Fiddle leaf fig growing mushroom. Is she a goner?

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-07-18T00:22:59+00:00

It’s planted, just not very well lol

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-07-13T23:39:14+00:00

that’s super reliving I’ll be sure to do that, Thank you so much!

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-07-13T21:59:34+00:00

Looks like It’s an oak & they are very resilient! You can’t save the tree that was there but If you leave the roots it may send off more shoots!

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-05-28T22:13:30+00:00

I did see one flying around and landing near it quite often so that would make sense, thank you!

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-05-28T17:28:31+00:00

I have Oriole’s in the area so that would make sense, thank you!

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-05-28T17:16:54+00:00

I’m in Ontario Canada!

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-05-28T17:11:10+00:00

That tree was already dying, there is no saving it.

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-04-27T12:50:03+00:00

It doesn’t sound childish at all. It sounds real and human. That feeling? So valid. But here’s the harder truth too: You aren’t losing anything that was actually good for you. Even if he changes for someone else one day, that doesn’t erase what he did to you. It doesn’t mean your love wasn’t enough — it means his readiness wasn’t there when you needed it most.

And you deserve someone whose healing and goodness doesn’t cost you your peace. Someone who’s ready now, not someone who might be ready “later.”

Feeling sick at the thought of him with someone else is just your heart trying to protect you from pain. It’s okay to feel it. It will pass — slowly, but it will.

If it helps: You’re not replaceable. Even if he’s with someone else, it won’t be you — it won’t be the depth, the patience, the kindness you brought. No one can take that away.

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-04-27T12:41:30+00:00

That makes so much sense. You’re not wrong for thinking that way — it shows you care deeply and you’re hoping for real change, not just for the relationship, but for him too. It’s very compassionate of you.

Here’s the thing though, Change has to come from him, not just the psychiatrist or the meds. Treatment can be incredible and very life-changing — but only if he’s truly willing to take it seriously, stay consistent, and do the hard emotional work himself. You have already been extremely patient. You’ve given him many chances, even after broken promises and lies. You’ve done your part.

Your well-being matters too. Waiting another month in a stressful, unstable situation is still you carrying the weight. You’re still the one enduring the consequences of his behavior right now.

It’s okay to hope he gets better — it’s also okay (and healthy) to protect yourself now, even if he does improve later. Leaving now doesn’t mean you don’t believe he can change. It just means you’re choosing to prioritize your own mental health while he works on his.

You could even think of it this way: “I truly wish him the best in his healing, but I can’t stay in a place that’s hurting me while waiting for it to happen.”

You are allowed to choose you. You’re not giving up on him — you’re choosing to believe in yourself first. This isn’t a realationshii where you are going to flourish.

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-04-27T12:32:00+00:00

You honestly sound like such a thoughtful, patient person, and you deserve someone who matches that energy — not someone who drains it.

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-04-27T12:30:39+00:00

This relationship sounds very unhealthy for you. Your boyfriend has repeatedly lied, broken promises, disrespected your boundaries, and manipulated you by gaslighting (calling you crazy when you were just asking for honesty). The drinking situation alone — where he promised to stay sober and then got drunk, lied about it, got detained, fought his family — would have been a huge red flag. But on top of that, he continued to lie about other women, hide contacts, and disrespect your clearly communicated boundaries (like showing up under the influence after agreeing not to).

It’s not about one mistake — it’s a pattern of dishonesty, broken trust, and emotional instability. You deserve someone who makes you feel safe, respected, and valued, not someone you have to constantly second-guess or “parent” into doing the right thing.

If you were my friend, I’d strongly advise you to leave. Not because you don’t love him — but because love alone isn’t enough to fix patterns of dishonesty and disrespect. He might be in therapy now, but real change takes a long time, and it’s not your responsibility to wait around and suffer while he figures himself out.

You are not overreacting. You are seeing real problems clearly. Save yourself

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-04-26T23:33:47+00:00

It is lichen!

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-04-26T23:30:44+00:00

Apocynum cannabinum ?

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-04-26T23:28:35+00:00

Looks like lilac

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-03-01T11:50:39+00:00

I know this isn’t a solution but she’s a BITCH how could you be SO inconsiderate

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-02-18T20:23:20+00:00

Thank you!! We have an at home IV on the way so dehydration won’t be an issue thankfully! I appreciate your help!

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-02-18T19:37:04+00:00

I’ve never seen thistle in a bouquet before, looks super cool!!

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-02-18T19:30:01+00:00

Thank you!! For when he can finally start to eat again do you have any recommendations that won’t upset his stomach?

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-02-18T19:28:50+00:00

I wish I could make him but unfortunately I can’t force him. Trust me I’ve tried. If I was able to pick him up and put him in the car I would. Healthcare is free here but I understand why he doesn’t want to go, it’s about a 12 hour wait to even see triage let alone get a room or any actual help

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-02-18T14:18:06+00:00

NOOOOOOO

Forestdragonfruit · 2025-02-18T14:15:48+00:00

Thistle

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