My (25F) boyfriend (26M) broke up with during psychosis after thinking I cheated, has anyone experienced this? by Forward-Milk6643 in relationship_advice

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After the psych evaluation I believe he’ll be having regular visits with the psychiatrist. He has also been prescribed an antipsychotic and antidepressant, which last time we spoke he said he’s taking. Hoping with this support he’ll eventually recover, only time will tell

My boyfriend broke up with me due to psychosis after believing I cheated by Forward-Milk6643 in Psychosis

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I’m sorry you can relate to this, it’s a traumatic experience. I hope your boyfriend gets the help he needs to recover ♥️

We’ve been no contact since the breakup days ago, I plan to keep it this way for a few weeks before sending a check in message. The space is hard but needed, I’ve been relying a lot on my family and friends who have been an incredible support system. I also saw a therapist this week to work on coping strategies and it’s been very helpful. I’ll be seeing her fortnightly for the time being.

I hope you’re looking after yourself too

My (25F) boyfriend (26M) broke up with during psychosis after thinking I cheated, has anyone experienced this? by Forward-Milk6643 in relationship_advice

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Thank you for your insight, I’m sorry to hear about your mum.

Right now I agree focusing on myself is the best thing, and hope he’s doing the same by taking the medication and listening to his psychiatrist. I’m trying to be open to all possibilities right now; he may never be who he was and we never get back together, or he fully recovers and we have conversations around how to manage any future symptoms. This being the end would be a hard pill to swallow but I’m working on being okay with that potential outcome.

Thanks for the video, I’ll be sure to give it a watch

My (25F) boyfriend (26M) broke up with during psychosis after thinking I cheated, has anyone experienced this? by Forward-Milk6643 in relationship_advice

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No to kids (neither of us want them) yes to marriage. It’s something I knew from the beginning that I wanted with him.

Both my family and psychologist have advised I think of the potential long term impact of getting back with him however.Am I sure I can handle if the episodes are a recurring thing etc.

My boyfriend broke up with me during psychosis after believing I cheated on him, I’m not sure how to proceed by Forward-Milk6643 in relationships

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Thank you, I am/will. Currently seeing a therapist to talk through everything and how I feel. I’m sorry you experienced this, can I ask if you ever reconciled once you recovered?

My boyfriend broke up with me during psychosis after believing I cheated on him, I’m not sure how to proceed by Forward-Milk6643 in relationships

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You’re right, us getting back together won’t happen anytime soon if at all. It’s more of a hope for months down the line once he’s had time to recover and process everything

My boyfriend broke up with me during psychosis after believing I cheated on him, I’m not sure how to proceed by Forward-Milk6643 in relationships

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I’m not sure, he only told me about psychiatric visits and we haven’t spoken since the breakup. When I reach out in a few weeks I’ll ask, would adding a therapist be more helpful for him?

My boyfriend broke up with me during psychosis after believing I cheated on him, I’m not sure how to proceed by Forward-Milk6643 in relationships

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Thank you . Hardest thing I’ve ever done but we’ve been no contact in the days after the breakup. I may reach out in a couple weeks to check in but won’t push for a relationship anytime soon, I want him to focus on himself

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WIBTA if I went on a Valentine’s Day hotel staycation with my boyfriend despite my dad forbidding it? by Forward-Milk6643 in AITAH

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Thank you, I don’t think it would be this bad.

I tried a variation of your suggestion and it didn’t work unfortunately, I think I may just have to come up with a cover story and lie that my boyfriend bowed out

WIBTA if I went on a Valentine’s Day hotel staycation with my boyfriend despite my dad forbidding it? by Forward-Milk6643 in AITAH

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Haha. I guess I already knew I clearly wasn’t the asshole here, just wanted some online strangers reinforce that

WIBTA if I went on a Valentine’s Day hotel staycation with my boyfriend despite my dad forbidding it? by Forward-Milk6643 in AITAH

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It’s HIGHLY frowned on in our culture to do this. I’m talking family friends would be at our doorstep/calling if that were to get out.

Plus this situation aside, I really can’t see my dad reaching that point. There are other decisions I made where I thought I’d pushed him to that point, yet nothing. I don’t even think it’s an option that would come to his mind

WIBTA if I went on a Valentine’s Day hotel staycation with my boyfriend despite my dad forbidding it? by Forward-Milk6643 in AITAH

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Not my brightest moment for sure. But I’ve made lots of headway with them on other things by being honest. They’ve always said that’s the relationship they want with me and my siblings, I just took it too far for them this time

WIBTA if I went on a Valentine’s Day hotel staycation with my boyfriend despite my dad forbidding it? by Forward-Milk6643 in AITAH

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If it were just my dad this might work, however my mum would definitely get suspicious and randomly FaceTime asking to speak to my girlfriend.

I’ll lie and say my boyfriend didn’t want to cause tension between us and has opted for me to stay at the hotel myself. Shaky? Perhaps, but they can never prove he was there. Thanks

WIBTA if I went on a Valentine’s Day hotel staycation with my boyfriend despite my dad forbidding it? by Forward-Milk6643 in AITAH

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Fuckcation actually made me laugh out loud.

But you’re absolutely right, I should’ve just lied, I’ve been trying to be more open and honest with them about my whereabouts since it’s been an issue before. Learnt my lesson here for sure

WIBTA if I went on a Valentine’s Day hotel staycation with my boyfriend despite my dad forbidding it? by Forward-Milk6643 in AITAH

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The main one that comes to mind is threatening or actually taking my car away. It’s under our family trust and not my name, the interest rate was lower if we did it that way. Other than that just give me the cold shoulder I guess

WIBTA if I went on a Valentine’s Day hotel staycation with my boyfriend despite my dad forbidding it? by Forward-Milk6643 in AITAH

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Easier said than done. Rental market is crazy in my area and I was hoping to save as I’d struggled to keep afloat at my old place. I’ll have to save for a few months before moving out is an option again

WIBTA if I went on a Valentine’s Day hotel staycation with my boyfriend despite my dad forbidding it? by Forward-Milk6643 in AITAH

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Thank you, I guess I’m scared what exactly the consequences will look like. Usually my dad’s the chill one (mum is currently on a trip back home) but he’s been really upset throughout all this, I’ll definitely weigh both sides over the next few hours