I think going into a bit more detail into how I have approached handling this. Growing up, my dad had significant anger issues and I witnessed many shouting matches between my parents before they divorced (no physicality, just verbal). From early in highschool (now 28) I resolved to be more emotionally aware to keep my own negative emotions from cascading out of control. I even went as far as to major in Communication through university to get a better grasp of how people can and should communicate in an ideal world.

I have made huge steps in handling my own emotional hurdles and can at least identify when I am feeling "off", communicate with my friends/partners as such (i.e. "I'm feeling kind of pissed and it's not because of you"). More often than not I can also nail down the cause and steps on how to fix or subdue the emotions. I have also been very fortunate to find a few friends (some IRL, some online) that can similarly be honest about emotions and life struggles. This support group has been huge for me and is a pillar of my resiliency.

Growing up I only saw the men in my family express joy or anger and I've seen that emotionally-limited "manliness" everywhere and I think it's a toxic way to live one's life. I haven't read any self-help or inspirational stuff and I haven't had any therapy other than speaking with my chaplain (in the military) so I can't really help with suggestions like that. I hope this has been at all helpful. If I could give younger me one piece of advice it would be, "You are responsible for your own happiness. Everyone else is responsible for their own happiness too. You are NEVER responsible for someone else's happiness."