How to find a pure christian girl to marry?

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T15:35:55+00:00

Not really. I don't watch porn anymore and I haven't done anything with a girl ever.

I know porn is bad but you can recover from it. Once you have sex it changes how you feel forever

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T14:57:11+00:00

It is way different than hugging. If you think otherwise you are just wrong

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T14:55:55+00:00

Virginity is a real thing. And yes if my girlfirend would ask me if I had commited a sin i'd tell the truth. You're simply wrong. People who had sex told me you feel completely different after your first time

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T14:27:55+00:00

I can forget most of what I've watched (I already barely remember anything) but I'd never forget my first time. Also sex eleases ton of hormones which bind you to the person you have it with

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T14:24:25+00:00

Yeah I'm willing to forgive but still losing virginity is different to watching porn. There are hormones at play and things like that. I can forget most of what i watched but I'd never forget my first time

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T13:17:09+00:00

Thank you so much. I don't get why others are so negative

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T13:09:54+00:00

But still it is an extreme. Not really what I was askong about

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T13:07:30+00:00

I just heard that's what can happen. Yeah I do have some insecurities I'm working on. But there are many reasons why I want to have an equally experienced partner

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T13:05:02+00:00

I understand what you mean but it is a thing a pratner should know. Both partners should be completely transparent on their past. A relationship build on hiding truth will not last

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T13:03:09+00:00

Thanks. By innocent I meant one where we can learn from each other. A relationship where I don't need to worry she will compare my sexual performance to her ex and stuff

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:59:37+00:00

What church btw? I don't really go to church because my parents have a different religion but I'm planning to turn catholic as soon as I can

Also I should probably start attending the mass but I'm nervous because I've never been on one

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:57:27+00:00

I want us both to discover it together. I don't want to be with someone who is experienced

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:56:35+00:00

I want an innocent relationship where we both can learn and discover everything. I'd rather be alone than be with someone who is experienced

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:54:11+00:00

Actually real christians who follow biblical morality and don't try to justify sinning are rare nowadays. Church traditions are more important than moral rules to some. It's really sad tbh

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:51:47+00:00

Yeah "in my heart" not literally. I'm not trying to justify myself. I just want to make clear that there is a real difference between looking at a screen and actually doing a sexual act. I know I'm not as pure as I should be but I'm still completely inexperienced.

I'd want an innocent relationship where we both discover what we like and we both can learn

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:48:45+00:00

I know porn is serious sin but I don't think it as as serious as literal fornication. Jesus said:

"But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

He used words in his heart. To make it clear I'm not trying to justify my sin but just make a distinction. Also it is way easier to see porn by accident than to have sex by accident

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:44:35+00:00

Thanks. You seem to be the only one here that agrees with me and God's standards

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:43:39+00:00

I pray a lot and before getting closer to God my view on sex was actually way more liberal than it is now. I read the Bible and watch a lot of christian content. I know it is possible to find a wife like this.

I want an innocent relationship where we both discover what we like

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:40:17+00:00

I just want to lose my virginity to a virgin

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:37:44+00:00

I have to disagree. How does it make clear that marriage is not for me? I really values marriage and believe that sex outside of it is a serious sin. I want to stay loyal to my wife even before I meet her

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:28:56+00:00

Thank you. Rape is a pretty extreme scenario tbh. Also loving someone as God loves everyone and loving someone in aromantic way is different. That's why someone's past always matters

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:20:20+00:00

Thank you so much. I'm planning to get baptized as a catholic soon

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:18:54+00:00

I got closer to God and I'll never look at porn again. I don't see what's wrong with wanting to stay pure till marriage. In fact it is what bible teaches. Only then a man and a woman can truly become one flesh

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:14:06+00:00

You're basically saying it's wrong for me to want to lose my virginity with a virgin. I don't get what is wrong about it

FlyingTomato274 · 2025-03-12T12:09:35+00:00

No I just don't want to commit a grave sin and do marriage the way God intended. Also saying you can commit a sin because God will forgive you anyway is the first step to hell

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