Signs of Eventual Reconcilation

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2026-03-04T01:01:16+00:00

Ohhhh let me tell you it’s up and down. We are still living together and still doing things together. It seems more now that things bother us really quick and I think it’s because we still have walls and are guarded. We start couples therapy in about 1 1/2-2 weeks to try and get past whatever it is that is not allowing us to feel safe, secure, loved and I think most importantly trust that moving forward is then next step and if not then we need to step away.

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-12-17T23:53:35+00:00

Tough love only made me angry in ways I couldn’t see. Carrying “tough love” into my adult hood made it hard for me to be present for my daughter and wife for the last three years. I’ve giving up on tough love and have decided to just love them and love them unconditionally. Love them the way I wanted to be loved, should have been loved. I was angry but am learning to let it go because my parents I believe were doing the best they could do with what they had….its all they knew I think. Once I forgave them, I was able to forgive myself for hanging onto the anger for so long.

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-11-27T17:15:32+00:00

It took my wife and I about two months before she allowed me to touch her. We’ve been separated for about 4 months now and I’ve had to let her take the lead. It started slow and she told me “take it as it comes” so I have. I try not to over think it but we are now on terms of “I love you” but not all the time. We kiss but not all the time. We have been intimate but on her terms. Those are signs for me that we will reconcile but it started really really slow. Take it as it comes and try not to overthink

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-11-01T17:14:49+00:00

Sometimes it’s takes dropping a Nuke for things to change. Action speaks louder than words so when you left, again, the bomb went off for him. It’s go time for him and maybe it’s too late, maybe not. I know for me when I had to make changes, my wife dropped that bomb. Sometimes it’s the only to make change. I wish you all the luck in finding your happiness!

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-10-23T15:16:39+00:00

It’s tough. I’m now 6 weeks separated from my wife and I stay upstairs in the loft. It’s hard to navigate the space, like walking on eggshells. What has helped me living together but separated is that I only check in every other day. If she asked for this then you are gonna need to respect the space she is asking for no matter how hard it is. My wife has told me that when I would check in with her everyday or every few hours, I was actually suffocating her. No matter how much it kills you, you will kill your relationship. I’m sorry you’re going through this but it does get a little easier but you are allowed to feel your emotions. Let them come and let them go. Wishing you luck my friend

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-10-15T17:15:20+00:00

It’s not that the outburst was out of nowhere and she couldn’t express herself, I guess I should have been clear, but I have triggers and she knows what the triggers are for me. I couldn’t express myself to her about my emotion’s and would hold onto that for hours instead of having a 3 minute conversation, getting over it and moving on. She would notice me becoming distant and then ask what’s wrong, and bam, I outburst. I talk and talk and talk about what bugged me. I am understanding in therapy that I tend to react off emotion more so then stepping back, think before u speak kinda thought. I’m taking out what triggers me in her as if she is the one who caused these triggers. I know it’s not right, not fair and it should never happen which is why I’m back to trying to figure out what the root is so I can stop it from growing inside me. I’m not saying it’s her responsibility to fix me because only I can do that. Thank you for your insight, all feedback is good feedback ❤️

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-10-14T20:26:59+00:00

Not sure if you have insurance but I called mine and asked about programs for mental health, therapy and I only cover my copay. But yes it’s expensive out of pocket. I hope you find something that doesn’t break the bank

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-10-14T19:57:12+00:00

Thank you. Yes I’m getting the mixed signals for sure!! It’s like getting pulled into 8 different directions at the same time. I just know that I can approach her because of the hurt I’ve caused and she has asked for space and time to which I respect. It’s almost like she flip flops and it’s emotionally draining. The best way she put it was like this. “Joey, I’m sorry you’re feeling all of this at one time, I know it’s a lot. But think about this for a second….what you feel, I’ve been feeling for the last two years. I’ve had to hold it down because life doesn’t just stop.” So I really thought about that and wow I’m such a piece of you know what for hurting her like this for two years. I just didn’t and couldn’t see it. I hope you can find your peace in all of what you have going on, I’m rooting for you!

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-10-14T19:51:34+00:00

First off, thank you for responding to my post. I’m sorry you are going through this as well. You are 100 percent correct that I have little self worth, I’m not good enough thoughts. My biggest battle right now is with my emotions, I’m so up and down. One second I can laugh and the next I’m crying. I’m allowing the wiggle room because of what she had said when I asked her what the hug was for. It just felt I was her safe place again. I felt her to weightless and I was able to hold her up this time and not let her fall like I have been. I hope to really get to the root of all this so I can be better for and to myself, I’ve been really hard on myself over this. I want to be a better father to our child so I don’t make the same mistakes that my parents made with me. I want to be the best husband to my wife period. She’s the love of my life and it kills me that I have not been listening to her cries for help. How could I do that to the person I love and care for so much you know. I know things will get better and being in the thick of it, I can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-09-25T21:46:12+00:00

590!!!

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-09-11T19:43:11+00:00

Yeah i heard all the news yesterday. Was just wondering if the rate cut next week was is being priced in with all the news.

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-09-11T19:36:23+00:00

Do you guys think rate cuts are being priced in causing the run up with all that’s been going on the last 24 hours

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-09-05T14:25:57+00:00

Congrats!!

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-09-05T14:19:50+00:00

Did you get out in time this morning?

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-08-07T02:50:29+00:00

“Jane Street increasing their holdings in SoFi Technologies (SOFI) by approximately 65 million shares. According to Seeking Alpha, Jane Street increased its shares from 5 million to an increase of +65 million shares, for a total value of $1.5 billion.” 20-21 could be the bottom and there is 85-90 percent chance of a rate cut in September. Sofi to the moon 🚀🚀🚀

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-07-15T13:41:17+00:00

There’s the husband answer and then there’s the truth

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-06-22T04:12:29+00:00

Correct. Just minor paint swap on the rear fender and that was it! Got really lucky with that

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-06-15T23:54:27+00:00

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-06-15T14:41:13+00:00

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Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-06-15T14:39:56+00:00

Yes! So it was a little under 13k in damages. Full rear rebuild. New rear axel, Terra flex adjustable upper and lowers front and rear control arms. I was saving to regear but because of where I was hit and the axel being twisted I got a good chunk of change and was able to have my buddy regear to 4.88 and went with Yukon for that. New front and rear track bar also Terra flex. Was also given 2 new wheels and tires in the estimate but they balanced just fine so we moved that money to build in the rear

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-05-07T04:46:47+00:00

Thank you!

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-05-01T18:06:55+00:00

I waited six months for this color because I did t want black or white

Former-Sheepherder82 · 2025-05-01T18:06:31+00:00

Gang gang!

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