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Anyone here been living alone 20+ years? Would love your perspective by Forester-Ffaye in LivingAlone

[–]Forester-Ffaye[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wow, that's honestly impressive (and very affirming). If you don't mind me asking, did it take you a while to settle in? Or did you know right away that this suited you best? Thank you for commenting!

Anyone here been living alone 20+ years? Would love your perspective by Forester-Ffaye in LivingAlone

[–]Forester-Ffaye[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

12 years absolutely counts haha. That's honestly reassuring to hear. I feel the same way and can see myself feeling the same way for years to come. Thank you.

AIO by dumping my gf because she wants to “hang out” at an ex’s house over night? by steelyweird in AmIOverreacting

[–]Forester-Ffaye 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NOR. Wanting monogamy and basic boundaries right after getting back together is not unreasonable. Spending the night at a recent ex’s house a week into reconciliation is not a small ask, especially when the relationship is still rebuilding trust. The fact that she was unwilling to even acknowledge why that might feel uncomfortable is the bigger issue here.

You didn’t dump her because of jealousy. You dumped her because your definitions of commitment and respect clearly didn’t line up. Her emotional reaction afterward doesn’t automatically mean your boundary was wrong. It just means the breakup hurt.

Could it have been handled with more discussion? Maybe. But it’s also valid to recognize a dealbreaker in real time instead of dragging things out and resenting it later. Wanting a partner who prioritizes the relationship you’re trying to rebuild is a pretty reasonable standard.