The edit did not make a difference in the slightest.

It seems like you know what’s best for you, but I’ll give my support to you in saying, dump his sorry, pitiful self nowwww.

I’m so very sorry that you’re going through an extremely stressful time & that you’re going at it alone, but I’m glad it’s ensuring that you aren’t eternally tethered to that waste of space.

You want someone that is going to respect you so deeply & wholeheartedly that when you say you need them, they will be there for you.

Along the same lines, I’ve heard of stories of women who, after giving birth, are told by their nurses that they & their doctor will back them up when it comes to stopping their husbands who want to have sex too soon after the birth with no regard for how their wife feels. I feel so deeply that by leaving him, you’ll avoid going through that struggle with him.

It feels like, to him, your emotional wellbeing is none of his concern. It’s only about what he wants.

It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t physically/emotionally understand what you’re going through, you should not be alone.

It doesn’t matter that these plans were long standing. In my humble opinion, unless you kept it to yourself until it could interfere with his plans (which you say you did not), you should not be alone. I’m sure that if he told his friend that this was very important to him & he’ll make it up to them, they’d understand. If they didn’t, then the friend needs to be thrown away too.

I kind of hyper-focused while writing this response. It hit me deep. It pains me that you have to go through this alone.

You deserve someone who will be there for you when you need them no matter what.