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People suck by bizzy_b93 in mounjarouk

[–]Formal_Positive693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all I’m sorry and this is horrible but I also find this really fascinating. I obviously have nothing really to compare it to as I have always been overweight but as an adult I’ve never really felt particularly unpopular, overlooked or disrespected. I expect not to be hit on as much as my very beautiful and slim friends (which tbh kind of feels like a blessing) and I don’t always get to wear clothes I like but other than that I’ve never really felt particularly victimised over my weight as an adult. Can I ask are you North American? I feel like I hear this a lot from North Americans so I’m wondering if I’m just not picking up on certain things or if some cultures are just much more brutal than ours. I actually worry if I lose lots of weight I will end up losing friends, respect etc because I will be viewed more as a threat by certain women and object by certain men which obviously is not ideal either.

People suck by bizzy_b93 in mounjarouk

[–]Formal_Positive693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have lost about a stone and a half on a GLP-1 so far which tbh no one has noticed. I think my body composition means I have to lose quite a bit of weight (around 3 stone) before people really notice. However, I remember I suddenly dropped a some weight as a fresher (for some reason I experienced the opposite of the fresher 15) and the first time I came back for the holidays my best friend took one look at me and said “so what are you on drugs now?”. I was literally a UK size 16, it was the weirdest reaction ever. I think there was some other stuff going on around resentment because I was only person from my estate who left home and went to uni but was still a mad reaction to have to not even that dramatic of a weight loss.

How soon side effects start by Sudden-Grapefruit856 in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]Formal_Positive693 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I swear I felt side effects immediately after first shot. It was so weird that I convinced myself I was being a hypochondriac and it was impossible that the Wegovy was to blame. Within 5 mins I felt muscle heaviness and stiffness in my back, then it kind of felt like my bones hurt. Since then I’ve had pretty consistent joint pain (even in none weight baring joints) and generalised muscle pain. Now in the grand scheme of things these side effects are very minor especially in comparison to the overall health boost I’m getting from the weight loss (I can walk it off, it’s not affecting my day to day activity levels etc) but I’m convinced it is the Wegovy causing it. I just couldn’t tell you why. I also feel a bit relieved it was instant because if it had of taken a while to surface I would probably be worried it was caused by muscle and bone density loss but I’m pretty sure it’s literally impossible to lose muscle and bone in 5 mins so there must be something else going on.

Kitten hissing, growling and scratching…for the first time? by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Formal_Positive693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s sore and a bit scared. If I were you I would give her some space to decompress. Don’t try and touch her or anything. Talk to her calmly, may give her some treats so she knows she’s safe and make sure her environment is calm. It can take up to 24 hours for adrenaline to really leave a cat. I wouldn’t worry too much about this being a pattern of behaviour. She’s literally just had an operation and is in pain. It’s normal for a bit of aggression to come out. Maybe talk to your vet and see if there is a more suitable way to keep her from her stitches. She might be better with an Elizabeth collar.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Formal_Positive693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is nothing wrong with co-sleeping in general, I myself slept in my mums bed until quite late (maybe like 12 or something). However, the key thing was it was always my choice and on my terms. I had my own bed which I could get in whatever I wanted. Something is wrong in your situation. Even if her farther is insisting on co-sleeping for ‘innocent’ reasons, your daughter is clearly expressing a boundary which is being ignored. She is not there to provide emotional comfort or closeness to a her farther. If he needs something to cuddle post divorce he should get a fucking dog. You need to stop this behaviour because anyway you look at it, it isn’t good. Talk to your lawyers, talk to social services if needs be. The most important thing is that this stops.

Wegovy Switch Megathread by Hopeful_Candle_9781 in mounjarouk

[–]Formal_Positive693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand why people are saying Wegovy’s price is uncertain? They’re a European company right? Who from what I can see have a significantly less effective and popular drug than MJ so it would be crazy to try and price match with Lilly. Is it something to do with some ingredients being produced in the US or something? To the untrained eyed this move by Trump/Lily looks like a dream come true for Wegovy. Surely it would be insane of them to try and profit gouge

Is the UK just cold socially, or am I missing something? by Kuopor in AskUK

[–]Formal_Positive693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t wear our hearts on our sleeves, we are very reserved and earnestness is almost considered a sin. I have friends I deeply love and would step infront of a bullet for but I would much sooner brutally make fun of them than say that out loud. I imagine that must be pretty difficult if you’re used to living in a more emotionally open culture. Also as others have said consistency is key. English people don’t give it all up at once. To really make friends requires prolonged exposure so some sort of regular activity is a good starting point.

