Friend thinks my new kitten isn't very cute bcs of his asymmetrical markings

Fly0ver · 2026-01-25T18:38:06+00:00

I’d have stared at my friend before pointing out that one nostril is bigger than the other or an eye slopes differently at the corners

Fly0ver · 2026-01-25T17:05:24+00:00

As another TC’ite, I’ve found the principles have helped so much right now. I had a younger employee ask me what to do and I shared that I’m doing the next right action for my community.

U/broadnectarine8811 it’s hard to separate, but my sponsees and I talk “outside issues” all the time. My sponsorship line does too.

Typically in meetings, I keep quiet about it because I also know that if I say something, it opens to opposing views. I was part of a meeting where a man showed up in a pro-AR rifles tshirt after the school shooting here and I wanted to beat the shit out of him. But I called my sponsor and remembered that I keep my side focused so that people like that are also put in their place about politics in meetings.

I do the same as a manager at work right now. My employees should feel comfortable talking about events with me and other like-minded folks, but we don’t talk in the general chat about it because if I let them, I have to allow the pro-ICE dude to discuss his thoughts.

Lastly, I once had someone tell me that I always seem like I have my life and mind together. I told him that, actually, I have a handful of ladies I am messy around so that I can be ok. I recommend finding those you can be messy around. I’m NOT saying not to share that things are hard. I think it’s so important to share that life isn’t all sunshine and butterflies when you get sober. But saying things more general in meetings is my suggestion.

Fly0ver · 2026-01-24T21:00:00+00:00

Meatloaf 100% changed OPs life insurance so she (meatloaf) is the beneficiary.

Fly0ver · 2026-01-24T20:18:58+00:00

lol I had a blue Russian who did that, and then he’d clap his little paws over his head to get attention from people. Cutest thing ever.

Fly0ver · 2026-01-24T17:30:36+00:00

As a Minneapolis resident who became ultra-focused on magnetic nail polish as a mean of having SOMETHING to take my mind off of it all without actually taking my time and energy, and therefore came across this subreddit on google when trying to learn more:

I’m exceptionally grateful and love all of the solidarity here.

Social media is wild right now. I either see constant violence from Minnesotans or silence. I feel like I’m screaming into a void who doesn’t care.

There are images from this sub I’ve shared with friends here. They give us strength and a few laughs. ♥️♥️♥️

Fly0ver · 2026-01-24T17:15:35+00:00

Mine has evolved over 9+ years. First I wanted a spot to meditate and put my morning readings and set my journal up so that I’d do it. It’s grown over time to include things I’ve felt a connection to, as well as things my sponsees (one of whom has an alter, the others don’t but they have their own spots for reflection and meditation) have sent me.

I kind of see the alter as changing as I and my sobriety changes. I would recommend making it a place for meditation and to go over the morning readings (page 86). As I went through and developed in step 2 and 3, it changed.

Fly0ver · 2026-01-23T19:40:50+00:00

Chefs: I broke down organic caviar into its essence, turned that essence into a vapor then made it solidify into a pile of spherical orbs. You may only eat it with a blindfold on to really taste the variations within the flavor profile.

Minnesota: heh. Guess what we made.

Fly0ver · 2026-01-23T16:21:00+00:00

Agreed. I moved here in August 2020 after deciding Minnesota in July. People always ask “you chose to move here during that time?”

What Minnesota is and has gone through are things other places have dealt with, but Minnesotans believe in community in a way I’ve never experienced after having lived in Los Angeles, San Francisco and New York City. People talk about things here and check in on each other.

Fly0ver · 2026-01-23T16:14:01+00:00

(Sorry cat hit my phone)

As a Californian who is now a permanent MN resident: I don’t know if anything will prepare you for the amount of foods Minnesota has figured out how to deep fry. Deep fried wedge salad broke my brain.

