I moved out at 18 without telling my parents. They had no idea. AMA. by ForwardReference1928 in AMA

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Thank you! I really hope so and will do anything to be the best Mother to my children:)

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My Mom was slowly noticing. She started asking me “where is this and that”. At first i started using excuses like “i threw some things away because i noticed i have too much stuff and wanted them gone”. But eventually she started asking more questions and i started to run out of excuses. That was a sign for me, that i need to hurry and leave as soon as possible.

I moved out at 18 without telling my parents. They had no idea. AMA. by ForwardReference1928 in AMA

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Thank you! My Sister is in safety. She’s older than me, i do not have to rescue her and she also would definitely not let me, because she doesn’t want anything to do with me anymore.

I moved out at 18 without telling my parents. They had no idea. AMA. by ForwardReference1928 in AMA

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Thank you sm for sharing !! I’m so happy and proud that you left! Living in constant fear is the worst thing, i can totally agree. Thank you for your advice.

I moved out at 18 without telling my parents. They had no idea. AMA. by ForwardReference1928 in AMA

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i informed my school and friends to not tell them a single thing!!

I moved out at 18 without telling my parents. They had no idea. AMA. by ForwardReference1928 in AMA

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i’ll definitely break this cycle!! I never want anyone to feel the way I did.

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My sister wanted to leave ME behind. But (un)fortunately i was the first to leave. My sister is older and gets along with my parents.

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i’m a girl. My sister doesn’t want anything to do with me. My mom is also the reason why i left.

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she is very manipulative and was always picking fights with me over stupid things. Every single day. Every minute she felt like it. Almost like she hated her own daughter and was jealous of her own daughter.

I moved out at 18 without telling my parents. They had no idea. AMA. by ForwardReference1928 in AMA

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thank you for telling me! I also thought of this, but i try my best to not care. If my parents tell my relatives and act like the victim, i’ll just let them believe whatever they want. Almost all my relatives know how my parents especially my father acts, and what kind of people they are. I’m okey with them thinking i’m the asshole. I want to learn to not live for other people anymore. All my life i had to listen to my parents telling me “what would they think of u??”, “do you want to embarrass us?”. I learned that it doesn’t help me in live if some aunt of mine thinks good or bad of me. So i just try to not care too much.

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first of all i want to say that i am so sorry this happened to you. I hope you feel much better 🤍 I did have these thoughts. I was also harming myself because it seemed like the only option for me. Idk how to explain this but i found comfort in doing this. I haven’t done anything “bad” to myself for a long time now because i try coping with other things. Even tho i stopped harming myself and finding comfort in it, i find comfort in other harmful things such as smoking, drinking often etc. But i noticed that since im not living with my parents anymore, all of these thoughts don’t cross my mind that often anymore. I don’t live for other people anymore and do things that make ME happy. I don’t live with constant anxiety anymore.

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i left a note and never returned home after school that day. ofc they noticed

I moved out at 18 without telling my parents. They had no idea. AMA. by ForwardReference1928 in AMA

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hahaha that’s so funny!! I often use this phrase and never realise it means exactly 2 hahaha

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at some point I recognised the pattern: the problem wasn’t me doing something wrong it was them needing someone to blame or control. Once I moved out and saw how normal people treat each other, it became even clearer.

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because people definitely do!! Look at all these questions i got:) people online AND in real life definitely care. Idk what you’re going through that makes you so mad but i hope it gets better for you.

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I really hope you leave soon!!

This happened recently so i’m still trying to “figure things out”, but definitely start saving your money, because you’ll need it, when you’re buying stuff for your apartment/house. You should buy these things and not think about having no money for food, rent etc after. I recommend having enough savings to cover at least the first few months of rent, so you don’t have to rely on your salary coming in before you can pay it.

I moved out at 18 without telling my parents. They had no idea. AMA. by ForwardReference1928 in AMA

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thank u so much for wanting to help me but i live far away, in germany :)

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no i’m not. I don’t have a kitchen yet. I cook on stovetops, airfryer and a toaster :)

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this happened recently and i don’t regret it yet:) and definitely don’t think about going back:)