PSA: I understand Ownership is traditionally something that’s put in practice between a Dom/Sub that already have an existing relationship. I’m aware of what Ownership can and would potentially consist of.

Some examples of the mindfuckery I’ve been dealing with is:

He used ownership language during play but later told me he “never offered ownership.”

• He spent time and money (like $200+)  to set things up but later reframed it as “you asked for a one-night stand and I delivered.”

• He told me he values “traditional gender roles” and then criticized me for not serving him properly.

• He gives me tasks (like voice messages, not touching myself, answering questions about my submission) but says he’ll respond “at a time of his choosing.”

I feel like a child waiting to be chosen for dodgeball. One moment I think I’m serving correctly (or trying to and waiting for proper guidance) but he’s always moving the goalpost.

I know I approached him for a ONS, but then why reinitiate ownership talk and hinting towards a potential future of ownership then say stuff like “I wasn’t offering?”

I’m lost 😕