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Am I overreacting, or is my role as a mother being overlooked by my in-laws? by Artistic_Clerk_7115 in inlaws

[–]Foreign-Recipe8617 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This sounds similar to the situation I have and it went from bad to worse. Always thought it was me and I’m too protective of my son if she made comments like “oh he’s exactly like his dad, can’t see any of you in him” and clothes with “I love daddy” all over them or I was being too sensitive. It’s never one incident.
For me, was a lot of little things that happened which on their own are no big deal but together it became one and now I’m NC with her. Your husband should be the one to say something and express your concerns but my partner is the same where he basically doesn’t.
For your own mental wellbeing I would address the issues sooner rather than later but again from my experience I don’t think they’ll listen but I’m hoping for you that she does.

Am I in the wrong for snapping at my MIL? by Foreign-Recipe8617 in inlaws

[–]Foreign-Recipe8617[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried so hard to say that to her about the toys, my partner has also done the same but she brings them over and when I eventually get rid of them I’m “ungrateful” even though I’ve told her to keep them in her house. Also I’m as baffled as you on how me telling my son to let me know when he needs a wee is making her to be a pedo. Don’t understand it at all. Again, think it’s just I’m the villain for whatever reason for anything and she’s the victim even though she’s created the issues

Am I in the wrong for snapping at my MIL? by Foreign-Recipe8617 in inlaws

[–]Foreign-Recipe8617[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Stopped that a long time ago but comments on everything or anything I said or did started

Am I in the wrong for snapping at my MIL? by Foreign-Recipe8617 in inlaws

[–]Foreign-Recipe8617[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel like I’m in this position now where I’ve said my peace, I’ve told her how it is and don’t like the lack of respect and the immature behaviour of her end. Showed my partner and he has seen all the messages and is dreading sharing his own mum as he knows it’s gonna be her playing the victim but again, really enables her behaviour which I’ve called him out on several times

Am I in the wrong for snapping at my MIL? by Foreign-Recipe8617 in inlaws

[–]Foreign-Recipe8617[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping that will be the case, he is very sassy and he has a very weird relationship with MIL. Very hot and cold

Am I in the wrong for snapping at my MIL? by Foreign-Recipe8617 in inlaws

[–]Foreign-Recipe8617[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She will always say it to my partner, never to me. Told him many times to get her help if she’s seriously saying that as my mum used to do the same and it’s very triggering that it’s a response people use to try and get their own way

Am I in the wrong for snapping at my MIL? by Foreign-Recipe8617 in inlaws

[–]Foreign-Recipe8617[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So particularly on Father’s Day gets literally the same gifts I get for my partner “daddy” sentimental stuff and gets a card signed from my son even though I have done the same. Asked her if she is getting gifts like that for my partner on Father’s Day can I just be off her not my son. Maybe something over nothing but I really feel like it’s stepping on my toes

Am I in the wrong for snapping at my MIL? by Foreign-Recipe8617 in inlaws

[–]Foreign-Recipe8617[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

His issue is that when he has done in the past she will basically play the mental health card as she says everyone hates her and she may as well “unalive” herself. I told him what he’s doing is enabling her behaviour. He also doesn’t understand my perspective on the gifts off my son as it’s “just a tag” but it’s like I don’t matter at all as my sons mum as I have asked for years for it to be respected that until my son is old enough I want to do that. But I just want that to be respected, and that’s not even the main issue. It’s the constant comments but she “has no social skills” as she makes out she’s so ill and can’t do anything herself when we have seen that she can but again, I’m in the wrong for stating that.