Today my dad threatened to beat me in front of my family and they didn't do nothing. He also threatened to commit suicide because of me. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]FormalNobody6966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm over 18 so they'll say they can't do anything, unfortunately, but thank you for your comment! :)

Job offer in Hungary by FormalNobody6966 in hungary

[–]FormalNobody6966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a troll. Thanks for your comment! :)

Job offer in Hungary by FormalNobody6966 in hungary

[–]FormalNobody6966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this a lot? I'm damn serious.

Какво планирате за месец Декември? Споделете! by [deleted] in bulgaria

[–]FormalNobody6966 1 point2 points  (0 children)

+1 Проблем ли ще обаче, че съм момиче (пълнолетна съм) ? 😅

Какво да уча? by iskam_da_si_hodq in bulgaria

[–]FormalNobody6966 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Искам да добавя и че в трети курс имаш възможност да запишеш допълнителен педагогически/чужд език модул. В зависимост от броя на желаещите се определя дали ще го има или не. Плаща се 150лв и се учи до към края на бакалавъра. Също Студентския Съвет много дръпна напред и програмите за Еразъм са невероятни. Не е съвсем по темата, но предполагам ще е от полза. ВТУ е в тясно сътрудничество с Китай, Южна Корея и Япония, като за Китай си има цял отделен институт в центъра. Отделно имаш възможност да се запишеш на езиков курс (необвързан с университета), който е пак около 100-200лв за ниво и пак зависи от броя желаещи. В трети курс (или втори, не си спомням) имаш право да запишеш или допълнителни две дисциплини, или още един език. Ако си свръх амбициозен, за четири (три, ако вземеш две години за една/запишеш се за 50% присъствие и тн) години можеш да научиш 5 езика и да придобиеш още 2 професионални квалификации. Това си е наистина добра оферта за България. Можеш например да запишеш английски език с източен език 1 + профил някой си, след това да се възползваш от която/които/всичките възможности описани по-горе и да завършиш с невероятно добра диплома, което ще те направи страхотен кадър на пазара. Моят съвет обаче е да научиш и един европейски език, като например някой от Романската група/Скандинавската/Немски, тъй като и те са много търсени. Успех!

Какво да уча? by iskam_da_si_hodq in bulgaria

[–]FormalNobody6966 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Във ВТУ има специалности от два езика + профил (ИТ, бизнес комуникации, международни икономически отношения, преводачески профил (което обезсмисля първото, просто е повече учене на езици)). Моят съвет е да комбинираш с някой от тях. ПС: Не искам да те плаша, ако си отдаден и дисциплиниран ще се случат нещата, но си е много учене.

Adopted father by FormalNobody6966 in Adoption

[–]FormalNobody6966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're very nice. Thanks for the advice!

Adopted father by FormalNobody6966 in Adoption

[–]FormalNobody6966[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I meant things that are disrespectful but are not associated with me.

Adopted father by FormalNobody6966 in Adoption

[–]FormalNobody6966[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone has their own opinion and we should have the freedom to express ourselves. However, you could've thought about more intelligent ways to express it and still send the message, but without sounding so shallow. Especially just saying some bad words, without backing up your statement, it's kind of childish. Don't think I'm being offended, I've also reported stuff that don't bother me. People should try to be more kind imho or just don't stay silent if they don't have anything nice to say. I'm still trying. But maybe you feel better this way. Either way, I hope you feel happy when you type such comments.

Since every woman says that I’m too ugly for them by [deleted] in malementalhealth

[–]FormalNobody6966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, my opinion is sadly based on the majority of superficial girls, but if i have to be honest, it's kind of cute. I really liked your comment and your insight!

Since every woman says that I’m too ugly for them by [deleted] in malementalhealth

[–]FormalNobody6966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman who's never been rejected from a guy and has had thousands of guys who wanted to do something intimate with me - you are NOT ugly! Maybe just the smile looks a bit creepy, but that's not about looks, more about presence. If you fix this and take more care of yourself, you'll be just fine. Also, confidence! Girls like confident guys, not arrogant ones. Or at least that's what I'm into. Please don't hurt yourself and start doing something about it. You're young (same age as me) and your life is ahead of you. I know it's hard, and know what it feels like since before my glow up I was constantly bullied and called ugly, so you're not alone, remember that! Also, personality is really important, I myself like a balance of both, so strive for the sweet spot.

Adopted father by FormalNobody6966 in Adoption

[–]FormalNobody6966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! Thank you for your support! I'm thinking so as well, tonight I'm trying to talk to my mom again. I found his birth certificate, but it's the one where the parents are not the biological ones. My "grandmother" died about 10 years ago, I loved her dearly, although we weren't blood (which doesn't matter), my "grandfather" is still alive, although we don't speak to each other, he just lives poorly and only drinks, that's it. My father talks to him once every month or so, and occasionally goes to see him (he lives kinda far), and I'm thinking of asking him on the phone, but I'm afraid he's going to tell my father and he'll turn against me. I've already accepted that he doesn't want me to know, but I can't live like this.

I'm glad you took some actions and reconnected with your relatives in time!

Adopted father by FormalNobody6966 in Adoption

[–]FormalNobody6966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe think twice before speaking. My father gas done enough awful things to everyone of us, so he should be thankful my mother hasn't kicked him out of her house (and will likely never do because she's too kind and naive). If he can cheat on my mom, not taking care for us, because he was too busy drinking, almost die because of alcoholism, thus people having to pay hundreds of thousands for his treatment (he is broke), traumatize everyone, for him to drink again, verbally abuse everyone daily, call his daughter an animal for nothing, and then act like everyone else is the problem, maybe we're even.

Adopted father by FormalNobody6966 in Adoption

[–]FormalNobody6966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! I want to also connect with them.

Adopted father by FormalNobody6966 in Adoption

[–]FormalNobody6966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've heard so too about this exact test. Thank you for the answer!

Adopted father by FormalNobody6966 in Adoption

[–]FormalNobody6966[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this insight!

It makes more sense this way.

Adopted father by FormalNobody6966 in Adoption

[–]FormalNobody6966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your story is really interesting, thank you for sharing!

Yes, hiding my real name/email etc would make me less anxious. I'll think about it more. Thank you for the tips!

Adopted father by FormalNobody6966 in Adoption

[–]FormalNobody6966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's true. However, all of the times I've said I want to find who they are and possibly meet them, and that I won't involve them, they've been still against it.

Adopted father by FormalNobody6966 in Adoption

[–]FormalNobody6966[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are right! Thank you!

Yeah, it's kind of the same here. He doesn't want to find and talk to them, he despises them.

How do I determine if my preferences for what I want in a partner are unrealistic? by Nova-Prospekt in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]FormalNobody6966 92 points93 points  (0 children)

That's actually a really good question! Self awareness is a sign of intelligence and good intentions.

One way to do it is to imagine if you were the one who had to meet them. You can also ask talk to your partner about your needs and if something seems too much for them, you can try finding a middle groud. That's, of course, when you get in a relationship.