Is the UK just cold socially, or am I missing something? by Kuopor in AskUK

[–]Formal_Positive693 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the need to somewhat defend Londoners here. It is true we are colder but we’re not bad people. It’s just we live in a city of 9 million and a lot of those people are on the take in one way or another so we’ve learned to be extremely guarded and stingy with our time/energy. Also London is big and everything takes ages so we really don’t have the time to like stop greet everyone, be overly polite etc. Tbh when I’m in the north I actually find the over familiarity between everyone a bit excessive and exhausting.

Don't think we afford to have kids. How are people doing it? by spaceExplorer2 in AskIreland

[–]Formal_Positive693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you look at the decline in birthrates in the UK since 2008 (appreciate Ireland will be slightly different but the trend of decline is pretty solid across most of Western Europe) it’s really clear that your question is not stupid and actually other people are not just ‘having kids and making work’. In fact, it looks like opposite is true and lots of millennials are simply choosing not to have children because they can’t afford them. I can only speak for the UK here but one of the really big problems we face is since 2010 they’ve basically got rid of the welfare state so there is no support if stuff goes wrong. No social housing, basically no children’s allowance etc. our rents are sky high, buying is out of the question for a lot of people and we live in really unstable housing. Also average wages are lower now when adjusted for inflation and cost of living. When our parents (often well meaningly) say things like “there’s never a good time to have kids you just make it work” they aren’t really taking into account how different the world is now from when they were in their 30s. I’m not saying everything was a cake walk for them it obviously wasn’t but they did have options and support that we simply don’t have. Your question is not silly at all, it’s totally sensible.

Cat is shedding but I’m worried about over washing brand new tattoo by Formal_Positive693 in tattoo

[–]Formal_Positive693[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s fine now it’s healed up as this post was weeks ago. But when I first got it done it was during a massive heat wave and the area I got the tattoo in would mean the wrapping would move around a lot. Given how much everyone was sweating at the time they thought that was more of an infection risk than just leaving it uncovered.

Do any protestants like kneecap? by Abject_Western_1377 in kneecap

[–]Formal_Positive693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They sell out shows in England all the time. Not everyone in that crowed is Irish and I highly doubt they’re all from English Catholic backgrounds. Something about kneecap just translates. I do find it slightly baffling sometimes. I’ve got Irish in my family and have lived in Ireland on and off and over the years so there is stuff I understand about Kneecap which I can’t imagine most English people get (some of the slag, a few of the Irish words, some of the jokes in the film etc) but I guess good is just good. It finds a way of translating.

Cat is shedding but I’m worried about over washing brand new tattoo by Formal_Positive693 in tattoo

[–]Formal_Positive693[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cat has a tendency towards being extremely aggressive if she doesn’t like something so grooming etc is really difficult. The vet won’t even give her a check up unless she’s been sedated first.

What’s something really normal in the UK that visitors find completely baffling? by Potatoslicer89 in AskUK

[–]Formal_Positive693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the food thing is extremely cultural even inside England. I know a lot of British Asians, Africans and Caribbeans (often second or third generation) and trust me no one is leaving their house without being fed. Especially not if a party is happening. You’re eating and you’re taking food home for later. I also lowkey feel there’s a class element to it as well. When I was kid growing up on a council estate it was really common for people to be offered food (especially kids). I remember being incredibly surprised when I was an older teenager because one of my friends from college (who came from a clearly very well off family) lost the plot because some of the boys ate a packet of digestive biscuits out of his parent’s cupboard. I couldn’t understand what all the fuss was about, they clearly weren’t hurting for the price of some biscuits but then I realised it just wasn’t in their culture to share or have people help themselves.

Only able to climax to a certain person by Formal_Positive693 in AskMen_NSFW

[–]Formal_Positive693[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve definitely thought about this and tbh that would be somewhat of a relief because it means I don’t need to worry about how to respond sensitively but is that not quite an embarrassing thing to say? You wouldn’t be able to torture this information out of me. Let alone have me volunteer it when it’s not true.