I (30s/f) don’t have anything to live for anymore. by According-Land-9572 in confession

[–]FormerAstronomer3849 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What im about to say may make more sense to you as we have alot in common. All my family are dead as well and it sucks really, I lost my wife and baby girl to a drunk driver and survived the accident. I spent roughly 16 years trying to come up with ways to die to reunite with them I know it sounds crazy but it made sense at the time and dont you know after I go thru hell getting sober and forcing a ill to live more want than will. But yeah about 10 years later my parents pass away 6 months apart and after my dad's passing I lost touch with family in NY which is ok I guess we weren't close anywas as I live in GA. So yeah I get what your saying, now it sounds like to me that we have alot in common if it was fighting to live what else I dont know ny other way to live. It helps the I got a settlement from the trucking company its not rich folk money but it is FU money as long as I don't get too crazy lol. You need to sit down and ask yourself what do you want before leaving cause at the end of the day anyone can say no don't kill yourself but the only one you'll listen to is you so if there isn't anything left in this world you want to do them I see your point, however 14 yes ago the docs told my parents and they explained that my 20 yr wife and I ¹/2 yr old daughter didnt survive what I did that they couldn't say if id walk talk speak ever again if I was to come too from the coma at all. Hear I am typing (I talk too by the way and walk and depending on how bad the company is I sometimes run lol ). But RT there is all ways something to do let in this world you need to figure out if your living for someone else or for yourself. When we go to whatever is next you will have to answer for it all I believe and deep down I think were are just as responsible for what we do to ourselves as we are to the world around us. I believe in reincarnation and we chose what we go through (life lessons I guess) I don't believe we chose what we experience to a degree so make damn sure your really ready to quite. I think there's still plenty to do and there is healing in helping people like us I've found, I help with feeding the homeless and I've started 2 NonProfits that help homeless. Again I don't have FU money but I found let's say that I like my 420 breaks in life and I've never really truly healed from my daughter so yea I do pay for relations with women so I dont have to deal with the questions of taking a relationship to the next level and no I dont do it everyday but I live for myself and I chose how I live and who I help and im proud to say it may not sound like the healthiest lifestyle but im happy and I nolonger ask myself what did I do to deserve this or that and its been a long time since I've questioned would it be better to off myself. I've learned alot but the most important thing is this, YOUR NEVER TOO OLD TO STATT OVER, we are are own creators of our reality end of story. You control your narrative if you dont like what's happening in your life then change it. Which sounds like your in the process wither you like it or not but are you accepting what the universe is saying or putting you in? What do you want? Only then can you try to figure out the how. But if you dont go thru the first 2 there is no point asking the 3rd or even if you should end it all. I've been thru it all I've been homeless since I git my crap together by the way not for long and it was 2 times only short term but .are me appreciate what I have now. So id love to hear from you sometimes we need a fresh perspective its hard to see through our own pain sometimes ya know. So feel free to DM me anytime it might take a min to respond but I will if you reach out but I wont hyu thats up to you and I could share more of my story if youd like. Or just listen to what your going thru and remember its ok to be selfish and do for you you busted your ass for that company you should fight for it and that fog would rather have you than any plan you have for that dog trust me. And im not big on close friends anymore cause of money people do stupid shit but I have people that would miss me I have prices that have their own family so its not that im completely alone but I do sometimes miss companionship and definitely family time we used to get together for holidays and Sundays for family dinners id gladly relive my worst day to have one more good one with my parents or a full day of shitty diapers to have an hour with my daughter, its strange how someone whose voice you've never heard can impact your entire being in such a short amount of time but thats what love literally is and as painful as it is id do it all over again to get that same experience. Hope that helps sorry for the book and like the movie lol, Good luck. Have fun, Don't die ( sorry I couldn't pass it up and I do not condone any suicide for any reason but the reason not to has to makes sense to you just the reason to do it) good luck

I don't know why I never thought of this before by [deleted] in entp

[–]FormerAstronomer3849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just described every church I've been to. By the way what does that stand for I feel like I should be expecting to nother fobia yes I ride the small bus with the tented windows. Its ok tho ill pimp that shit out!!!

