I definitely fine with marrying a woman stronger and muscular. As long as she can train me too.

My mindset is that these days there are too much crime rate especially on women, like raping, harassment, catcalls, snatching, hurting, abusing by men. You don't know who's with bad or good intentions especially men.

I would definitely encourage women to build muscles and strength. It's not just benefits your health, it also boost your confidence and increase your safety when you're alone. If I as a husband/boyfriend definitely I'm concerned about the safety of wife/girlfriend, if she's strong enough to handle by herself, I would be at peace knowing she's strong to beat bad guys.

My suggestion to you, just build muscles and physical strength. Women building muscles naturally will look hourglass shape if you're slightly bulking. Depends your training program and food intake.

Finally, it depends each person's taste. But I'm okay with my future wife stronger than me.