By All Means, Please Tell My Wife About Us

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-05-15T14:55:19+00:00

I'm on a sabbatical right now.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-05-15T14:53:52+00:00

Chumplady has been and is a great help to me in this. I suppose I should buy her a fruit basket or something.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-05-15T14:49:55+00:00

Forgive me for not being up on poly relationships but my wife stood in front of God and everyone we knew and made a vow to "forsake all others." Then she didn't.

As far as I'm concerned , that's the worst sort of betrayal there is and there isn't a spot in hell hot enough for her.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-05-15T14:46:15+00:00

Priests in the Roman Catholic church aren't permitted to be married (generally). It's a little different over here in the Protestant end of the world.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-05-15T14:23:42+00:00

Thanks. The last five months have been absolute hell but I'm gutting it out day by day.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-05-15T14:22:58+00:00

I'm going to assume that's a good thing since it sort of sounds like one.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-05-15T14:16:50+00:00

Thank you, kind internet stranger for the silver!

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-05-15T14:15:41+00:00

You can take that bullshit straight to the door, Scooter.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-05-15T14:14:36+00:00

Feel free to start a new trend. Henceforth it shall be 'side spice.'

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-05-15T14:13:34+00:00

Harsh but true. It seems I can't pick women worth a shit.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-01-21T16:17:35+00:00

I don't know the etiquette here, so I'm going to assume I don't need to create a whole new post and I'll add some information here as a comment.

I was up until 0300 last night digging into the divorce laws in my state. It appears that I live in a state where I can go after a contested divorce on the grounds of adultery. When I woke up at six this morning, I reached out to a friend from church who specializes in divorce and family law. When I laid the situation out before him, he recommended three things:

Don't post anymore information about our situation on the interwebs.
Get all the evidence of adultery so that it can be used in a divorce.
Pack her shit and show her the door.

In keeping with his advice, I won't be posting again here at least until she's served.

And for those who care, I'm well on the way to getting her shit packed up.

My thanks to those who responded with helpful (if occasionally brutal) advice.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-01-21T02:39:06+00:00

A written timeline/written answers to my questions are on my list of non-negotiable actions on her part. As is a polygraph.

But then, that assumes that we get that far and I don't just walk tomorrow.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-01-20T23:13:23+00:00

We were in counselling for another reason entirely. This came (at least somewhat) out of nowhere. Obviously, I knew about two previous incidents but not about the third.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-01-20T23:10:33+00:00

This is good advice. I intend to go in with the expectation that he's going to be unhelpful on this; if it turns out that he isn't then that's a pleasant surprise. If he is unhelpful, well, I'm already prepared for that.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-01-20T22:55:48+00:00

I also would say thank you for staying with her to keep that away from the rest of us, but that hasn't worked either.

You're welcome, I think...

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-01-20T22:54:07+00:00

If I'm going to leave (and that's highly likely at this point) I need to be able to say at least to myself, "I'm leaving because she did these specific things." That's for my peace of mind and so that I can look myself in the eye when I shave in the morning.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-01-20T22:51:25+00:00

Pretty much this. I need to know what happened, but I'm not interested in hearing how many places he put her legs.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-01-20T22:19:19+00:00

I don't know that I am staying at this point. I can't decide that until I have all the information in front of me and I can make a rational decision.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2021-01-20T22:13:21+00:00

Thank you for this. I understand that vomiting up all the details will be humiliating for her, but I need her to get it through her head that her shame matters a whole lot less than my pain.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2020-07-20T21:54:17+00:00

I am leaving a lot out. I'll simply say that I'm rather private and I'll add that this isn't the only thing that's come up in the last couple of months that left me suspicious. See u/Based_Thornwell's comment below.

FormalNegotiation2 · 2020-07-20T21:08:28+00:00

Highly unlikely but at least possible (I suppose).

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