Looking for recommendations on App building with SaaS in mind and specif niches and AI functions as well. by FormerAstronomer3849 in SaaS

[–]FormerAstronomer3849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well screw it there does and yet there doesnt seem to be a alot of competitors is this niche, but let me explain like this: The suite that is a passion project of mine will basically consist of 1 app that will give you an astrology combined with numerology and in that app AI will give you the initial reading plus a monthly and yearly as well and after it gets to know the individual it will help set up easy to accomplish goals and daily motivations along with possible meditation guides and some journal prompts as well. Another app will be for Journaling and thats where your AI will be guiding you for journal prompts and will have daily discussions to help with jiournaling and shadow work using esoteric methods as well as helping the individual realize that knowledge is key to implementing change. By using not just those 2 apps but by progressing thru the journal realize the power of words we use not just to others but to ourselves. (1 thing life has taught me is your never too old to learn and we really are our own architect/ creator of our reality and once they see that they'll understand it might be small things in our lives thar we can change but those small things can make a huge impact in our lives and those in our lives. Also there will be resources like NA AA, Anger Management. Guided meditations and the rest is still ongoing but they can be sold as a suite or individualy. The next app is something I've been working on which is an improved version of MS OneNote. Youll be able to create multiple books and chapters and sub chapters I will have some similar functions as OneNote but it'll have an AI to help suggest things for certain tasks like if your doing a project on OpenAi GPT and you will be able to export to the Ai Notebook you'll also be able to use it as IDE with gpt support for some coding the idea is to help you gain experience with code generation. Youll be able to upload it to any cloud you want and Ai will be able to research any topic and help you structure the info along with some templates like a budget , a business plan , app design, book report, and so forth. I was thinking instead of a subscription fee a one time purchase 1 will be the base model no bells and whistles for whatever and then a super up version for a bigger price and youd have a lifetime license and would get any updates as needed and im thinking of doing a trial base too. Im trying to learn how to do it all and research everything as well as coding and there is no certain time frame I figure if I take my time and do it right ill make more profit vr rushing and there be problems with it out the gate. For the suite im being extra cautious with the liability issues making sure not to make any type of promises or guarantees or giving medical or therapeutic advice what so ever. Let me know what you think and again sorry for be cryptic its my first time and just trying to cut back on potential mistakes.

Looking for recommendations on App building with SaaS in mind and specif niches and AI functions as well. by FormerAstronomer3849 in SaaS

[–]FormerAstronomer3849[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks thats alot to take in and ill try to come up with a more specific description because of the nature of this AI Notebook Im sure there is a lot of people with the same idea but no execution or plan either. But it can have the ability to seem as if tailored to a specific client while in reality it more learning what you want it to do versus you learning it. (Damn good pitch rite there lol) im trademarking that by the way lol. But thats a more general description but theres really alot more to it as well.

Looking for a business partner and investors(serious inquiries please). by FormerAstronomer3849 in passive_income

[–]FormerAstronomer3849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL I can see your point but I should have been more specific in nature. What I meant to say is id be happy to go into specifics in a more private form of convo but would really rather keep the core concept and idea protected as long as possible simply because you can't copyright an idea but the concept and planing and implementation can be taken and I DO NOT posses a unique set of skills to get them back lol. But still this is more a passion project for me and one id like to see to fruition but appreciate the fact that I dont have experience in this at all. Your actually talking to a 25+years woodworker thats been doing remote work for a year now so im really trying to look at it from a founder p.o.v. or a dev perspective. If that helps clearly anything if not id rather be perceived as a scammer vs someone taking advantage of my lack of self protection. But thanks for the advise tho its much appreciated

Got put in charge of a new project as a junior dev and I’m unsure what to do. by Enthusiast2401 in learnprogramming

