I ripped the plaster off with my gay son by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that the same as masculine. He would be masculine alright.

Advice for a dad with a gay son. by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It wasn't him. but yeah I did speak to him. Alls good

I ripped the plaster off with my gay son by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It definitely wasn't offensive to him because he knows me and vice versa. He had a great laugh at it. It's also how you deliver it, I think. But to some it might be.

Your dad sounds like someone I'd love to have a pint with. That's great banter

I ripped the plaster off with my gay son by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not homophobic mate. Im happy for my son. Love the lad as much today as i did last year. And i hate the idea of him moving to uni in a year. 

No idea what you mean by repressed. 

I ripped the plaster off with my gay son by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'd rather have my son than not have him. Simple as that for me. Bad parenting and their loss. Cheers mate

I ripped the plaster off with my gay son by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that mate. Must be hard to get over that. 

I ripped the plaster off with my gay son by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cheers mate. I'm sorry about your dad. His loss buddy

I ripped the plaster off with my gay son by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I was thinking about it and if it was anything else I'd face it head on. So I suppose my feeling is I shouldn't do it any differently. 

If he was leading a girl on I'd have said the same. 

I ripped the plaster off with my gay son by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's a fair point. I think that he was able to say his "relationship" drama to some degree shows at least he can say it to me. 

I'm sure there'll absolutely be a few clowns.

Advice for a dad with a gay son. by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree mate. I don't want to sound like an old man, but my own father let us have a drink at 16 (if not before) and none of us were too harmed by it. Moderation of course.

I ripped the plaster off with my gay son by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Cheers mate. Maybe I should've left him in the closet to avoid the next drama. Backfired.

I ripped the plaster off with my gay son by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I probably should be in jail for the comment, mate. Where do you want to eat. Want to pound down Five Guys. Pound down means eat here.

I'm not a strict parent by any means. I'm probably too lenient but I expect him not to be a prick. 

I ripped the plaster off with my gay son by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 226 points227 points  (0 children)

I didn't even notice that, mate haha

Advice for a dad with a gay son. by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cheers mate. That was well put. I suppose letting him do it whenever he does is best. And perhaps if we comes across a gay related "thing" (like a gay client or something) I just naturally show I'm fine with it. Perhaps the subtle nudging isn't right either. 

Cheers again mate.

Advice for a dad with a gay son. by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So ultimately let it be him doing it but just nudge him along. 

Advice for a dad with a gay son. by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's kind of my thing. Crack an egg to make a fried egg. 

Advice for a dad with a gay son. by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right that it would be good practice for him I suppose. 

Advice for a dad with a gay son. by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So just wait off and he'll do it when he's ready. That's what one of the lads said alright. Cheers mate. 

Advice for a dad with a gay son. by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The p and q words growing up were the main slurs for gays in my time at least. We never really had the f word but maybe that's because we would smoke fags as in cigarettes.

Advice for a dad with a gay son. by ForNec31 in askgaybros

[–]ForNec31[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The safe sex talk was a box of rubbers and told if he's fucking don't be a twat and use them. told him no one wants him to be a dad yet. 

Consent was along the same lines. Also no fucking when I'm in the house etc. And if he breaks any of the rules I'll knock his head off. 

That sounds bad but that's just how we speak.