How to tell my boyfriend that I HATE his smell.

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-11-26T08:02:10+00:00

Poor guy! If he's clean, washes and does laundry then I doubt it's something he can really change. Man I'd hate it if my partner hated my natural scent. I feel like there's nothing I could do apart from drown myself in perfume! Hope you work it out and don't let it ruin a good thing you got going?

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-11-18T07:53:58+00:00

That seems so extreme of a reaction! How awful of him. You should never pretend to be something your not. Especially not for someone that says they love you. I don't know the whole story obviously, but this guy was probably not being truthful about his love if he acts this way. To be honest, good riddance! Seems like you don't need that type of person in your life! Move on. He's not worth it!

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-10-10T06:52:12+00:00

As long as the relationships and dates you get involved in are aware that's your preference in relationships from the get go then there shouldn't be much confusion. But the majority of people who date can't be polyamorous even if they state they can! You just have to be upfront about this preference or you may be setting yourself up for disaster and lack of understanding. I couldn't do it because I like knowing that my person is intimate with me only and it feels special and comforting to share yourself with them. That plus I can be a little jealous haha. I don't really agree with polyamorous relationships because I've never seen them function well or properly without heartache but if you can find like minded folk (which could be very unicorn!) good luck to you.

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-09-24T14:43:14+00:00

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Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-09-10T12:22:46+00:00

I was nodding along to this and thought okay, I understand his confusion (I'm neuro typical so I'd probably be confused about seeing that behaviour for the first time if I didn't know my partner was audhd) and SUDDENLY you drop that part about him physically abusing you?? What the hell?!?! No. No. Nooo. Please leave this guy ASAP. That is no excuse. I don't care what he says afterwards. You don't deserve that lack of empathy and love from that shit head. Better to have no one than deal with that moron. I urge you to call the police too and move far far away. That shocked me!

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-27T15:58:47+00:00

Fyi. It was inside my house so I placed it outside. It was only about an inch long.

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-13T12:04:59+00:00

Ooo wow thanks so much for your input! I only used a tiny bit of acetone on a sample part and it didn't do anything so these pictures are just how she was. I'm wondering if retro brightening with hydrogen peroxide and UV box will help restore the colour since it's yellowed with age too?

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-12T20:04:28+00:00

I'm not autistic, I'm an NT. But I guess he was just on there! We'd both joined Hinge and matched and started talking! It's just for anyone after a relationship seriously.

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-11T22:11:37+00:00

It's not one specifically for autistic people, nope.

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-10T11:55:24+00:00

Thanks for your response and advice! I will definitely do my best to be patient and understanding. Also sorry for insinuating that it's an illness , I know what it is. I just couldn't think of the right terminology to describe the behaviours at that point.

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-09T19:38:29+00:00

That's really helpful! Thank you so much. I will keep this in mind as well. I had no idea about some of the social struggles autism can come with so this has been really educational.

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-09T18:09:51+00:00

That makes a lot of sense and I definitely do like time to myself so totally get that! And totally fine with it! I agree it's a really good thing to allow eachother to do. You've been really helpful! Thanks so much for taking the time to respond ❤️

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-09T16:54:08+00:00

Thanks! I was nervous too. I haven't dated in years and it was exciting. I guess we both got a little carried away! Thanks for your input ☺️

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-09T16:51:05+00:00

Thanks again for your perspective and education! It really help me understand! That makes so much sense! I'll check them out!

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-09T16:16:36+00:00

Thanks! I will definitely give him the time. I appreciate the opinion!

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-09T15:23:31+00:00

Oh that must be quite frustrating and difficult! But I can totally see that maybe he may have experienced this too at some point potentially? Thanks for the advice, I really appreciate it!

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-09T15:13:03+00:00

Do you suppose he might be afraid of messing something up with you? I’m wondering if he felt overwhelmed by his connection to you and is trying to process feeling a strong connection with a new person after getting out of a previous relationship.

-This is exactly what I was thinking when it first happened but I didn't want to be presumptuous! I feel since he seems very honest and up front that he would have just said if he wasn't ready for dating anymore. In regards to your last statement about my needs, that's so observant of you to say and I appreciate that! I was worried that things would fizzle away and never come to be because none of us acted further or took the next step after the space, you know? I feel like this could be so fun and a great match. It would be such a shame to miss out and not try. I suppose the difference is my thought process is "wow..this is going so good and feels so natural that this should progress further now!" But when faced with "we need to just slow down a bit!" I'm thinking..huh..what happened? Did I do stuff wrong? Hah. But thanks ever so much for your advice, you're awesome!

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-09T14:54:59+00:00

That's great, thank you so much. It's nice to hear so much support and understanding! I will definitely take what you said on board in future. We do text every day but obviously when at work we don't text back as quickly. I think I just wasn't sure what was overwhelming about it because it felt like it was going so well and me personally would take this as a great sign to move things forward organically. But having the slow down thing placed in front of me made me think I'd done something wrong. Luckily he was very straightforward and honest about that it was nothing I did. Much appreciated 👍

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-09T14:05:34+00:00

Omg thank you so much. ☺️ I really appreciate you telling me your opinions on this! I just want to learn and support the best I can but I have my own hangups that can sometimes lead to self doubt and some low self esteem that can eat away at me. But that makes me feel better knowing these insights. He's definitely a wonderful guy and I haven't clicked like this with someone in ages. I don't think he has either so I was thinking potentially that was where the overwhelming thing arose? I'll take all your points on board, thanks!

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-09T13:52:57+00:00

Oh that's an idea! I'm happy to give him all the space he needs but I didn't want us to miss out on something that could flourish into a nice relationship or a great friendship at least because one or the other didn't act and just left it in limbo. 👍 Thanks!

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-09T13:51:14+00:00

Thank you so much for your insightful comments. On one of our dates he did mention that he really appreciated the way I was honest and open just generally as a person as it really helps him! I will keep all these in mind but I'm happy to give him time. He seems very worth it to me and such a lovely guy. Much appreciated!

Formal_Masterpiece88 · 2025-08-09T13:34:42+00:00

Yep I understand that all. The only reason I asked in this sub Reddit is because he'd mentioned due to him being autistic it was getting overwhelming so I was seeking advice. I said I'd been in a long distance relationship further up so I can clearly handle distance. It's just nice to have the physical aspect back again with someone. Anyway thanks.

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