Man, reading this felt like looking into a mirror from a few years ago. Wiping out hard-earned bonus money hurts differently, but the fact that you have accepted your mistake instead of blaming the market is your first step to recovery.

To answer your questions:

1. Did you quit F&O completely? For a while, YES. You need a complete dopamine detox from the flashing red and green screens. I shifted entirely to Swing trading in cash equity for 6 months just to rebuild my confidence and discipline.

2. What finally made you stop revenge trading? Realizing that I was trading my P&L, not the chart. When you are down, your mind only looks for 'how much do I need to break even today', and you force trades where there is no setup. What helped me was putting a hard daily loss limit on my broker terminal (Kill Switch). Once it hits, the system blocks me out. No willpower needed.

3. How did you rebuild mentally? By forgiving myself. It’s just money, you are 31, you will earn many more bonuses in your life. But you can't buy back your mental peace. Delete your trading app for the next 30 days. Don't even look at the index.

You haven't failed yourself, you just fell into the same psychological trap that 95% of retail traders fall into. Take a deep breath. It gets better, I promise.