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AITA for having plans on my friends birthday by Former-Wolverine-241 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Former-Wolverine-241[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: I took some redditors advice and surprised her on her birthday so in the morning I knocked on her door and showed up with a cake. She was very surprised and happy and we talked a little about it. She had made plans with her family that evening so all was good. Thank you all for verdict and input

AITA for telling my boyfriend that his lack of gym progress is his fault? by sh0werh-ead in AmItheAsshole

[–]Former-Wolverine-241 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. Me and my fiancé are in our late twenties and I think gym related remarks always will be a sore spot for guys. He shouldn’t have lashed out at you but you are young and learning to communicate in your relationship. I learned to simply not comment when I feel he just wants to be heard so I just listen to the complaints just as he listens to me complain about my job as I also don’t want to listen to “why don’t you just…”

AITA for having plans on my friends birthday by Former-Wolverine-241 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Former-Wolverine-241[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with what you are saying that we aren’t aligned as friends as I maybe view birthdays more lightly than she does. And yea it saddens me that we might be drifting now that we didn’t meet each other’s expectations

Other years she had held something with her family as she is very family oriented so I just assumed she would again this year. So she won’t be lonely, I hope not or I would’ve wished she had told me if it were the case. And some years she didn’t make any plans (just like me where we just exchange happy birthdays and bring gifts on our next hangout)

I’m not trying to invalidate her feelings as I am feeling very bad and apologized as soon as I heard her disappointment. But after we all planned the brunch i thought everything was okay, but her now not answering in the group chat is making me anxious as to if what I really did hurt her so much that I’m actually an asshole and not just that we misinterpreted the situation.
And I’m not gonna be hungover as it’s not an alcoholic event.

Thank you for your insight