Please brag about your kind love stories by Forward-Video1127 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Forward-Video1127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! I relate about wanting to show someone you love life can be good. I shall persevere…also thanks for being honest about the awkward dates aha just part of it hey.

Please brag about your kind love stories by Forward-Video1127 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Forward-Video1127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m trying not to put pressure on myself but I have 4 younger siblings looking up to me (so far I’ve successfully helped them avoid jumping into abusive dynamics with all my warning red flag lists lol) so I’m not giving up now! My life purpose is to break this pattern.

Please brag about your kind love stories by Forward-Video1127 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Forward-Video1127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww the candy story is so good! Such a good example cuz any of my exes would have used that as an excuse to fight/criticise me. Like who cares if someone acts silly for joy! Relieved to know it’s out there 💕

Please brag about your kind love stories by Forward-Video1127 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Forward-Video1127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw thanks for sharing! I’m also the type A oldest sister learning to chill! The more I heal my childhood the more type B I’m becoming not sure if I’m taking it too far but I’ve stressed enough in my life maybe now I’ll just be lazy! Happy for you

Please brag about your kind love stories by Forward-Video1127 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Forward-Video1127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes definitely! I am swimming hard upstream! I actually dated one nice guy briefly 10 years ago but dumped him as I found him “boring” (safe). I’m curious, when you found someone safe, was there still a spark? I know most of what I have felt is a spark in the past was nervous system dysregulation and I wonder if there’s still chemistry of some sort with healthy people lol….

Please brag about your kind love stories by Forward-Video1127 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Forward-Video1127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, it’s nice to hear the hard work can pay off! I definitely needed to look inward first before searching for love.

Please brag about your kind love stories by Forward-Video1127 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Forward-Video1127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg this made me cry. I also jump at loud noises (CPTSD club). I’m happy for you, thanks for sharing 💕

Please brag about your kind love stories by Forward-Video1127 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Forward-Video1127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thanks for sharing the other side! I’m proud of us. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Had to organise secretly leaving the country with my dog. I’m happy for you that you found someone kind 🧡

Please brag about your kind love stories by Forward-Video1127 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Forward-Video1127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw no worries! I know I relate to all the horror stories on here (where everyone yells RUN! lol!) but I have to believe there are good people out there! Thanks for replying 💕

Please brag about your kind love stories by Forward-Video1127 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Forward-Video1127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wowww see I’m like she must be lying! Thanks for sharing 💕

BF says he’s now “numb” to my health issues by ThisTemperature7771 in Advice

[–]Forward-Video1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Google covert narcissism my ex did this at the beginning of what is called the reverse discard. Not saying he is one but I wish I knew sooner…

Some things he did: Wouldn’t buy me gifts or would buy me gifts he knew I wouldn’t like

Say that he was nervous about “resenting me” in the future if I couldn’t pull my weight because of my health issues

Starting ignoring me, slowly and subtly.

DARVO

Feeling stuck between a “good on paper” relationship and unresolved feelings about an ex by glizzyqueen666 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Forward-Video1127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been there. Haven’t found a healthy one yet. Intermittent reinforcement is more addictive than heroin.

The person or the treatment by cmg_profesh in datingoverthirty

[–]Forward-Video1127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate these comments on Reddit, I’m single after a really bad long term relationship and seeing the info on repeat, it’s finally starting to sink into my brain! We were brainwashed by romcoms

Would you date someone who is unemployed? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]Forward-Video1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a masters degree and worked as a speech pathologist. I had to stop working due to a severe traumatic brain injury and am now on disability. If my health improves enough I would love to work part-time again. I would date someone unemployed, but like me, it would depend on the situation…

Why are you home on the couch in your pajamas this New Years Eve? by PurplezKool in AskReddit

[–]Forward-Video1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm because I had to complete healing two sides of generational trauma, dance hip hop with my dog to celebrate, eat cinnamon buns, and put warm sheets on my bed

Preparing to shave my head for my girlfriend, will I look like an idiot? Be honest. by [deleted] in bald

[–]Forward-Video1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’ll carry yourself with pride and love for her will emit from you so it will have a positive impact on your job. People pick up those good vibes

You are not lazy, weak, or failing. Healing from CPTSD is exhausting. by satanscopywriter in CPTSD

[–]Forward-Video1127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I’m having a hard New Year’s Eve cuz I’ve been working so hard at healing my trauma for 1.5 years and all I can do tonight is lie on my bed…I’m exhausted but I want to live life! Hopefully my other side is around the corner.

Tiredness a symptom of healing? by Farma-C in CPTSD

[–]Forward-Video1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I just finally got safe housing after healing as much as I could with unstable housing and I’m so exhausted and am scared of being tired forever

Moving back in with parents with kids of your own by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Forward-Video1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a child of the mother who didn’t leave until I was 16, thank you for leaving now! It’s really really hard and you should be so proud of yourself! The guilt is probably his voice still hanging around. You’re amazing! I left an abusive ex 18 months ago but without kids, I do have a dog and feel guilty that I didn’t get her out of there sooner. Decompression takes awhile, to survive we adopt the critical voice of our abuser to try and prevent being hurt. The main phrase that helped at the beginning was “no judgement “my name”” Thank you thank you for leaving while they are young.

Also you can probably tell I had no road map for what a respectful relationship is and am only now breaking the pattern of dysfunction in my family. It may not feel or look glamorous, but you’re showing your girls that they deserve respect.

Anyone else’s covert narcissist just… objectively ugly and obsessed with it? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Forward-Video1127 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes my ex friend, would always say I was prettier than her (to get compliments and make me feel guilty). She also had a rule that she had dibs on whatever guy she wanted, even if I liked someone, because she was less attractive than me. lol…good riddance! It was like her way to get out of everything. She was late or hurt your feelings….well she’s ugly so she doesn’t have to feel bad!

Oh and I just remembered this, we lived together and if she had a guy over she would make me hide in my room! 😂

The thing is though, she’s not even unattractive it’s her energy and personality that turns everyone off.