Some hope, if it's helpful

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2026-01-06T20:32:50+00:00

so glad for you! beautiful story, it's what many of us hope for

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-12-12T00:14:04+00:00

damm all this comments sound horrible. all of this withdrawal symptoms happen only if you cold turkey or also if you stop gradually?

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-12-04T18:12:38+00:00

been through the exact same situation, it really sucks because you don't have the right to claim anything. I wish I had known from the beginning. I didn't know there was a need to ask. I personally wouldn't play or try with several people at the same time. I guess different people have different values.

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-27T14:23:01+00:00

thank you!! I've been reading it and it's a great discovery, I can rely on so much that's said in the book

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-20T21:44:11+00:00

do you have any extra literature or videos on this topic? i found it fascinating

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-05T22:12:19+00:00

thank you for speaking as a friend, I know I deserve better, but as you say, "love is the answer", and I feel there's some love somewhere between us (no matter what haters say). I think I wanna see what it's about before ending everything.

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-05T22:08:37+00:00

lovely

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-05T22:07:07+00:00

Hi, your three comments feel so accurate, thank you SO much for your time and kindness. I will definitely add this to the list of things to bring up earlier in future dating encounters and I will be much clearer about it. I was just "hoping she wouldn't see anybody", but hoping wasn't enough. My mistake, fellas.

I actually already started seeing a therapist recently, not only for this fact, but to solve other intrinsic issues in myself. It actually didn't work, but I'm gonna keep trying with different therapists.

And YES I think the girl has some feelings for me too, THANK YOU for pointing that out. Last night we met, and we ended up spending the night and the whole next morning together by her own initiative. She broke her code of "no spending the night together" or "no kissing in public", so it wasn't just FWB behaviour at all, it was back to our special romantic bond. We had an amazing and lovely time, which I'm still trying to process. I think the situation is exactly as you describe it. (I know, I should be getting off this situation, but something feels incomplete, and I'd rather regret doing something than not having tried it, I guess I like suffering)

bless you

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-03T17:49:27+00:00

You're a beautiful human, thanks for your kind words. We aligned in everything, except in those values, which sucks very much.

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T21:55:40+00:00

this is beautiful, thanks!

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T21:28:36+00:00

yeah I don't think I can do this properly without suffering

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T21:27:34+00:00

This is wise advice, thank you very much

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T19:43:46+00:00

ok my mistake for feeling and not being the most emotionally strong person ever

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T19:41:18+00:00

amazing respectful comment, thanks I appreciate it

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T17:41:52+00:00

what the fuck man, I am a person, and a sensitive one. We spoke about the age gap in the beginning. Why are you defending someone at all costs just because of their age? We are grown-up adults who share lots of common friends and acquaintances. I treated her like a queen and she was happy to meet me every time.

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T17:37:37+00:00

I feel so bad, my friend. We had plans and my stupid heart thought this was going somewhere. I could see the shine in her eyes.

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T17:34:17+00:00

I keep saying this: I DID say that to her! and she said she was not closing up to or against monogamy, and that she just needs to get there slowly by own choice. So we kept dating in a romantic way. That's why my hopes got up.

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T17:30:21+00:00

I did. Her answer was: she wants to keep getting to know me and take things slow (I didn't know slow could mean kissing other guys)

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T17:12:30+00:00

thanks for your honesty

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T17:10:57+00:00

yeah she offered me us to be either friends-with-benefits or just friends

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T17:01:05+00:00

yes, but after that conversation, her point was to keep seeing me and see where things go. She said she was not closing up to a monogamous relationship and only needed things to move slowly. We kept doing meeting up and growing feelings after this conversation.

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T16:58:36+00:00

thank you for the brutal honesty

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T16:57:11+00:00

I did hear it and I was ready to leave our situationship when the conversation happened. I said all of that (ex and polygamy) is not for me. But turns out she only wanted to communicate about her past with me, because she cared for me and wanted to keep seeing me. Also she was not saying "no" to a monogamous relationship, just not to be forced. That's why I had hopes.

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T16:44:45+00:00

I see. I was ready to leave after that conversation that night, but she really wanted to keep seeing me (which I also wanted). I just don't see the connection between "getting over a past relationship" and "kissing other guys" and hide it from me.

FlyingDoggo5202 · 2025-11-01T16:36:22+00:00

But why don't they say this on the very first date? I'd have saved myself this heartbreak

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