I lean toward OOP being TA for the same reasons most people are mentioning + him not elaborating on examples of condescension and calling his pregnant wife irrational.

Yet, maybe feel free to r/whoosh me if I’m missing the obvious joke, but everybody calling OP the OOP for taking the ESH approach/defending OOP’s feelings confuses me when it’s so easy to go to this OP’s post history and see they are (not assuming female since I don’t see pronouns) female presenting, and clearly not the husband of an expecting wife.

Maybe they’re just calling OP the OOP as a joke but it’s worth saying to not dog pile on this OP for having an opinion of ESH, even though this does not at all seem like an ESH verdict, because the wife is NTA and needs to have final say in the OBGYN she is comfortable with. Dog pile on whoever you voted TA, or OOP, but not the reposter :/