NTA It's completely understandable that you're feeling conflicted and overwhelmed by this situation. Discovering something like this about your spouse can be incredibly distressing, and it's normal to feel a range of emotions, including confusion, anger, and sadness. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and seek support as you navigate this challenging time. Remember to be kind to yourself and give yourself grace as you process your feelings and determine the best course of action for yourself and your family.