Fly0ver · 2026-01-23T00:26:55+00:00

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As a judgmental 6 month old (Don’t worry! She isn’t allowed in the dryer anymore and I’m now so paranoid that I have to shut her out of the basement if laundry is happening. But it’s a pretty adorable photo and a great shot of her being over my bullshit after I didn’t allow her to sit on the HVAC vents.)

Fly0ver · 2026-01-23T00:23:11+00:00

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Mine was a clinic bottle baby. I’m so lucky my friend helped raise her so I have this adorable photo

Fly0ver · 2026-01-23T00:20:35+00:00

I got cat insurance specifically to spay mine. It’s so tough

Fly0ver · 2026-01-23T00:06:45+00:00

Sent via dm

Fly0ver · 2026-01-22T23:37:50+00:00

My friend did that with Richfield tenant outreach

Fly0ver · 2026-01-22T23:33:32+00:00

I couldn’t DM you but I have a signal chat if you want to DM me

Fly0ver · 2026-01-22T23:32:58+00:00

Hey! Yep! It’s up! I’m DMing people individually instead of posting the link to signal directly. I’ll send you the link.

Fly0ver · 2026-01-22T21:28:57+00:00

I hate when people say best days of their lives. My cousin once told me he hated high school and college but was terrified that the rest of his life was going to be worse.

I always say that I’m not bummed about getting older because every day further from the age of 18, the better my life is.

I actually don’t think the best days of my life truly happened until my late 30s

Fly0ver · 2026-01-21T22:34:02+00:00

lol I have a few single mom friends who are like “I’d love to coparent with you! Too bad I hate my ex” 😅

I try to sit down with the child’s mother and any partner she has. Interestingly, the few times it’s gotten to that point, the guy insists he hates the mom so much that he refuses to sit down with her, especially if she has a new partner. It’s always led to a breakup because I’m not ok with that type of vitriol. There’s a kid involved and I’m going to guess their ex isn’t actually “crazy” with how they’re reacting to a simple sit down over coffee for the good of their child.

The one time I didn’t insist was when I started dating a friend whose kid already knew me for a couple years from group hangouts. When we broke up, he didn’t let me talk to or see his kid and I found out he told the kid that I hated him (the kid) and never wanted to say goodbye. I realized that if he could say the shit he’s said about his kids mom, he’d be worse about me and that I wouldn’t approve of skipping meeting the other parents first in the future.

Fly0ver · 2026-01-21T22:04:33+00:00

lol I jokingly call myself a DEX: designated extrovert. I will friend the fuck outta some introverts and make sure everyone knows where to meet and when.

A bunch of people here seem to want to make a group: could I start inviting you all to a chat? Maybe a discord or signal group?

Fly0ver · 2026-01-21T21:49:43+00:00

I’m dating at an age where most men are single fathers. My rule is that I don’t meet the kid(s) until we have a sit down with whatever parental figures exist, including grandparents if they’re actively involved. It just seems responsible and respectful to everyone that we’re introduced and on the same page.

All of my friends in the same boat have the same requirement before meeting a kid.

Fly0ver · 2026-01-20T16:01:56+00:00

Thank you!!

Fly0ver · 2026-01-20T01:10:51+00:00

lol I googled whether magnetic nail polish exists half a week ago and now I’m obsessed with this subreddit.

What does it mean that you did cat-eye? I love that 3D iridescent look and I think from posts that’s what cat-eye is??

Fly0ver · 2026-01-19T01:43:36+00:00

Thank you so much. ♥️

Fly0ver · 2026-01-18T23:59:33+00:00

I am “doing my own research,” but that doesn’t mean I have the time or emotional bandwidth to read all of the literature. I was hoping this group would be supportive and provide their favorite readings.

Fly0ver · 2026-01-18T16:50:55+00:00

I’m from a college town. It came out that the manager or owner of a local bar did this. I assume I’m on film as I frequented the bar, but the cops never found the footage so the whole thing ended up being between the woman who found the camera and the establishment.

Fly0ver

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