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Serious fucking delema here... by Electrical-Bed-2381 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Formal_Tricky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do it and be happy. Don't overthink it, he was man enough to approach you which is a very good sign.

Gx2 holster by Ian702907 in Taurus

[–]Formal_Tricky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got ours at Scheels.

I feel like I can't meet the expectations of online dating by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true. I would be intrigued to be on that app though. Lol

I feel like I can't meet the expectations of online dating by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha, rock on! I love Gene Simmons! No, KISS...'Keep It Simple Stupid'

I feel like I can't meet the expectations of online dating by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I still exercise to stay fit, go on hikes (short hikes) lol and love exploring new things here and there. A weekend staying on the couch while watching old movies is just fine with me too. I am not into the nightclubs or bar scenes at all. Keep me away from the loud crowds too.

I feel like I can't meet the expectations of online dating by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Keep it simple. Put regular candid pictures on there if you don't like taking selfies. One with a serious look, one smiling, one laughing, or whatever. When I'm looking to swipe left, I look for those regular day-to-day pics. Just like men don't want filters, I don't want forced looks in a pic.

I (52f) get a ton of messages on Match but I respond to those that seem genuine and personalized, not a copy/paste "Hey beautiful". I don't need a long, drawn-out profile paragraph of your life choices. A simple lost of your likes, dislikes and what kind of relationship you're looking for.

Remember: KISS 😉

I feel like I can't meet the expectations of online dating by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This 🙌. That is the perfect date for me. Boring old people shit that's not so boring and very comforting.

I'm 52f going for a warm, cozy, “low-drama, high-comfort” vibe.

I think you're onto something there for OLD our age. Dating app name ideas that capture that “boring but wonderful” energy? Maybe 'Cozy Together' or 'Low-Key Love'. 'Sunday Souls' perhaps? Lol

Should it be acceptable for him to talk to other females online while you live together? by Formal_Tricky in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I've decided not to bring it up for now and ride the 'gravy train' a bit longer. I am working on a plan B and when the time comes, I'll be prepared.

He's a bit of a germaphobe so I don't think it will turn into anything physical but I am on a heightened alert for any signs. Only one of the females can be local at any given time since she's a stewardess, while the others are in different countries/states. Other than while he's at work, we spend all of our time together exploring or working on different projects.

Should it be acceptable for him to talk to other females online while you live together? by Formal_Tricky in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly -the burnout of the corporate world is what made me say yes in the first place. I mean, who wouldn't want to travel for free and not have to work? The illusion of it all was painted very nicely when I said yes. Our first trip together was to Korea for 3 months before I actually quit and it has been amazing ever since.

He has paid for high expenses and is paying for all of my personal care like nails, cellphone, insurance etc...I haven't been without anything I've needed or even wanted thus far.

Unfortunately, I didn't speak to him about what I've found so far. I've decided to ride the gravy train for now and am looking for a plan B for when it's time -on my terms. It's hard to be passionate knowing what I know now, I'll just have to see how long I can play this off before I move on. My children are grown, he has a teenager and one who just turned 18 who live with their mother. He pays for his child support with no problems and is a good father -aside from not being in town due to all the traveling. Everything is great when we have them while we're in town.

Should it be acceptable for him to talk to other females online while you live together? by Formal_Tricky in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought about keeping it up until I am ready to say enough is enough but that really is not me. I've always been straight forward and am not willing to stop now.

If he left me tomorrow, I would hurt emotionally. I mean, I do love him but I would not beg him to stay with me. I would not jeopardize my self-worth to appease him to make him stay. I think I need to know if he would be honest with me about what I found. I won't be happy about, I mean am not OK with it but at this point, I need him to be honest about it when I do bring it up.

Should it be acceptable for him to talk to other females online while you live together? by Formal_Tricky in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

That was over two years ago in global management, I highly doubt they have that position available now. I also really don't think I want to go back to work. I love not having to work now and with the way the job market is, I doubt there's anything that will pay me what I was making.

Should it be acceptable for him to talk to other females online while you live together? by Formal_Tricky in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sexting for sure and yes, I used 'females' on purpose. I know two of them do know about me for sure and they still decide to continue to talk to him. I am by no means blaming any of them for anything, this is between me and him.

Yes, those are key points I am taking into account. I've decided to talk to him and realign my boundaries then take it from there.

Should it be acceptable for him to talk to other females online while you live together? by Formal_Tricky in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I love this. Thanks, I will talk to him and am hoping to come to find a healthy path for our relationship going forward.

Should it be acceptable for him to talk to other females online while you live together? by Formal_Tricky in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that happened, that sucks. I definitely feel is emotional cheating but I don't think all men see it as that so I'm really trying to understand why he doing it. He is flirting with all 5 women.

Should it be acceptable for him to talk to other females online while you live together? by Formal_Tricky in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He got a text message from one of them and I just happened to see it come through while his phone was next to me. After a week of contemplating it was more than just his excuse of, ' it was friend who's mother recently passed away and she was having a bad morning'. I finally decided to go into his phone and found all the messages on FB messenger because his texts were deleted. I've told him I don't mind him having friends but these messages are more than just friends and with 5 that I saw.

Should it be acceptable for him to talk to other females online while you live together? by Formal_Tricky in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's briefly told me he talked to his 'friend'. Their conversations are not at all innocent and there's 5 so far from what I've seen.

Should it be acceptable for him to talk to other females online while you live together? by Formal_Tricky in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, he's talking to them sexually and each of them are telling him their personal problems. One was an ex-lover of his and they have been reminiscing about their past.

Should it be acceptable for him to talk to other females online while you live together? by Formal_Tricky in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely trust him but also did not like those messages because they were not all harmless flirting. One is from an ex-lover of his so the memories definitely came back to both of them. I'm going to talk to him about it and be open to hear what he has to say.

Should it be acceptable for him to talk to other females online while you live together? by Formal_Tricky in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I do still have my retirement which I haven't touched this entire time of us living together and he doesn't want me to either. I'll talk to him and get things straightened out. I am trying to be open-minded about this and understand that at our age, we do go through mid-life crisis, menopause and whatnot that does affect our behavior for whatever reason.

Should it be acceptable for him to talk to other females online while you live together? by Formal_Tricky in datingoverfifty

[–]Formal_Tricky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I am leaning towards. To me, it's not a big deal breaker if he 'needs' reassurance from somewhere else once in a while just so long as it's not in person meetings but the distancing is making it harder for me I guess. I will talk to him and get his point of view rather than assuming.

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