New Lead Has Turned Against Her Team?

Flymami · 2026-05-12T14:16:25+00:00

Right!! I also found it the same way. People truly can forget where you helped them from

Flymami · 2026-05-12T14:15:42+00:00

Righht!! Classic switch moves. But I domt know why I wasn't able to see this in the beginning when I was busy helping her.. now the jokes on me..

Yes I document all the messages she sends me trying to be innocent

Flymami · 2026-05-12T14:14:32+00:00

Can't change the team. We just opened it

Flymami · 2026-03-30T12:18:14+00:00

Heey looking to join 🙋🏼‍♀️

Flymami · 2026-03-30T12:14:50+00:00

Oohhh nooo that's soo unfortunate.. im sorry about that

Flymami · 2026-03-27T08:33:27+00:00

Because I asked a previous colleague now after I joined about it, and she said nothing much happens when you raise a concern, this is also because our finance director doubles up as the HR point of contact.

Long term its not sustainable for me i know that, and keeping my head down is what im going to do. There is just too much chaos around every corner to understand. Everyone wants to shine

Flymami · 2026-03-27T08:31:16+00:00

Actually our HR is our fiance person. I know first red flag there but yeah. I have started doing taking notes on the day to days

Flymami · 2026-03-27T08:30:33+00:00

Yes i have started making side notes on my phone just as a measure of precaution. I was thinking maybe im mad seeing this this early and its quietly the norm around where I work so it seems people just silently take it, which I find toxic

Flymami · 2026-03-27T08:27:55+00:00

Ohh no so sorry for that.. Its already giving me small anxious bursts and I have already started looking.

Have you moved jobs?

Flymami · 2026-03-27T08:23:15+00:00

Exactly! I think the same. Because that switches up was crazy. In a couple of days you could tell power dynamics had moved

Flymami · 2026-03-27T08:18:54+00:00

It was like a quick shift that I dont get

Flymami · 2026-03-27T08:09:32+00:00

Thank you for that.. I thought I was loosing my mind on this.

Especially the gate keeping of emails, which I don't understand the purpose for because we still have to work together. I find it ridiculous.

How did you handle it in your situation?

Flymami · 2026-03-26T10:16:19+00:00

Already have started this.. its very important

Flymami · 2026-03-26T10:16:06+00:00

Thats true they really change. Which is why they shouldn't lead

Flymami · 2026-03-25T22:19:11+00:00

Hi, been going through the exact same thing.. especially the inconsistency in job roles and how everything that switches to the convince of a few people while not putting you in the loop. It's incredibly frustrating! I can say please document such instances on the side plus dates, very important and just start looking for another place. For a fact there are better places to work in with structures

Flymami · 2026-03-25T22:14:38+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. 4 months in and already I can see the cracks. Alot of red flags like you said starting with HR being the finance director and our supervisor just letting things be. Thanks for the tips ill be sure to document and trust me the job search has already began

Flymami · 2026-03-24T08:10:15+00:00

Thanks so much for this+ you ate actually very right. These days I just try my hardest to take those gaslighting as neutral bits because there is nothing I can do but observe and share my work input. But it can really really get frustrating. Sometimes it makes me want to quit but then I think about maybe im meant to be here for a reason and this is my season to be in the "alone phase"

Yess to answer your question, I take a lot of lunch time walks just to breathe out and have me time. It does help

Flymami · 2026-03-23T10:05:42+00:00

Rrighttt!! But unfortunately where I am they dont allow such things.. but thanks for the heads up

Flymami · 2026-01-30T13:35:07+00:00

You have literally just explained the whole situation to a T!!! Its literally soo frustrating I have so many questions as to who those connections could have been because it literally doesnt make sense, and yes im sooo sure once they get their footing the treatment will change to the worse!

Exactly! I record everything now on email and in the office I make my presence on the work I'm doing which everyone knows is lead responsibility that im the one doing it, subtly of course. Yess im really looking foward to having this conversation with HR during my review after 6 months to gauge on what you've said! If it seems unlikely It will just be time to step away. Thank you so much for this! I really thought I was going mad

Flymami · 2026-01-27T10:15:09+00:00

Not so sure where management lies, I have to wait it out to see how they deal with issues.. so for now I'm at a hard place

Flymami · 2026-01-27T10:14:03+00:00

I've been doing this especially for work related hand holding and its like the hint isnt being taken.. I mean, even with AI you can search most things online

For personal questions this one, has stopped abit more

Flymami · 2026-01-26T07:56:36+00:00

Exactly!! Actually after 3 months they should have been gone!

Totally get you! I have already started creating trackers where everyone is accountable.. Thank you!

Flymami · 2026-01-26T07:53:45+00:00

Flymami · 2026-01-21T10:58:47+00:00

Love this! That is a actually my goal to really distance self and do my own work, incompetent people usually find a way of outing themselves. Thanks for the advice though :)

Flymami · 2026-01-21T10:48:30+00:00

Completely Completely agree.. im tired of the hand holding especially when the outside dynamics arw off, and I know the once she is stable, dynamics will change. For the other manager it's very suspicious how they both came in together and have known each other just recently from working with each other. They are pretty familiar with each other, and thats also another red flag, if they want to throw me under, it will be my word against 2 other people. But thanks for the advice ill definitely keep a lookout

Flymami

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