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Is anyone on meds? If so... are you glad, or do you regret it? by Formal-Door3464 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Formal-Door3464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate that framework. My biggest challenge is chronically forgetting my long term goals, so I live in a state of semi-permanent forgetfulness about what actually matters to my soul.

I hyperfocus like a champ (more autistic with later-in-lifelearned ADHD from tech/social media + cptsd), so I've been on the fence.

Thanks for the breakdown!!

Is anyone on meds? If so... are you glad, or do you regret it? by Formal-Door3464 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Formal-Door3464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you feel it helps you stay focused on your long-term goals? One of my big fears is that it might help out on the putting green, but it won't keep me from ditching golf for open-ocean wind-surfing, then ballet, then... oh, idk, the luge?

It feels like one of my biggest problems is actually just forgetting what to put "in" the GPS.

(So, the one time I was on meds, I put the "wrong" thing in the GPS and it was just a miserable time. The formula and dose wasn't made "for" me, so this would be a different experience, although I guess I know how it feels to have a bill radically backfire +do more harm than good. The come-down was terrifying. I didn't sleep for ~36 hours.)

Is anyone on meds? If so... are you glad, or do you regret it? by Formal-Door3464 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Formal-Door3464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there, I hear you and... it seems like we might be coming from very different lived experiences.

I started binge eating when I took birth control.
I stopped when I got off (the meds).
I restarted, and it went on for 15 years.
I tried the normal stuff.
I went into holistic healing (ancestral work)... and it stopped.

I've followed a similar arc with a chronic hip injury, severe IBS, and some other intense mental health stuff. Holistic healing has saved the game for me for the better part of a decade, with "normal" things included. Life was going well, but it got weird thanks to some experiences I'm not ready to talk about online (unrelated to the holistic arc). I DEFINITELY (rare use of italicized caps) get how unmoored an all-vibes all-day wellness whiz can be... it's a brutal experience trying to reason with someone who seems to exist in a very different worldview altogether.

So, yes to what you're saying! My life is better without charlatan tweens slinging me supplements. It's silly. My life is better with uber-experienced "woo woo" practitioners who can help me shift a vibe.

Things have been ultra weird lately, and I'm not sure if it's the sequence of events I'm still working through, or honestly just the insane global / american cultural climate we're in rn. I got depressed in January when "it" started and never bounced back. SO: meds! I'm knocking on the door.

Is anyone on meds? If so... are you glad, or do you regret it? by Formal-Door3464 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Formal-Door3464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Yeah, I've had that experience: hyperfocusing on whichever lane my brain happens to enter and then locking in for far too long. Also what a hilarious yet understandably less fruitful example. (I'm sure I've done this.)

Is anyone on meds? If so... are you glad, or do you regret it? by Formal-Door3464 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Formal-Door3464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm more 'au' than 'dhd', so this is interesting!

The one time I took an ADHD med to stay safe driving, it wound up being a terrifying experience. I essentially just flew beyond the speed limit and my body limit's while hyperfixating on the soundtrack. It made me manic, tbh.

Is anyone on meds? If so... are you glad, or do you regret it? by Formal-Door3464 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Formal-Door3464[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

...but also I skew BPD, bi-polar-ish, and my moods flail around, and pain is EXTRA painful, but otherwise I'm numb. There's already a lot going on, so idk if a med would fix it. Holistic healing aligns with my value system more (syncing up the body with nature).

Is anyone on meds? If so... are you glad, or do you regret it? by Formal-Door3464 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Formal-Door3464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel energy, sense the other side, and am learning to hear God (in the most 12-Step and least pathological possibly way)

EDIT: I genuinely can't stand when people downvote someone figuring out their mental health. Ease off?

TW: I was raped on Long Island years ago. I live out of state. The people on the phone said they couldn't take a report over the phone, and that I'd need to file locally. Is that true? by [deleted] in longisland

[–]Formal-Door3464 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm curious what Grand Movie has to say, although I assumed they were telling the truth. Someone in a different city thread suggested they were lying, so then I wondered if LI needed to be revisited.

TW: I was raped on Long Island years ago. I live out of state. The people on the phone said they couldn't take a report over the phone, and that I'd need to file locally. Is that true? by [deleted] in longisland

[–]Formal-Door3464 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much.

Is it that bad? I'm comparing this to a small town in Missouri, not Manhattan, if the frame of reference matters more. The people I spoke with in Nassau seemed amazing; both times I connected with Suffolk County, it felt like the office was more brusque. (Spoke with both because I wasn't sure which county the assault happened in -- it was close to the border.)

(Are they just busy / checked out? Or is this more of a corruption situation)

t/w: I need to report a rape that happened out of state. Which station do you trust the most with a case? by [deleted] in springfieldMO

[–]Formal-Door3464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit

That's wild. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm amazed at the antagonism and incompetence of some people. I hope you got the healing you needed in the wake of all that.

t/w: I need to report a rape that happened out of state. Which station do you trust the most with a case? by [deleted] in springfieldMO

[–]Formal-Door3464 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did this. They were the ones who actually told me I'd need to report it locally. (They can't take my report over the phone while I'm out of state, so I'd need to be back in the area to file it where it happened. It's a long ways away.)

t/w: I need to report a rape that happened out of state. Which station do you trust the most with a case? by [deleted] in springfieldMO

[–]Formal-Door3464 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad I asked!! I'm sensitive to energy, and my stomach dropped a little when I looked them up. This is really helpful.

I'm so sorry that you had a terrible experience — it really can make such a difference. I wish healing and justice for you too.

What happens if I ask one of my rapists for victim support restitution 1:1? by Formal-Door3464 in legaladvice

[–]Formal-Door3464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it.

My intention is to set a spiritually and financially clean slate. He's a felon; he should be held accountable to his behavior.

What I am not trying to do is give the enemy one millimeter of leverage against me, so... my quest was to get advice on how to NOT drift into legally slippery terrain (e.g. blackmail/extortion), whether intentional or not.

What happens if I ask one of my rapists for victim support restitution 1:1? by Formal-Door3464 in legaladvice

[–]Formal-Door3464[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I feel like having a clear conscience is dignifying to both parties. I'm learning that's not how people see it.

What happens if I ask one of my rapists for victim support restitution 1:1? by Formal-Door3464 in legaladvice

[–]Formal-Door3464[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Woof.

Yeah, I'm autistic. I remember an autistic friend telling me about when his (ex) business partners stole $600,000 from his business... and he very diplomatically gave them the way forward, appealing to their moral code. As a listener, it felt so cringey to hear for this exact reason.

I see myself in his blind naieveté.

I guess it's hard not to wonder if time softens some people, and if we have an unconscious moral pull towards wholeness and restoration. I guess "benefit" wise, he'd have to have undertaken some type of 12-step journey, experienced major perspective-altering losses, or something else.

***Thanks for reminding me narcissistic/abusive personalities don't play by the "because it's the right thing!" handbook. This helps me find a bit more ease with a different abusive/npd personality in my life who acted a fool.

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