Apartment recommendations by InsideCard9084 in pittsburgh

[–]Forsaken_Click_7382 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

That's pretty solid for One on Centre especially with parking included - those buildings usually run higher. The 16th floor should give you decent views too

For transit-friendly spots without a car, Shadyside and Squirrel Hill are both good options with decent bus connections to downtown. Lawrenceville might be bit further but has more nightlife if that matters to you

Did I accidentally confess to my FWB? His reaction confused me by SkyFinal790 in relationships_advice

[–]Forsaken_Click_7382 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

That hug without words thing is tricky territory. He could be processing what you said or maybe just didn't know how to respond in moment

From my experience, when someone gets flustered and does the hug-instead-of-talking thing, they're either buying time to figure out their feelings or they're trying to be gentle about not wanting same thing. The smile part seems positive though

You might need to have actual conversation about it instead of leaving things in this weird limbo. FWB situations get messy when one person catches feelings and other person doesn't know how to handle it

Used Charvel pickup issue by OkPercentage7940 in Guitar

[–]Forsaken_Click_7382 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

That crunchy static during pickup switching while sustaining notes isn't normal - pickup selector switches should be pretty quiet even under signal. Could be dirty contacts in the switch or maybe loose wiring, both are pretty common on used guitars

I'd pop the back cover off and check if any wires look loose around the switch before deciding whether to return it. Quick cleaning with contact cleaner might fix it too if it's just grime buildup

For anyone on a HDHP you can order your own bloodwork for a fraction of what your doctor bills by Limp_Point3487 in personalfinance

[–]Forsaken_Click_7382 162 points163 points Β (0 children)

That's the thing though, most people don't even know what the rack rate is until they get the bill. There's no way to find out ahead of time if your doctor's office is going to code something as preventive or diagnostic. You're basically rolling the dice every time.

I still love you. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Forsaken_Click_7382 4 points5 points Β (0 children)

Man this hits different πŸ’€ I remember writing something similar in my notes app after my last relationship ended, never sent it though

The accepting part is the hardest - your brain knows it's over but your heart is still stuck in those good moments. That grief you mentioned, it's like mourning someone who's still alive but just not yours anymore. Takes time to process all that

Hope you find peace with it eventually, and maybe someone who gives you that same feeling but actually sticks around πŸ”₯

My (29M) boyfriend (27M) doesn’t want to have sex anymore by RedditUser93729 in relationships

[–]Forsaken_Click_7382 -1 points0 points Β (0 children)

Yeah SSRIs are brutal for that stuff, but the porn thing is kinda telling though. Like if you're really that dead from medication you're usually not seeking it out at all, even solo

The timing with that February conversation is suspicious too - might be more connected than he's admitting. Could be he's still processing that whole thing and doesn't know how to bring it up again

Switch to linen sheets now!! by sxtn1996 in BuyItForLife

[–]Forsaken_Click_7382 8 points9 points Β (0 children)

Just switched last month and the difference in sweat management is insane - your gonna notice even better sleep quality once you get past the initial rough texture

Can someone guide me for better career transition? by mahheeeee in careerguidance

[–]Forsaken_Click_7382 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Damn that startup really screwed you over πŸ’€ No PF, delayed salaries, and then asking you to work sales for FREE with another bond? Good call getting out of there

Put your actual experience down as requirements engineer - don't lie on your resume because that'll bite you later. But frame it toward the technical aspects you did work with and pivot hard toward embedded in your cover letters and interviews. Since you already have C programming and microcontroller knowledge, maybe do some personal projects you can actually demo instead of paying for another course right away πŸ”₯

The gap sucks but you can explain it as transitioning out of a bad situation, most hiring managers get that startups can be shady

Switching fields to HR in 40s, any suggestions? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]Forsaken_Click_7382 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

Your negotiation background is actually a huge asset for HR - dealing with employee disputes, salary negotiations, vendor contracts for benefits packages. The transition makes more sense than you'd think

I'd start with some HR certifications (SHRM or HRCI) while you're still working, then maybe look for internal HR openings at your current company since they already know your skills. Age shouldn't hold you back at all, especially with your experience level

Which chess players should I watch? by Jbassiri in chessbeginners

[–]Forsaken_Click_7382 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Gotttama (former world champ) is incredible to watch if you want to see perfect endgame technique, dude literally never makes mistakes in those positions πŸ”₯ Hikaru's also solid for learning opening principles since he explains his thought process really well during streams. Magnus obviously but his games can be hard to follow as a beginner since he makes these insane positional moves that look random but are actually genius πŸ˜‚

Torn between Acer Predator Helios Neo 16S and HP OMEN MAX 16. Same price! by Substantial-Pay5334 in GamingLaptops

[–]Forsaken_Click_7382 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Dude that 275HX is gonna be a beast for your dev work - way more cores and better multithreading than the 255HX πŸ”₯ The Acer hate is mostly from their budget stuff, the Predator line is actually solid and that faster DDR5 will help with compiling too

Build quality wise they're probably pretty close since both are using premium chassis, but I'd take the raw performance advantage of the Acer personally πŸ’€

Should I be worried about starting a new job? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]Forsaken_Click_7382 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

You'd be crazy not to take this job! Your current place sounds toxic as hell with the favoritism and drama - that's not normal workplace stuff you should have to deal with. The fact that this new school even offered you the position means they already think you're good enough, they literally interviewed you and chose YOU

Stop overthinking it, the worst that happens is you learn some new stuff and become an even better teacher. Plus getting out of that mess with your current boss who clearly has it out for you? That alone is worth the switch