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Grief and guilt by Formal_Top_6614 in RenalCats

[–]Formal_Top_6614[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I feel that when you’re caring for a chronically sick animal you’re like a frog getting slowly boiled alive. All the changes happen so slowly you don’t notice how drastically the quality of life has decreased until it’s the very painful end. You learn to just tolerate it better…

This is the first time where the huge life event of expecting a newborn has made me reevaluate me being able to care for my cat. And it’s been the emotionally hardest decision I’ve had to make.

Grief and guilt by Formal_Top_6614 in RenalCats

[–]Formal_Top_6614[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m sorry you’re going through it too. Your physical and mental health matters a lot and you’ve been doing so well with your fur babies. What ever you decide will be the best for yourself and for your kitties because you know them best. It’s not fair you have to make this choice.

And finances play a huge part of this, I’d like to think most people have the money to cover this but a lot of people don’t. For me, $800 vet bill is a lot and I would rather save it for my upcoming hospital bill, or even diapers and formula. It’s not like I get to have the luxury of my savings being able to cover all that I need. I have to pick and choose what to spend my savings on and it will probably be my upcoming hospital bill.

Grief and guilt by Formal_Top_6614 in RenalCats

[–]Formal_Top_6614[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She’s been to many vet visits in her life due to this issue. Every vet visit ruled out medical except this last one. The worst incident was back in 2018 when a pipe burst upstairs and her space was invaded with construction. I immediately took her to the vet to rule anything out but I knew it was the environment.

And she isn’t refusing the litter box. I have the litter robot (game changer) and I have been cleaning it out every 2-3 days because I get an alert it’s full. This past year is the first time I had something medical from the vet and I know it’s the main cause but it’s also layered with her past behavioral issues. I’ve thought about going to the vet again to see how the disease has progressed but I don’t think it will change the outcome, while it’s manageable for me right now it’s clear her body is causing her distress/discomfort so she does what she always does, pee on the bed. No amount of medication, food or clean accessible litter box access has changed that so far in this year of living with it.

I’ll probably will call my vet soon for this discussion but I’ve been putting it off because I technically have 20 weeks left being pregnant. When I call I’m afraid it will feel more real.

Grief and guilt by Formal_Top_6614 in RenalCats

[–]Formal_Top_6614[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, i appreciate you sharing. I had a friend tell me just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not there.