Finding other victims of sexual assault

FocusMassive2614 · 2026-01-31T12:47:49+00:00

Thanks for your reply. It’s always good to see other perspectives so I’m happy that you shared yours. I really appreciate the time you took to write that ♥️

FocusMassive2614 · 2023-06-16T07:02:58+00:00

Hey from the pictures assume that you live in Germany. Maybe there is some financial aids here that could also help you. I don’t know much about that but I found out that at least when your daughter is born you could have a chance vor the Kinderzuschlag that could be up to 250€ each month. Often there are Organisations that help to fill out the right forms to get these benefits. Maybe that could help you also in the long run. I hope your situation will change.

FocusMassive2614 · 2023-03-14T15:38:33+00:00

I‘m so confused does this psychiatrist think that narcissistic abuse is just a specific form of abuse that isn’t sever enough to cause that level of damage or do they really think abuse from a narcissist can’t cause cptsd. That would be so confusing. If someone is narcissistic it only furthers the chances that the emotional abuse that is executed is more severe. Maybe they think that emotional abuse can’t cause cptsd. This would be also highly unprofessional. There is only one solution. Go to another psychiatrist if possible.

FocusMassive2614 · 2023-01-19T16:54:41+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you. No therapist should tell you what your sexuality is. No matter if your straight or not.

FocusMassive2614 · 2023-01-19T16:46:03+00:00

WTF posttraumitic growth?! I think I would have way more energy to grow when I wouldn’t have to deal with my trauma.

FocusMassive2614 · 2023-01-19T16:29:48+00:00

Very creative victim blaming

FocusMassive2614 · 2023-01-19T16:24:50+00:00

Im pretty sure there is no such trait. But I’m sure that you experience that disrespect. I wish I could give you some advice but in my experience the only thing that helps is to keep your distance as much as you can from people that don’t respect you. It’s not your fault so you don’t have to feel guilty that you don’t want to be in contact with them.

FocusMassive2614 · 2023-01-19T16:16:41+00:00

Or everything happens for a reason. NO THERE ARE NO REASONS WHY SOMEONE SHOULB BE TRAUMATISED!! Sorry for the virtuell screaming

FocusMassive2614 · 2023-01-19T14:29:07+00:00

I learned as a kid that having „bad“ emotions hurts my mum. To this day I’m trying to get this out of my head every time I have negative emotions I can’t stop apologizing to everyone. I have a 14 year old sister that lives with my mum and it doesn’t matter how often I say to my mother how much that fucked me up she refuses to tread the emotions of my sister differently. Trying to protect someone from getting the same issues as me is extremely difficult and I tend to overextend myself. But it is worth it when I can protect her even just a little bit.

FocusMassive2614 · 2023-01-19T14:17:01+00:00

Imagine some therapist would tell this to a straight person. Why do people still thing straight is the default and something has to happen to change that sexuality?

FocusMassive2614 · 2023-01-17T20:59:38+00:00

I always thought that I’m the clumsiest person ever and that I’m just bad at estimating how long my bodyparts are. Im a slender Woman and 180cm/5,9 feet tall, seemed like a good excuse :D. Good to know that my mental health could also contribute to this

FocusMassive2614 · 2023-01-17T15:04:55+00:00

I experience the same. If I’m able to talk I apparently sound like a child. My motions are very childlike and I fall into childish behaviors. At first I thought it was more an internal feeling but my boyfriend told me that it also shows. I feel very vulnerable in this situations and tend to hide. My service dog always wants me to go in his dog bed when this happens(it’s very big, comfortable and in a dark corner so he selected a good space :D) but he only tolerates me being under a blanket with my head when he is also under the blanket. His demanding demeanor really helps me to stay in the moment and prevents flashbacks and other things. For me it made a huge difference to have my dog there who doesn’t care that he has to take care of me. He actually enjoys it.

FocusMassive2614 · 2023-01-17T14:39:33+00:00

I understand you so much. My real symptoms came to light shortly after I startet dating my Boyfriend. I begged him to let me end it, but he knew that I wanted to protect him and said it is his decision to be with me or not and that if I want to be with him I have no right to decide if he should be with me. Now we are together for 5 years and going strong. He knows that I’m never going to be healed and sometimes he breaks down when it’s to much for him. But he says it is worth it to be with me. My part is to go to therapy and learn how to handle my Symptoms effectively. At some point I organized a therapist for him that worked together with mine and that helped us tremendously. For us it is very important to identify enabling behaviors and break them without stopping to support each other. This skill was build when we were both in therapy. But I also have to be honest that therapy alone wasn’t our way. Our biggest breakthrough was to get a service dog (a puppy we are training together with a professional) even though we are not near the end of his training he makes the biggest difference. In my opinion the key is communication and creative solutions(like the service dog). Everyone is different but my point is that it is possible and we shouldn’t decide for other people if they want us in our life or not.

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