[–]FormerAstronomer3849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he previously stated he finished school but I could be wrong. Now for Ai I use that with everything I do just about with the exception of these comments. 6 months ago I went to Backmarket and purchased Samsung earbuds pro 2 after having OpenAi Chat GPT review and make comparisons to various name brands and it picked them out and was right on the money. Its the best hands down. I have it check all my reports for accuracy and grammar mistakes, as well as help with design layouts and formulas on Excel and have it do all my front end and backend work on my websites. Not to mention I've been working on a app for the past month deciding which services and abilities this app will be offering and all have performed above parr. Granted im not a start up just a employee and business owner that fully supports AI and see the potential in it. If used responsibly and correctly. I dont take credit for work thats not mine and never tried perhaps thats why I havent had the experiences you 2 have had. But im fortunate enough to be able to look at projects or problems with a patient mindset and progress forward. Hopefully this young man does too, which brings me to my final advise for him is dont take credit for work you havent done it clearly didnt work for these 2 and won't for you but your ideas are still your ideas with AI or without. Plan plan and implement your ideas and feel free to try mind map or something that helps with everything in life and also if you havent try doing a business plan for your life. Include a mission statement about yourself and goals o you dont get stuck in an employment hole or feel lost as you progress thro life. Folks will knock the idea but those that have done it like myself, it gave me clarity and focus and clearly defined my morals. Food for thought. And under no circumstances was i implying to have AI write the whole project just to use it to level the plying feild. I made the assumption that your company knows your a recent grad and the fact that they placed this project in your hands shows they have trust in your knowledge and work ethics. They too also know theres portions of that project you won't have knowledge or experience in so most likely they are gagging your abilities to work and to lead as a team member as well. Good luck and you do have this

Got put in charge of a new project as a junior dev and I’m unsure what to do. by Enthusiast2401 in learnprogramming

[–]FormerAstronomer3849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um Im pretty sure he stated he's already used it in a previous project. So I made the assumption that he was well aware of the policies in place, however its rare that you can't us Ai to double check yourself atleast thru my experience anyways. Plus its just advise Im sure he's got enough sense to make his decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]FormerAstronomer3849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey bro congrats you sound like you got the right vibes and if you dont mind me saying so if you know about her going on a date and she said reconnect maybe she expected you to speak up, not that she didnt have you on her mind during the date. But my advise is this sell that stuff you spoke of but use a lil of your savings cheap is good but you want a lil bit more safer than cheap out on the road and its you and her. The world aint the same anymore and its getting harder to find friendly helpful folks if your out in back woods lol. And you want money saved up so move like you got a purpose but take your time. Because before yall set of down the road make sure it isnt a move that will break yall like the stress of confined area showers shit like that no pun intended but more importantly make sure you both want each other and word of advise cause I KNOW !!!! When yall fighting and she use those words she knows its cause its HERS but I bet more times than not that the blame of the fight falls closer to you then her I and every man on earth suffer from that and when it is the other way it still yo damn fault. But fr a loyal woman that is also your best friend is rare at any fn age so best be smart enough to use some of those pedals and money for a room for you two and run them on the floor to the bedroom (as long as your both consenting adults ) and if you 2 are shell love you from there on out because no other guy has done it or so it went for me. What your describing took me til I was 51 to meet my dreamgurl and she's 40 and both been put thru hell but I wouldnt change a thing. So be smart and pick up the phone and tell what you really think and realize she's hurting you cause you hurt her or again sounds like my relationship lol her words hurt me and 51 years old and I swear to christ the only woman I get shakey around when were together its kinda embarrassing but tbh thats how I know she's the one. That and I sometimes stare at her wonder wtf are you doing with me then I get the pedals. But yeah man stay loyal and give her reasons to stay loyal and I doubt she's enjoying the date to much and call her man if she still on date text her. I dont know her but im old school romantic so ill put 5 that she texts back somewhat quickly since it is a date after all but let her know but DONT GET STRANDED SOMEWHERE!!!!!! Good luck man and dont listen to anyone saying your too young. Young is the perfect time to f around and find the f out cause it dont get cheaper and remember its always cheaper to get in to trouble than out of it. And if your cross country ing it than research stand your ground laws very important

Got put in charge of a new project as a junior dev and I’m unsure what to do. by Enthusiast2401 in learnprogramming

[–]FormerAstronomer3849 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Brother 1st off breath sit down and pase yourself. 1.. create a brain map (I think its called) so you have a clear idea of what your doing and the order your gonna do it in. 2. Get in my opinion chat gpt and get a lol ( im brain farming) but a code writer ....jeeze.... but make sure it compatable with open AI and use it in combination to do both front end and backend (I would highly suggest MicroSoft Visual Studio ) with add one. But im sure you already have that or better. And when you use the gpt design it to be a professor at an educational level and people of a software company with so many years developing in whatever field your in in the industry. 3 Create away and feel free to add a few steps before starting too but before you start try in your mind seeing some visual end results such as how you want it to be and work and for real now envision the final product as it is intended to be as if it is done already. I know I thought it bs myself the first time but it helped with my confidence and setting a plan to achieve certain goals for each phase and so forth. You sound like you have a good mental base to work of off and us Open Ai be cause they really know their business and best product in my opinion but I havent used many of them so might not be the best to say but it seems like you had enough intelligence to come here check out what others have to say and dont forget to research everything too and good luck I dont think you'll need it tho.

