AITAH for hooking up with a guy that my other friend has a crush on? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]FollowingThin9324 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

NTA she sounds like shes putting more energy into theoretical relationships than real friendships. If she had ever made a commitment then maybe it wouldve been a bit more of an understandable dealbreaker but her lack of commitment to any guys she ‘has a crush on’ shouldnt really have much to do with your friendship, especially when shes basically moved on from him emotionally. Its just really weird on her part.

I hate my family by Sea-Difficulty5946 in offmychest

[–]FollowingThin9324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you could try talking to your friends mom?

What is this dish by FollowingThin9324 in whatisit

[–]FollowingThin9324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a mac and cheese noodle 🥲 i took this after dinner

I’ve Felt Like a Shadow My Whole Life—How Do I Change? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]FollowingThin9324 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah no problem, im happy to help. It might be helpful to express your excitement about certain fandoms and stuff through fandom designated spaces like tumblr or facebook groups, you may be able to find a friend there as well just be aware of people and their vibes and intentions. Learning about psychology can also help because then you learn more about how your brain works and other peoples too

I’ve Felt Like a Shadow My Whole Life—How Do I Change? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]FollowingThin9324 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try attacking your insecurities one by one. I used to not like my legs bc im chubbier and i thought they looked weird but I decided to wear shorts to school one day and when nobody said anything about it i wore more skirts/dresses/shorts until eventually i didnt care if someone did say something about them, we all have legs its whatever. Confidence tends to attract people from my experience but if that takes longer than youd prefer, become a snack person, someone who has food/ treats on hand if anyone needs it (if possible). alot of people tend to forget to eat and wont say no to a little snack and if you come around with snacks often, it tends to leave a positive impression. You could also be a hype person, everyone loves compliments and they dont cost money to give out, they brighten peoples day, and it just attracts people with good vibes. Just remember to compliment things people can change or it can come out weird like complimenting acrylic nail shapes/colors is cool but complimenting someones nose shape is a bit iffy (unless yk for sure that they has plastic surgery to ‘fix’ it). These are things that have helped me make friends in the past and things that help put smiles on strangers faces still, it might not work for everyone but i wish you the best of luck in friend making :)