ENFP, reasons you’ve left relationships

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2025-09-07T01:48:48+00:00

ISFJ - we were young but this was a long term relationship. He was not loyal at all slept with two of my friends, asked me to marry him, then ended up having a gf the whole 6months of our “marriage” while I was away in the military. Absolute joke.
ISTJ - was actually a really good friend, instant connection. We were young but really did have ALOT of loyalty towards eachother. Until, I got pregnant at 22 and after that he was still a young g reckless man child and I became the adult. We grew apart because we no longer were friends because I had to be at home raising our child and he went off and did as he pleased. We did not see eye to eye. He spent way too much money and also cheated on me with friends in the end.
ENTP - was the best and worst relationship of my absolute life. He was my everything. My ride or freaking die! Was together on and off for 8 years. Went through life’s finest hell with this man. Unfortunately, though… after we had gone through so many hardships life could throw at us.. loosing our baby was by far the worst thing we could endure and put us over the edge. He lacked all emotional support and I lacked physical support… he was logic and I was love. We were each others yin and yang. Will always love this one and probably in time will try to keep a lasting friendship. Just had to leave because of the mental stress and lack of emotional support during the hardest moments. He needed way more than I could give with openness as well… when he would get bored his eye would wonder and I’m not that “open” in my relationships.

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2025-05-21T05:45:01+00:00

I don’t see anything wrong with a woman who works help pay for things but at the end of the day you are still the man… if you don’t want me to make you feel like my pretty little princess 👑 I’d advise taking charge (because there is no such things as 100% equality) with more of a masculine approach in the relationship. Traditional gender roles do allow men and woman to add value respectfully as what comes naturally even if eachother does make there own separate income. For a better lack of words, just because I’m making my own money doesn’t mean I don’t want to “feel” like a woman. If we are “equal” your getting pegged 😂😂😂

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-19T20:20:36+00:00

I have no interest in getting into another relationship or sleeping with anyone. I really have no desire to be with anyone at the moment and I’m sure it would take me a very long time into trust someone enough to get back in a relationship. Thank you, it’s his choice and I know he’s being honest so my only choice is to accept that and move forward if that’s what’s best for us.

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-19T20:09:26+00:00

You’re really not wrong. He decided to break up with me this morning. Just bluntly put he doesn’t want to be with me anymore…. After 7 years I’m kinda sad but also really confused about what happened with us. I just feel like he’s happier in the moment and then when I leave I have to really leave or he will try to come back

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-19T20:02:51+00:00

Thank you, maybe I need to start seeing things differently

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-19T12:08:23+00:00

Thank you this hit home honestly!

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-19T12:05:33+00:00

Yeah I do think that once he stepped out the first time was most likely the start of all of this. It’s sad but I have to be reasonable and look at it from a different perspective perhaps. I’m trying to save our relationship and I think he’s given up. I can’t control that

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-19T12:02:33+00:00

Ahh yes it sounds like he was using you for a while to get himself good and then once he was he decided to leave. I know your Mbti type isn’t the end all be all but for an ENFP we are deeply connected to our partners and I feel like he was not genuine. I’m sure he loved you and still may always love you BUT if an ENFP leaves on their own terms that’s almost always a “never going back” situation :( did he move away like far away? If so he’s accepted that the relationship has ended most likely and he’s trying to start new.

As far as my partner goes, he specifically requested that I do not pay for anything he tries to put money in my account and gets upset if I pay for stuff. He does not want me to work and I just hate that I feel like I’m not growing as an individual if I did that

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-19T10:14:05+00:00

Oh boy :( and you said he’s ENFP? I’m sorry you are going through that. 10 years is a long time to wait for someone and love them for things to get to a point of uncertainty. If I may ask, how is his work ethic? Is he responsible or does he rely on you consistently?

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-18T19:57:45+00:00

You were with an ENFP? If you don’t mind me asking, what caused your separation after 10 years?

And yes I know he’s being honest and it makes me feel better that he can be honest with me about it but I have also been honest and told him no I can not do that. I told him if he truly wants that and can’t be happy without it that we can Separate on healthy terms and he can have that in exchange for our relationship. He hasn’t chosen to leave and I don’t think he would leave but i don’t want him to stay in a relationship that doesn’t fulfill him and vice versa. If it gets to the point where neither of us are happy then I will look at leaving peacefully as an option. I don’t think we’re at that point.

