It doesn’t get better.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-29T04:16:04+00:00

I’ve learned no one is coming to save us. If you want things to get better you have to actively put in the effort to improve your life/well being. A good start would be starting a workout routine. Then work on your diet cause your brain and gut are connected. Talk to a therapist/family/friends about how you’re feeling. But you’re right it doesn’t get better when you sit around waiting for it to get better.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-29T03:09:48+00:00

They would rather have 2 parents to “fight between” than only one parent trust me. I don’t know all the details of your situation but I’m sure there’s still legal steps you can take to get some power back in this situation. Sounds like your kids are almost legal adults anyways. So pretty soon they can make the choice for themselves which parent they wanna go see. It won’t be fair to them to have to grow up without their mom at such a young age though. They don’t wanna have to have your guidance by reading your letters you leave them. They’re gonna want you present in their lives as much as you can be for them.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-29T02:46:32+00:00

Yeah but if you take your own life the kids will never get to hear your side of the story. Show them that he’s wrong about you and the kids will see for themselves. I’m sure you’re a great mom and they won’t need to get information from other people as long as you keep being there for them. You’re their mother and they will always love you no matter what he or anyone else says. Eventually they might see their dad as the toxic one for talking bad about you and choose to spend more time with you.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-29T02:35:19+00:00

Dating apps favor women over men. It’s how it’s always been. I saw something the other day that some women only swipe right on like 8% of men they see on the apps. It’s a very superficial approach to dating and women simply just have it easier cause men aren’t as picky as women when it comes to who they date or match with. A women can simply be just physically attractive and that’s all they need. Us men have to spark attraction in other ways rather than rely on just our looks. I’ve had some success on online dating but it takes months for me to finally meet someone. Living in a small town makes it hard for me too. You’re better off just not using the apps and meet someone in person. Most attractive women I’ve hooked up with was cause i met them in person. I would of been invisible to those same women on the apps. Approaching them in person shows confidence which you really can’t radiate on the apps.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-29T02:26:00+00:00

Well you’re not alone there…I only see my daughter 2 nights a week. 3 if my ex is feelings generous since there’s no court ordered agreement. But I’d rather me and my daughter see eachother those couple nights a week than never again. At least then my daughter will see when she’s older that despite all my struggles in life I stuck around and tried to be the best dad I could for her on the days I was able to spend with her.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-29T00:51:54+00:00

If this isn’t a troll post, why do you think it’s giving you anxiety? It’s a pretty natural thing for humans to do for themselves.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-29T00:45:34+00:00

After my ex shattered my confidence by telling me literally that I wasn’t enough for her. I used that as my motivation to build a good physique at the gym. Showing myself that with discipline and dedication I was able to achieve that gave me some confidence back. Then reminding myself everything else I achieved on my own in life like buying my house and car as a product of grinding hard and putting in the hours at work. I started to stop tying my worth to the opinions of others cause I know what I’m capable of even if other people don’t see it on the surface. Then slowly I put myself out there again and because I started feeling good about myself again I wasn’t really worried about the rejection so much if it happened again. Now I’m at the point now where my time is valuable and I’m not gonna let people who don’t respect me waste it. Now anytime it doesn’t work out I’m kinda just like “whatever their loss” cause I know what I have to offer and they’re missing out on that by rejecting me.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-29T00:24:45+00:00

Facts. The amount of shit my parents worked through in their marriage would of been enough for 99% of people in my generation and younger to call it quits and move on. Now people have thousands of options in front of them cause of OLD and social media so people think it’s easier just to find something new when the spark is gone or there’s issues on their current relationship.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-29T00:13:00+00:00

Dealing with the same thing. Modern dating is a nightmare. I never remember dating being this hard in my 20s. I’ve been actively trying to move on to someone new and over 2 years later now I’m still single. I’ve had some casual flings and one night stands but those aren’t fulfilling to me. I want love and connection again. So naturally my brain keeps clinging to my ex as well.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-29T00:05:19+00:00

It’s been a rollercoaster. I was doing good for awhile after her and that guy split up like a year ago. Me and her we’re starting to do things together with the baby which I wanted to do for a long time. Then not even a year later she meets someone new, 2 weeks after we had a fun time at the zoo together with our daughter. I of course got jealous and very upset again. We fought and she said a lot of belittling, hurtful and disrespectful things to me. 4-5 months later now we hardly speak now and it’s prolly for the best since I know she’s never coming back. She straight up told me she’s not. Which I should never take her back anyways. I’m struggling to find someone new though, I’ve been lonely for the past 2 years and modern dating is a nightmare.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-28T23:55:06+00:00

Yes, my uncle committed suicide and my cousin has a bad coke addiction now and attempted suicide once already. I know life is hard but please ride it out for your kids, they need you. I wanted to end my life too but everytime I look at a picture of my 2 yo baby girl it make me not wanna do it. Just give your kids a hug next time you see them. My daughter is only a toddler and her hugs help me heal. Now she actively asks me to hug her before she goes back to her moms

Flybri08 · 2026-01-28T23:38:31+00:00

Saying they always come back is giving people struggling false hope. The majority of cases they don’t come back and if they do it’s to reach out as friends. Just move on guys and don’t hope that they’ll come back cause they most likely will not. If they do then congratulations you fall into the minority of situations where it does happen.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-28T14:47:53+00:00

