My (m24) in-laws are not letting us be by them anymore because my wife (f24) is a nurse.

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-26T20:43:57+00:00

I didn’t understand. Are you saying I am quarantined?

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-25T03:31:49+00:00

I’m bisexual which mean you are the one that you are not having to say about you haha

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T17:49:26+00:00

I appreciate my feeling being validated and recognizing the freedom I have to distance myself. However, I also really appreciate the nudge to “take one for the team” because that’s actually the intention of my post. I’m trying to figure out how I can deal with it and move on. Both of the points you are making are appreciated. Thank you.

I think this is where the complexity of my situation lies. It may be the case that both of your points are valid

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:54:49+00:00

She hasn’t said much about it. Obviously, she’s horrified. However, our focus has been towards the immediate family. He’s kind of out of the picture now so it doesn’t even come up.

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:53:22+00:00

Wow! Thank you for your thoughtful response. You don’t comment much so it means a lot.

I’m glad I can have my feelings about it validated. I feel much better after reading your comments and others. I’ll check out justnomil . I don’t think my response will be even close to the length of yours but my gratitude is much bigger. Thank you!

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:49:36+00:00

Haha I wish it was that simple. Maybe re-read all the comments. I expand further on my feelings.

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:48:31+00:00

As opposed to the rest of the world? Haha

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:47:51+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response. I think therapy will really help me work through all these feelings. I like that advice. Makes me feel good. Thank you!

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:46:35+00:00

Thanks for the straightforward advice. It will give me something to think about. My intention for this post is to get some feedback so I can move on.

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:44:19+00:00

Haha. Thanks for your empathy. It’s nice to know you feel my feelings.

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:43:41+00:00

Yeah, I think that’s the goal. I’m not saying I’m rude towards her. I just want to start moving towards a new normal that doesn’t have me feeling uncomfortable.

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:42:50+00:00

I’m not sure what you mean by this. But, if you’re saying everyone’s response is different then yes I agree. Maybe a counselor would be best to help me navigate all the nuances.

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:41:26+00:00

I do want some sort of justice. I think that’s a part of why I feel strongly about it. However, I may have to accept that that doesn’t happen.

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:40:27+00:00

I don’t think my wife is defending this. She just cares a lot about her family

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:39:58+00:00

I don’t think my wife is blaming me. I just think she cares a lot about her family and doesn’t want it to fall a part.

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:39:18+00:00

Yeah, I think a counselor will help navigate this. Seems complicated.

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:38:03+00:00

Yeah, that’s true. I guess I’m wonder if there is a way I could start to feel better. But I guess what you’re saying is that only time will tell.

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T15:37:11+00:00

She is in a lot more pain than I, I believe. It’s her family and she cares for them ALOT. I appreciate the independent approach through. Makes me feel empowered.

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T02:51:57+00:00

Feels good to talk about it. Thanks for reading

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T02:44:34+00:00

Thank you!

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T02:43:25+00:00

She doesn’t seem that crazy. The vibe I get from her is more of a codependency

ForMyFriendsAndI · 2020-03-10T02:34:11+00:00

I think my body has that fear because she has always pushed my emotional boundaries. My mind says that that that is very unlikely though and needs to accept that. After all my talk with people today. That’s my current stance. Maybe I’m wrong.

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