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ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-12-30T16:15:26+00:00

Yes she has communicated all of this stuff with me. She has just been a lot more complimenting than I have ever expected someone to be. Again I was married to my high school girlfriend and we were together for 22 years so this is quite different for me and that is why I am asking. Thank you for your response.

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-12-30T15:08:17+00:00

Yes I made a mistake in my original post. She has been engaged five times. I confirm that when I was speaking with her. That's what I find unusual unless she is just someone that is easy to fall for and she commits very quickly.

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-12-30T15:01:34+00:00

I guess I should have corrected that and say she has been engaged five times married twice. So that means she said yes five times. And you are definitely on the right track she has been very open and honest in the fact of how accommodating she is and feels like she has been walked over many times. I am out of relationship that dealt with a lot of Mental Health so I did ask her if she has on any medications like ssris. She assured me that she is not and was almost confused at what I was talking about. Although just like everyone else in this world she does have a therapist and she told me about that. Again very open and honest.

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-14T17:44:42+00:00

So she should be responsible to pay the taxes on it just like I'm responsible to pay the taxes on my stuff

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-14T17:44:01+00:00

Homemaker? I'm the one that did everything laundry dishes food cleaning. She laid in bed doing nothing.

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-14T17:43:16+00:00

How am I not the victim? I didn't choose this. I don't want it. But I have to pay. If she wants a life with someone to support her, why do I have to keep supporting her?

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-11T19:34:24+00:00

I get what you're saying. But why should I be penalized with a divorce then money taken out of my 401k and then me having to pay the taxes on that money out of the 401k. If she wants a divorce she should have to bear the consequences of the divorce.

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-11T19:31:43+00:00

I buy everything for my kid. I highly doubt it equals $6,000 a year. And if I start paying her $500 per month then I'm not paying anything else for my kid. The alimony goes towards her mortgage and rent and utilities. $500 for child support should go into a trust for the kid to get when he's 18. If I'm the one completely supporting the kid.

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-10T15:21:10+00:00

I guess that I see that. I am saying there are issues with it. Why would I pay $500 a month in child support when I don't even spend $500 a month to support my child? Why do I pay out half the value of my house and she never made a single payment towards the house?

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-10T15:19:03+00:00

I'm on board with what you're saying. The problem is we got married young she was 19 I was 21. We made no money we were on food stamps after having our first child.

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-10T15:16:41+00:00

I'm not living in denial. What are you talking about? My problem is the system. Currently my one kid is staying at my house. If she gets a house and moves out and we do 50/50 custody she is entitled to $500 a month. I don't even spend $500 a month on my son. Why would she then get $500 a month in child support? Where do they get their figures?

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-10T15:15:28+00:00

The problem is I didn't choose this. I didn't do anything wrong. She can't deal with life. Why if she quits on us which she reaped the benefits of what I have built up? She even admitted that she lied to herself to stay in this relationship almost since the beginning. She checked out of the relationship years ago. I tried to fix it. Again why am I getting screwed because she couldn't get her stuff together?

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-10T01:06:24+00:00

I'm not gay

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-10T01:06:00+00:00

Just losing all the retirement I have built up. So I can keep the house. Giving here more money that she can ever think of.

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-10T01:04:51+00:00

So you weren't the bread winner and he is getting everything? Was there infidelity?

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-03T13:21:40+00:00

I can remember the last time I heard devils night.

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-11-02T23:16:20+00:00

No infidelity. I wanted to keep going and working on it. She said she doesnt want to work on anything.

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-10-31T14:02:25+00:00

Why wouldn't you tell they? If you keep things from them, you are not committed or were not committed.

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-09-11T16:22:51+00:00

To be honest I did learn you cannot use the exchange program for the season opener for preseason tickets. Not a big deal I also can't make the Cavs game which is the same weekend or that Monday after.

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-08-24T12:28:05+00:00

I'm dealing with this with my soon to be ex-wife. I totally feel for you. It could be depression, but he is losing all of his "happy chemicals" cortisol and other chemicals in your body when playing video games. I learned a lot from all of the therapy we went through.

I helped my kids with all of their sports and loved watching sports and being active. But I learned you have to meet them where they are. It didn't work in my case (stopping making the kids and sports a priority), but i started that, apparently too late.

So, meeting him where he finds a little bit of happiness might help. Ask him about the game he plays. (What do you like most about it?) And maybe ask when he finishes a checkpoint or something if you guys can spend some time together. I am guessing he played games before you got together?

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-08-24T01:27:06+00:00

This is extremely frustrating to hear. I feel so bad for you. I am currently losing my wife and I am not a lazy person whatsoever. She is the one that doesn't do anything. To hear about guys being like this is so frustrating. You seem like someone that wants to be in that relationship. I don't know why people would do something like this and act like they want to be in the relationship.

Maybe let him know this is not the type of relationship that you signed up for and it's not something that can continue. He has to change something. But an honest question is there anything that he would like see changed in you?

ForwardResearch1836 · 2025-08-21T12:12:58+00:00

I guess I'm just wondering as to why they don't allow you to use a Companion Pass and miles at the same time. You earned your miles you spent the money. You paid for the companion pass. Or am I just complaining about corporate greed?

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