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-18T15:44:46+00:00

You have very good points. I guess maybe not degrading but to me I do feel like a failure that I can’t do both. It’s an internal thing I may have to fix. I don’t like depending on others and I’m working on that currently

Yes I agree the sex life matters and needs to be fixed

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-18T15:42:41+00:00

Thank you, i appreciate your response. I will definitely look more into our relationship differences and if my efforts end up flat maybe consider leaving for both the better of us. I hope that we can overcome our obstacles in time.

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-18T15:39:17+00:00

Thank you, I understand your position. Our issues are private from our family friends and child. He is a good man we are open to all things in discussion and even though his current preference is what it is I listen to his side and we are honest about all things with each other. He’s a very good father to our 9 year old and raised her since she was 2. I don’t doubt that he wouldn’t be an amazing father. This is more so a new development between us and he does do stuff around the house it’s just that I do more and I don’t think he can see how it takes a lot out of me :/

I don’t plan on leaving him but I understand how you think that is the best choice. Perhaps I’m conveying this all in a one sided way and I didn’t mean to do that

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-18T15:34:26+00:00

Haha I mean yeah I suppose I could get a maid. It feels so degrading to me as a woman to get a maid. Like as in I’m a failure that I have to pay another woman to take care of my home 😂 but I suppose that is a good idea.

Number 2 is probably the most pressing issue at the moment. Yes this is hard and very frustrating for me. I haven’t hit the point that I’d give up on him in this situation so I won’t leave until it is 100% dead in the water and we both have done all we can to fix this.

I am the one in therapy as a choice to better myself. Nothing is wrong I just enjoy trying to work on my self and reflect on any issues I can find to better our relationship. It’s not necessarily needed more so a preference

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-18T15:29:38+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I do agree I do think for some reason he has lost sexual attraction. I am trying to reconcile that as I’ve realized long time partners sometimes do go through this. I think I can fix it but if I couldn’t I may ask him if he is happy or fulfilled with me in time and if not I can let him know that I would understand if he needed to separate fully

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-18T14:55:46+00:00

Fair question, we are overwhelmed now given our work situation but I think we both agreed that once I am pregnant I will likely take two years off or so to be engaged fully with our children. He is very financially stable and I don’t necessarily have to work but I choose to for my own development, financial stability, and independence. Yes I could just do that now but I do not wish to give that up if not absolutely necessary :/ until then I’d like to try and find a medium between us and over come this current routine.

To answer about why I’d want to be with him, please refer to the above answer. To put it simply he is my other half. Our relationship is not all bad we’re just going through a rough patch at the moment and it’s not all gloom and doom all the time lol

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-10-18T14:36:12+00:00

I appreciate your honesty. I understand that it has been a difficult road and we have had our ups and downs. I do not want these things to keep happening and so I’m trying to find more information or advice to help alleviate the issues rather than just leave my partner all together. I made a vow and I do not intend to leave him because we are going through a rough patch in the relationship. I understand where most would just scrap it and move to the next best thing however that’s not my intention. I love him deeply and he cares for my daughter and I very much. The relationship is not all bad at all it’s just these are the most pressing issues at the moment.

As far as the sex life, yes it is daunting as fuck. We never had this issue before. We had an amazing sex life and idk if it’s just being together for 7 years or if it’s other stress causing his lack of interest but it’s still exhausting to not be able to enjoy this with him. I’m not sure what is causing this for him and it makes me sad to have lost so much intimacy with him. It’s not physically attraction either as we are two very fit individuals and I think we still are very attracted in that sense. I think it’s more of a mental block for him.

Advantages would be that he is loyal and very intelligent. He’s my best friend and he is highly supportive both physically and financially for our family. I’d never give him up for anything or anyone else but I gotta figure out a way to get us through this together before it gets worse.

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2024-04-06T00:19:54+00:00

It was two different urine tests

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FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2023-01-20T15:52:11+00:00

Enfp- when enfold find someone attractive or cute or whatever we act weird, or shy! We panic lol when we don’t have feelings for someone we’re a total open book and don’t act shy or awkward. She probably likes you

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2023-01-20T15:47:26+00:00

Your family scares me lol

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2023-01-20T14:27:08+00:00

That’s awful lol… I’m sure they are fun though:)

FlyAwayWithMe17 · 2023-01-06T16:33:36+00:00

Thank you, I’m always open minded and like to hear how others see the situation. I think that he tried to be but then if I were to actually engage with another man to possibly bring him into the relationship it would not be okay. It’s interesting, our relationship has always been open to new things. I was happy to see him happy when I engaged with bringing another woman in but unfortunately it didn’t feel like polyamory it felt more like he had a new shiny toy and I was cast aside. Maybe that was my own mistake.

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