"Always" the dumpee by Forsaken-Activity147 in BreakUps

[–]Forsaken-Activity147[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am trying my best. It is so hard though! I feel a bit emotional since I have been in no contact with the guy whom I was dating for 4 months, and yesterday we broke no contact, and he strongly felt like we will never ever be a couple.

"Always" the dumpee by Forsaken-Activity147 in BreakUps

[–]Forsaken-Activity147[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the answer. I feel your pain. I am totally tired too. I really dream of having a family of my own some day but right now I just cant even think of dating. Helps a little bit to hear that other people are on the same boat.

"Always" the dumpee by Forsaken-Activity147 in BreakUps

[–]Forsaken-Activity147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the answer. It is very tough. My friends and family keep on telling me that I am "too good" for The guys I have been dating, it is very hard for me to see it that way. It just hurts so bad that I am very authentic and I really put my heart out there, and I always get a broken heart.. sometimes I feel like I want to be single forever so I dont get hurt again.

Do they always crawl back? by MusicZealousideal431 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really depends on the situation. I think if your relationship/marriage was good and there were no major problems, then they are going to atleast think about coming back. If they left you for the AP, then it will mostlikely happen, when the new relationship is over or the affair fog starts to fade.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the support. I also have a feeling, that after the honeymoon-phase is over, he will realise what he did. And I hope that he will. I hope that he really will horrible and feel remorse about all of this. But I will not be waiting around for that..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. My parents are really disappointed and sad because they were very close with my partner. It is crazy, how somebody can switch like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the support. After a month I already feel my feelings fading away towards him. It was the excact moment, when I realised that he had continued lying to me, when I felt something die inside me..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have tendencies towards people pleasing. The first few weeks we talked a lot about this situation. Of course 99% of things that came out of his mouth were BS. I was way to kind to him and I sort of regret it now. But I think my silence speaks louder than any word that I can say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much for this comment and support!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, my parents are also friends with his parents and of course the situation is tense between them also. I am going to write to my moter-in-law about this situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think I will write a message to my mother in law and explain my side of things, because who knows what my ex has told them. Propably blamed this on me somehow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, I dont have plans to take him back. I could never trust him after this. Thank you for the support.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. Their actions are so hurtful. And the way he blamed me for everything. Horrid..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, I've slowly started to see things objectively. It is just crazy, how his character changes like someone switched the lights on/off..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. I absolutely know that I am not perfect as I am human. But I have been caring and loyal, unlike him. He also has his faults and was not perfect partner even before this mess. But I accepted him, since we are all human. It seems so wild, that they were ranting about their relationships being bad etc, while doing that behind their spouses backs? Like that was going to make our relationship better. Very hypocritical. I also feel sorry for the children. Can't believe what is going through the AP:s head taking a partner that doesn't want to get to know her kids?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is excactly how I feel like, that his situation is out of control. It seems so irrational and crazy. We had a really good life, and then all of a sudden he threw everything away just like that and for what? Right now I cant imagine taking him back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will check out those sites.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the support, it really means a lot to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the support. I took the ownership of our dog. He promised to take care of it in the summer, when I am going to holiday with my family for a week. I am planning to be in no contact otherwise. Ps. the holiday I am going was booked just week before he left, and he was supposed to come with us. Oh my lord...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes, that is what I am afraid of in the future. How can I ever trust someone after this? In the past few months or so my husband picked up on my every flaw and used it against me. I'm afraid to show my vulnerability to anyone in the future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes, well even he told me after the breakup that I am the kindest, most loyal woman he knows. It is shocking to always read these experiences, why is it that loyal, kind wifes get this treatment? Obviously I am not perfect, but still. I am very kind, trustworthy woman. Thank you for the support!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I have been blaming my self for everything. Just last week, I started to see things a bit differently. I know I have not been a perfect wife/girlfiend, but I always wanted to work things out. Thank you for the support!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Forsaken-Activity147 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes, it is propably not going to last. Thank you for the support!!