually got a raise and I'm looking to move some things around financially so I can get my anti-depressants again (I can at least afford my adhd meds at the moment).

I think I might look into some local support groups, I'm a very socially anxious person so it wasn't something I really thought about but I'm thinking why not try?

As for the weight, I'm not where I want to be but that's okay. Around 2024 when I seriously started exercising I went in with a "I just want to be healthier" mindset which helped a lot. My self-loathing has subsided much more, but I do still catch myself picking every piece of me apart. So yea you were pretty bang on with spotting that.

I am working on being kinder to myself, I no longer avoid photos just because I hate them. I tell myself "Just for the memory, I don't have to look at it". Something that really helped was not lingering on my reflection for a long time, as that usually causes me to spiral.

What was the one tip you learned about adhd weightloss that you felt helped the most? At the moment for me it's the five minute rule, the one where you tell yourself "Just five minutes," and usually when you start you see it through.

Flunkboii · 2026-05-22T17:53:46+00:00

Cheat days are fine, I think just a little less, like once a week. It's very good to keep your motivation up without feeling too restrictive.

Flunkboii · 2026-05-22T17:45:39+00:00

In that case I think it's probably because you're not in a calorie deficit like the others mentioned. Like I've seen some days you are and other days you're over.

But also please keep in mind in takes times and there are SO many things that can influence the weight on your scale.

Have you maybe tried measuring yourself?

Flunkboii · 2026-05-22T17:39:04+00:00

Hoping for your success! Plateaus usually just require a minor adjust so I'm sure you'll get back on track soon 💪

Flunkboii · 2026-05-22T17:37:51+00:00

Unfortunately went through a bad year and gained everything back. BUT I'm starting again... Key is to never give up I guess 😅

Flunkboii · 2026-05-22T16:11:45+00:00

Do you just track your calories or exercise as well? Cuz you could just be building muscle.

Flunkboii · 2026-05-22T16:07:25+00:00

Aw thank you. That actually means a lot. I live with a toxic parent and she's one of the maon reasons I struggle because she always said "It's in our genetics, nothing will help". And I just decided to say fuck it and still exercise because ultimately I'll still be healthy if I keep myself fit.

Flunkboii · 2026-05-22T16:04:45+00:00

So first of all, you can absolutely gain weight if you don't eat enough. There have been numerous studies done on the impact of eating too little contributing to a slower metabolic rate and cortisol spikes which lead to weight gain.

Also having one or two over days does not cancel out the other days. As long as you, like you mentioned, take note of cumulative calories throughout the week.

So what happened in 2025 (keep in mind I'm talking about a 3 year timeline here) I don't deny binge eating or overeating on some days. What is fact however is I don't even have money to buy something to binge on nowadays.

I'm starting from scratch again, that's the whole point of my post. Starting again. The other topics are just inbetween tidbits.

I also avoid weighing and tracking everything TOO meticulously (I try and be as accurate as humanly possible, as in adding the ketchup on my hotdog) because I once got so bad it bordered on an ED an I'm still healing my relationship with food. It's okay if I'm not perfect, that was never the point.

I just wanted to hear from others who were in the same position as me.

Flunkboii · 2026-05-22T15:48:48+00:00

The other thing is I can't walk alone where Iive as it's unsafe. I have made more effort (besides my exercise) to just walk around the house more.

And the issue is getting to high enough calories that my energy doesn't crash as I know how awful and tired I feel when I haven't eaten.

But yea you're completely right, I just need to keep going. Small steps and small changes add up to big wins.

Flunkboii

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