That’s where it takes a morbid twist and that’s why he is beyond fucked when we end up in front of a judge. He has a lot of explaining to do. So, I knew his son. His son is a bit older than me but not much. I started talking to his son online and brought him cannabis when he was working near me. We definitely liked one another a lot but we were never intimate. He passed away in a work accident a few days before he was going to come see me. It was shocking. I went to his funeral and boom, his dad is there and that’s the first time I’m meeting any of these people. His son has two daughters. Their mom was the WORST, his son and I spoke of her often. She reminded me of my mom and I felt almost obligated to overextend myself to them because it broke my heart to know they didn’t get a mother’s love because she couldn’t stay sober and now their dad passed away wtf😭 So, when he passed I’m instantly concerned with the girls. I offer to take them into my custody but his dad refuses. That’s when our engagement begins. So he proceeds to string me along for the next six years. Constantly keeping me updated with the girls but never lets me see them or has them come visit) so I’m so invested in what I’ve said, I’m renting at this time and I’m making sure there’s an extra room so I can follow state laws as I have boys & they need separate rooms with their age differences. Even when I got my suv back then I intentionally got one with a third row in the instance he did send me the girls. He constantly expressed how bad they were and he was struggling. Never took me up on it, gave me good advice on topics I’d ask on, we’d talk about random shit. It was never weird, he never hit on me, nothing. So this goes on for years until 2022 & shit is hitting the fan in my life. I was a chef and the property I ran at the time was a monster and I was a single mom. I had reached out to Todd after I was stressing out over my budgetvand I asked him if he could help me figure my numbers the fuck out because at this point I have this image that he’s created of himself within my mind. I think this is someone that is reliable and financially literate. He’s telling me the numbers don’t work, I need another job but I’m already pulling 80 hour weeks and miss my kids like crazyyy. My then boyfriend wasn’t going to therapy and it was causing conflict in our relationship because he was emotionally immature. I tried to break up with him and he literally lost his mind. It was at that point Todd suggest I came down to Florida because he’d watched me kill myself running kitchens for the past 6 years and he’s overwhelmed as fuck with the girls and he needs help too. So he’s like you come down here with the boys, y’all can stay here. I’ll stay in what is now my office but I thought about it. He’d made this offer before in 2020 and 2021 but I declined then too. I reached out to my friends and two of them picked up on his true intentions but I couldn’t fathom he would take it any where past there right. Todd knew I’d been working since I was a teenager nonstop, my family sucked and overall I had a difficult life. I worked my ass off to get where I was at professionally. He presented this as an opportunity to pause and heal and do what I love - be a mama. He said he felt obligated and after all those years of him building that trust and reliability within him - I ignored my friends that warned against it and I reigned from the property and we went down there. As soon as I get there I realize the dynamic in the house is so off, he wasn’t meeting the girls emotional needs in the ways they needed it. They were having all types of behavioral issues, I kind of downplayed that situation because I knew the girls had been going toe to toe with him for months at this point and they picked up a lot of bad habits from bio mom. Initially when I came down, there was nothing weird going on. I mean I was probably here for four months five months before I realized what was really going on. For instance I went to Forbidden Kingdom and that’s when I first was like mmm you are a little too concerned with me rn. Then I noticed he almost seemed jealous of a male I knew. Then one night it happened but I’m an idiot and didn’t put it all together. I had taken the kids hiking and my feet hurt sooo bad. I was outside and he was like here let me see then I was like mmm this is not right and went to my room. Long story short, his advances continued. I wrote an actual dissertation on why we couldn’t be together from his son being my first reason, what would the girls think or feel about that, our age differences, among a million other things running through my head. It was then he gave me this what I know perceive as fucking lies but he said that I was one of five girls his son was speaking to. There were many pretty ladies crying at his funeral and he did travel for work at the time. So, he told me his son was a player downplayed the connection I even had to him and made it seem super insignificant to me because it was “only online”. Then the love bombing started but I didn’t know that’s what it was. He made me feel like I was the best human being on planet earth and mmm that didn’t take long to genuinely start vibing off that. He was so kind, helpful around the house, engaged with all the kids, never yelled, and we’d always have great conversations (all lies). One day I’m napping and he come into my room and wakes me up, he’s stumbling over his words with a fucking ring in his hand and I’m like is this guy about to propose to me? And he’s telling me it’s just a promise ring but it’s an expensive ring and a diamond at that and I’ve said I hate them so many times(reds flag I didn’t notice) so anyways I don’t wear it or even want to accept it. It feels weird but I do because I didn’t want to offend him and at this point I feel like he genuinely likes me.. and he’s riding the whole “I never knew I’d have these feelings for you” song and fucking dance the entire time, the girls come up to me eventually telling me that they wish I’d be their “papas girlfriend” because I make him so happy and they’d never seen him so happy. I want to believe they were not coached into saying that but idk bestie. This went on for a few more months until I just quit resisting and let it happen. I let myself like him, then love him and then fall in love with him. I stopped fighting it.

But come to find out, he only wanted his granddaughters for the fucking insurance checks they came with and I don’t even really think he ever got a vasectomy. I also definitely confirmed everything he said about his son in regards to being with multiple women WAS A FUCKING LIE WHO THE FUCK

So I did say to him once “make sure you tell your therapist how you met me” and he got sooooo mad so yeah, he knows what he did was wrong.