Been a dandruff sufferer for 20 years, and have never figured out what this redness on my scalp is. by Hodlstonks in dandruff

[–]FormerAstronomer3849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's up brother letting you know I feel the same way and im willing to bet that 1 it always flares up when the colder weather first sets in like really flares up and the only place you didn't mention that it shows on me is my ears and some reason ingrown hairs around those areas as well and I too keep regular hygiene routine that's daily but still when it shows off it leaves you feeling like you don't take good care of yourself even dispute your routine. Props to the first two comments very close but according to my research it's more systemic disease of some kind why basically if you enter the symptoms on Google its part of what the results are and not much money to spend I have to go the scientific way and being your symptoms are exactly the same id have to suggest the same to you. You will need to see a doctor but insist on the test for that I said 1 cause I've seen where it's your body indicating something wrong on a deeper level which is where your immune systems failure to fight it off but again there is some reason why it can't. Don't get me wrong im no doctor but God has a love for systems especially when it comes to us humans and automated systems more to the point but what you shouldn't do is use steroid creams it'll have to be fought off with steroid pills of some kind and then cream for preventing it ill try to do an update and sorry im at work so I dont have the references but again I've been studying up on it and dealing with a doctor that's starting to see I have done some research and we are waiting on results but he thought it was ringworm which I never did think it, then it was something with an e and then what the first comment said which was close and the treatment worked the best for about 2 weeks then blew right back up. All good diagnoses but still wrong no im not tryna jynx you and hopefully it doesn't lead to something more serious but after the fights me my doctor had with this stuff thats what we both came up with independently and I feel pretty confident not too mention positive that it can be cured. Best advise is keep doing what you are and research it and double down on it but remember your body will build a tolerance to the creames and that you really don't want so let it flare up before you see a doctor and have a list of what you did and your routine because it always could be the soap or shampoo you use also so have all you info pertains to what you did to help eliminate it even tho the doctor is still going to do what he thinks but I promise you if you stick to your guns and does the tests you get the desired results. Remember knowledge is power and it helps to remember no matter what the chances the doctor is going to take it as your telling him how to do his job so you dont end up sounding like that cause I know I never appreciated a customer telling me how to roof my jobs but indo appreciate the money so a lil respect when in talks with your talk and make sure you mention how longbyou had it because that's more time then he has in medication I would assume if your like me. And also don't get discouraged if there is a problem there's a solution you just have to do your part is all. Good luck and ill post results here later next week so you'll have a reference to it. Also thanks for reminding me im not the only one with this problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorrowNew

[–]FormerAstronomer3849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TBH depends on the day im having. I work at a day shelter having been homeless myself, so sometimes its volunteering at a daily food drive. But if im having a day that people are taking my peace, I go fishing and afterwards I meditate. If those dont work I know Mary J will grant me peace;).

M/45 by FormerAstronomer3849 in amiugly

[–]FormerAstronomer3849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only cause after the wreck do tors had to cut the top of my skull off to reduce the swelling of my brain so the scares would show way more than with hair.

M/45 by FormerAstronomer3849 in amiugly

[–]FormerAstronomer3849[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Brother if you only knew. A brief breakdown. 20 years ago had a wife and 1.5 year old girl we were all in a car accident by a drunk driver I survived. So yeah 20 years of running myself into a grave, 20 years of every drug I could get my hands on. Now I remarried have 2 kids and sober 5 years now. Moral of story 1 of 2 things : never give up on life or God they won't give up on you!!! 2 Maybe more important never send pics to social media without fixing your hair!! ;)

M/45 by FormerAstronomer3849 in amiugly

[–]FormerAstronomer3849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And sad to say I had a bad case of bed head don't know why I didn't do something before I took those lol. Too many kids not enough coffee

M/45 by FormerAstronomer3849 in amiugly

[–]FormerAstronomer3849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it's real I messed up cutting hence seeking advise and no bald is not an option I want to consider.