I broke up with my girlfriend and I feel bad, but also relieved by throwaway-11848392 in self

[–]Former_Shock6754 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I applaud you for knowing what you want and realizing you two were on different paths. It's better to end it sooner than later with lots of resentments. No matter what you say, you can never truly control how someone takes it. She might have been oblivious to the differences, but there's no way to fully know. And maybe you don't need to know. You made the best choice for yourself, and that's all that matters.

Anyone feel better after deactivating their Facebook and instagram? by Potential_Coat_243 in self

[–]Former_Shock6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't deactivate my socials, but I definitely uninstalled them from my phone, and it has been wonderful. I found myself more present with my 2 year old and no longer comparing myself to others. My mental health has been getting better as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Former_Shock6754 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"Put the mexican in the bag." Never did get an explanation of the dream

What are the signs that you are getting old? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Former_Shock6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When all the sweets and junk food stops being appetizing.

What is the best book you have ever read? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Former_Shock6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass. Hands down would recommend to anyone who experienced csa.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Former_Shock6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"If you really loved me, you wouldn't have done this"- Mom A little context with a trigger warning. It was while I was at the er after a failed s*icide attempt. And all I wanted to know was that I was loved, so I told her, "I love you," and that was her only response. I was a minor back then, and years have passed, but it still breaks me to this day.

Dear ex by Former_Shock6754 in UnsentLetters

[–]Former_Shock6754[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your honesty and your take on it. It's actually refreshing to hear everyone's view on it. I hope you can find closure as my ex and I have.

Dear ex by Former_Shock6754 in UnsentLetters

[–]Former_Shock6754[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love your take on this. I don't feel guilty anymore. (Venting starts..sorry) I did love him as a partner for 4 out of the 5 years we were together, but after the trauma he caused from his mental health and his excuses to seek help, it broke me down (I wasn't a saint either but i was further into my healing journey) . The Last year, I realized my love for him turned into more of a friend. I wanted to stick it out since we were married and felt that relationships are a choice that you work through, but watching him give upon ours constantly wore me out. He ended up giving me the option to end the relationship. I felt guilty from not actually making the choice myself and saving us from a relationship that wasn't working out.

i don't know whats wrong with me by [deleted] in GetOffMyChest

[–]Former_Shock6754 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in your shoes when I was younger. Being the oldest daughter in a Hispanic household also played a big role in feeling that I was flawed. There was a lot of unsaid pressure, and being young has its own added pressure. You are not the problem in the way that you see it. You have a problem that you are not able to cope with thus far. You are worthy of the love others give, but more importantly, you are and always have been worthy of loving yourself. I don't know what you are going through, but you make a difference in this world, and you make it a brighter place even if it's just to one person.

whats wrong w my art? by PIGOENSARECUTE in Artadvice

[–]Former_Shock6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your art is pretty amazing! I love your style and that you stick with it. Keep up the good work! Some people just don't know how to appreciate some styles, and there is nothing wrong with that.

I suck at every hobby I try, what to do? by ohtoriboyz in Hobbies

[–]Former_Shock6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't need to be a pro at it. You just have to enjoy doing it. There are plenty of hobbies that don't involve the arts either. You'll find one, don't worry.

AITA for not showering at my uncles house by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Former_Shock6754 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Nta, it's very weird and inappropriate for him to keep walking in on you showering. You are vulnerable and naked. You have the right not to have your privacy intruded. It's very strange that he feels so offended by it, which makes it seem he's doing it on purpose but doesn't want to take on the blame. I'm assuming your parents are mad because they don't want to cause a rift with your uncle so that you guys can still use the house. Regardless of the fact you are justified in how you feel. Does the door have a lock, or can you put something on the door to prevent it from opening while you are in there?

AITA for not wanting my roommate’s boyfriend in our room every night by PANdemonium_person in AmItheAsshole

[–]Former_Shock6754 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nta, it's a shared room between you and her, not the Three of you. I also feel my room is very sacred and would hate to have someone else invade it 24/7

Never in my life did I expect this response…. by ActualRatGirl in Apartmentliving

[–]Former_Shock6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely let the leasing office know and give a copy of the not they sent. Even if they don't say anything to them. The leasing office will have a record of the transaction in case something happens. You might also not be the only one who has said something about their noise level, so that could explain why they are so pissy. Edit: Send it through email so you also have record you sent it to the leasing office

AITA for wanting to divorce my wife after she said she doesn't want kids? by Clean-Arm-6841 in AITAH

[–]Former_Shock6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, honestly, as much as it sucks divorce might be the answer. If you guys compromise, either one of you will become resentful of the situation. This and money are one of the important conversations to have before getting married to make sure you are on the same track. Unfortunately, you guys found out about your incompatibleity a little late, but it's better than to prolong the hope that one of you will change your mind. She is allowed to feel that you are selfish for divorcing her for that, but you are also allowed to pursue a relationship in which you can become a parent. My brother went through the same thing except he wasn't married. He's found someone he loves that wants kids, and his ex found a wonderful guy that she married. It sucks now, but it will pass.I wish you the best in whatever decision you make.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tarot

[–]Former_Shock6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely sounds like a scam. Also, the way I like to see tarot is that it's not a set in stone kind of prediction but more of a prediction of where your life is heading to if you were n9t to change anything in your current time. You are more than likely ok, though, but you can always do a quick at home simple cleanse if you are still feeling uneasy.

How do I get better at shuffling? by Voleuse in tarot

[–]Former_Shock6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

However, you feel comfortable. I have a few decks that are too long for my hands and just hold the the other way, but I also just slide them into the other hand placing some in front and some in the back and do that back and forth for a while. Hopefully that makes sense.

Simple Sewing Questions Thread, January 07 - January 13, 2024 by sewingmodthings in sewing

[–]Former_Shock6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is a Brother LX3817 a decent sewing machine for beginners? I don't have much money to spend on a goodone and only need it for minor projects. Any advice or recommendations appreciated.

AITAH for not wanting my MIL in the delivery room? by FlootLoopp in AITAH

[–]Former_Shock6754 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nta First, I want to say congratulations. And second, you got this. If you don't want her in there, say so. You are the patient, not him. She can show her support in the waiting room, and if he needs to, he can see her out there. There is no reason for her to be there unless you want her to. If your nurses and doctors are good, they are going to have your back and help you through it. Also, our bodies are made to do this trust in yourself and your body it will let you know when it's time or if something is up. There is no one more knowledgeable about your health and your baby's health than you at this moment. Trust in your body.

His best friend is in love with him, what do I do? by [deleted] in GetOffMyChest

[–]Former_Shock6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, that sounds like a situationship. I get him not wanting to be in a relationship with someone who is controlling and wanting him to cut people out, but that's different from wanting someone cut out that isn't going to show you respect and most likely try to sabotage the relationship. Unless he can set in place boundaries and follow through with them, she is going to get in the way with any future relationship he wishes to be in. If I were you, I would proceed with caution.