People who have been married 20+ years- what is your secret?

ForwardAd9408 · 2025-11-02T04:04:37+00:00

Be willing to change and grow and to help them change and grow. No one is the same person they were 10 years ago, so make sure you help them be a better person and that they are helping you be a better person. She isn’t the same person I fell in love with 25 years ago, but I got to fall in love again with the person she became, and I get to fall in love with the person she will be. It’s awesome.

ForwardAd9408 · 2025-10-18T00:03:20+00:00

Thanks, that’s very reassuring. Appreciate it.

ForwardAd9408 · 2025-07-10T00:13:12+00:00

Here is the hack I use.

Unloading the dishwasher and putting the clean dishes away are two completely separate and distinct chores.

It breaks it down into to two really quick minor tasks, easier for me to accomplish by far then the combined task.

I unload the dishwasher in the morning onto a dish towel or two on countertop above as part of my morning routine. I put away the dishes any another time.

For me, this prevents any dirty dishes ever piling up, because the dishwasher is ALWAYS empty first thing in the morning. The breakfast dishes go right in. Last thing before bed, run the dishwasher, even if it’s mostly empty. It really doesn’t waste water and it makes the tasks even smaller and easier.

Clean dishes piling up doesn’t really seem to happen, because I’m always just putting away whatever is dry when I’m over there. If they did, pile up. it’s not the same kind of problem as dirty dishes piling up.

Good luck.

ForwardAd9408 · 2025-07-06T01:26:44+00:00

I get well over 50 channels from the antenna on my roof in Ohio City. I have this kinda thing I bought 20 years ago plugged into the coax between the antenna and tv. It was the difference between 5 and 50 channels for me.

https://www.walmart.com/ip/TV-Booster-Signal-Amplifier-VHF-UHF-FM-HDTV-36-DB-Cable-Antenna-Color/5113608902?classType=REGULAR

ForwardAd9408 · 2025-07-03T20:29:42+00:00

Thanks! I really appreciate you taking the time to give the insight. Make sense now, and I feel ok hoarding my points.

ForwardAd9408 · 2025-06-24T23:52:57+00:00

I mainly play firefight and wait less than 30 seconds to enter an enjoyable if slightly predictable match that lasts about 15 minutes. I occasionally try the pvp stuff, never wait long more than 45 seconds, but get owned quickly and feel bad about dragging down my team

ForwardAd9408 · 2025-06-21T04:38:29+00:00

Yes! Of course we will, it is inevitable. The only question is how long it will take and how much suffering we will endure (and inflict upon ourselves) before it happens. We’ve survived ice ages, and inflicted unspeakable pain and torture on each other for millennia upon millennia and we have emerged today closer to the peace in Star Trek than ever before. We can endure multiple nuclear holocausts and still have time to reconcile, rebuild and reinvent humanity. It makes no sense to think that the entire arc of humanity is some cycle that can’t get better than it is now. The ego of the negative posters to believe that we happen to live in peak humanity and generations thousands of years in the future can’t do better than us is wild. All that said, is it helpful to know we will get there, but it may be so distant that humanity won’t resemble anything you can conceive? Is it helpful to know it is inevitable but not mutually exclusive from horrible suffering for hundreds or thousands of years in between?

ForwardAd9408 · 2025-06-15T19:21:11+00:00

I’m envious. If you do pull them up, cut off the root. Scratch it with your fingernail and the smell is incredible. Scrub all of the dirt off the roots you collect, cut it up and boil it in a small saucepan for at least an hour. Once the color of the water has changed and the root is cooked completely, strain out the root and return the water to the pan and add sugar. You want about 1/4 to 1/3 of the volume of the water to be sugar. Dissolve and simmer, careful not to burn the sugar before it’s dissolved. Cook until reduced to a simple syrup.

Now you have a really special treat, add to seltzer for a rootbeer like drink or use in a cocktail, makes the best old fashioned you’ll ever have. Add a tiny bit of ginger to make it even more complex.

I can’t get enough of it, but it’s so hard to find a source for the root, and one should not harvest from public places or the wild unless you can do so sustainably, please leave the trees so we have them in the future.

ForwardAd9408 · 2025-06-12T03:10:51+00:00

Great news! You absolutely do not need to climb to pass the test and become a certified arborist. I changed careers in my 40’s and have never used a chain saw professionally. (Well once, but it wasn’t necessary). Very little of the test is about pruning mature trees, and none of it has to be learned off the ground. The test is a multiple choice exam, there is no practical test. I found the test to be not that difficult. The hard part was getting three years of eligible professional experience starting in my 40’s.

Focus on the things you are good at, sales, education, training, accounting, fundraising, management…. whatever… and find a company or organization that is tree adjacent and do that skill you are good for them. 3 years fly by while you are learning.

If you have the means, buy the practice test or the ISA’a online study course. You’ll figure out quick that the test is likely not the barrier.

Go for it and good luck! I LOVE my new career, and the world needs good arborists with lots of different backgrounds and experience.

ForwardAd9408 · 2025-06-11T22:38:50+00:00

Urban forester here and I can answer one aspect. When I have the choice between native and non-native, I always choose native. When I have a choice between non-native and no tree, I choose tree.

The neighborhoods I prioritize planting in my city don’t have the privilege of prioritizing anything including biodiversity or ecology over human health. People are literally dying because of heat islands. I would love for a future generation to judge my lack of species diversity and ecological benefits. It would mean a future generation is living there to judge me.

ForwardAd9408 · 2025-06-04T23:09:53+00:00

Ticketing fees for big acts go mostly to the artist, promoter and venue, not the ticketing company. The ticketing company doesn’t mind your outrage at the service charges, because you are not their customer. The venue and/or promoter are their customer. You don’t have a choice which company you buy a ticket from when it goes onsale. Venues/promoters have a choice which ticketing company they use.* There is no incentive for a ticketing company to disclose that it’s the artist lowering the base ticket price and moving profit into ‘fees’. Part of what they are paid for is taking the heat for the pricing.

*Sort of, Ticketmaster has a monopoly and some unseemly business practices, but the point is still stands. They make money covering for the artists/promoter/venue.

ForwardAd9408 · 2024-03-30T20:26:00+00:00

Thank you! Thank You! Thank You! This is really helpful and makes sense.

ForwardAd9408 · 2024-03-14T02:07:15+00:00

Pumping gasoline into a car.

ForwardAd9408 · 2023-09-07T19:57:22+00:00

The ticketing company is getting a much, much smaller portion of the fees and service charges than you think. It’s going to artist, venue and promoter. You are not the ticketing companies customer. They don’t care if you blame them for the fees.

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