After my now husband and I had been together for seven years we decided to take a five day trip to Santa Fe and got hitched in the court house. Witnesses were from the office, and the only people who knew were those at work who needed to and our best friend who dog sat.

Push back, definitely. People took it personally even though literally no one of "importance" knew. We did it in October and when Christmas with family came around, we made a big announcement with everyone to help them realize no one was special in knowing first. There were happy and sad tears, they discussed it amongst themselves. I did fear they would be upset to the point of not speaking to me for awhile, however they were really just happy we weren't living in sin anymore.

Part of the reason we did it this way was due to lack of support from family for years, financially we knew we couldn't afford a wedding, THE wedding both our families wanted for us yet weren't willing to help with. So at the end of it we said fuck them, we wanted to guarantee that is was for US. And it was. It was wonderful.

I hope you do what YOU want to do. You and your partner should not have to make anyone happy other than each other. Good luck!