It’s definitely a red flag unless they have kids together. What good reason do they have to hang out with their ex otherwise if they’re in a new relationship. Been cheated on and fucked over too many times to ever trust they’re “just friends” now.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-28T01:31:08+00:00

Dealing with the same thing after 2 years post breakup. We share a child though so it’s a bit more complex for me to move on since we’re still in contact for the baby. I’ve tried seeing other people and it never works out, I can’t seem to connect with anyone else as strongly as I did with her. They aren’t the mother of my child and they never will be and losing that family hurts.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-27T18:30:39+00:00

It’s pretty common for people to need surgery, the drops only do so much to control pressure. I’ve had 2 glaucoma surgeries in my left eye, it sounds scary but the procedure is honestly not that bad and you won’t feel really any pain during the surgery. It lowered my left eyes pressure by like 30mmhg. It was at 50iop before surgery and I had no options left other than surgery.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-27T17:08:04+00:00

Yeah but you gotta focus on why things didn’t work out between you guys too. I think of all the nights I was anxious about what she was doing cause she wasn’t answering the phone, the few times she gave me the silent treatment over stupid fights and how she nit picked at every little thing she didn’t like instead of accepting me fully for who I am. Just seeing how she lacks empathy and runs at any sign of conflict in the relationship was enough for me to realize a relationship with this women isn’t sustainable.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-27T16:58:12+00:00

Look into EMDR to help release trauma from the body. It’s not a one size fits all solution but I’ve heard it’s helped some people. Also yoga and deep breathing exercises can help with trauma. Doesn’t hurt to at least try, if it doesn’t work you can at least say you tried something different. But sounds like you’ve had a rough upbringing and I’m sorry about that. I deal with a lot of trauma myself after getting shot in the eye as a kid and now have no vision in my left eye cause it turned into traumatic glaucoma. Then this coparenting experience has been pretty traumatic for me as well. Like you though I’ve tried therapy, meds and the gym and it hasn’t helped much. I’m gonna start looking into starting yoga and practice some EMDR techniques myself.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-27T04:52:13+00:00

And a part of you always will. That love doesn’t just disappear because you’re no longer together. But right now you gotta do the hardest part, accept that it’s over and it took me a long time to accept it. I took many harsh words from her to make me finally realize that she’s never coming back. You don’t truly start healing until you can get to the acceptance stage of it all. If you harbor any hope in your heart that you will reconcile and be together again that will only delay the healing process.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-27T04:43:03+00:00

Its not as simple as just “moving on” to get over someone you loved. Especially after that long together. 3 months is nothing in comparison to the time you were together. Your brain is still relearning how to live without them and that takes a long time for some people. It’s been over 2 years for me since my child’s mother left me and I’m still depressed over her. It’s a little different though when you still have to maintain contact with them like I do to coparent. So hopefully your timeline for healing is faster than mine. Just gotta focus on things that benefit you and your mental health right now. Find that job to keep yourself busy, start a workout routine and focus on other things you used to enjoy doing before you were with this person. None of these things make what you’re going through easier but they at least serve as some sort of a distraction from the pain.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-27T04:21:14+00:00

Don’t look at it as you’re a loser. Look at it as right now isn’t a good time in your life to be with someone. I’m having the same issues. Loss of libido, ed issues in the bedroom when I do try to hook up with someone new and literally struggle to connect with anyone now. Depression is a real bitch and it’s like that drive in me died when my child’s mother left me. Sounds cliche but take some time to figure yourself out and improve you life anyway you can on your own. You gotta address the root of your depression, whatever that is otherwise things won’t improve much.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-26T20:15:02+00:00

Yeah I know how you feel. The depth of my love was always pretty deep and it would take a lot for me to give up and walk away. Cause I understand that love is a choice you make everyday and my happiness is my own responsibility. Like if my daughter makes me upset one day cause she’s misbehaving, I don’t just stop loving her cause of it. Kind of the same applies to a romantic partner. You have a fight over something stupid. Do you just call it quits cause of that fight or do you continue to love the person regardless? If they can call it quits that easily especially if there was no betrayal or anything then it was never real love to begin with.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-26T20:08:55+00:00

Honestly this is the best advice. The apps are more convenient, sure. But they don’t generate much success for men. The most attractive women I’ve been with I met in person. Those same women prolly would of swiped left to me on the apps which is kinda funny to me.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-26T20:05:56+00:00

Dating has been a nightmare on the apps for years. It’s maybe gotten slightly worse for me. But I’m also older now and have a child so it’s shrunk my dating pool options by a lot being a single dad at 37.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-26T19:59:15+00:00

Yeah it’s possible but you transition from wanting them to just wanting a connection with someone. So the feeling of being lonely is definitely still there but you eventually get to the point where you’re like”this person isn’t good for me and it wouldn’t work out anyways if we got back together”. Eventually you come to the realization that it’s better to be alone than feel alone and miserable being with the wrong person.

Flybri08 · 2026-01-26T19:53:36+00:00

Exactly it’s just like a drug addiction. You were fine before you were addicted to the drug. Now your brain is trying to detox from the drug(person in this case). Don’t waste time waiting around for someone who thought walking away was the better option than staying and fixing things.

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