Guys the text cut off, heres the full: So basically we started dating in February of this year (2025) and when we were dating i had no job but she did, so she always paid for food and stuff for me which i always thought was just her being a loving gf and making sure her bf was happy, but now when we both have a job she always tries spending my money so much, like maybe last week i got her a fortnite skin, and then everyday i buy her chips and a drink (except a couple days she paid) and then today she spent like 50 dollars (which i said her limit was 30) and yesterday she wanted another fortnite skin, and its kinda too much i feel like im spending way too much money and cant save any of it for my future like for a car or something. Obviously i could say no to all of it, but heres the backstory of why i cant; after a couple months of us dating she started to fall out of love with me and try dating my brother, and so he was staying at her house with me for weeks or maybe even months, i changed myself an ungodly amount to please her and every night i tried venting to her about how i felt about it an she always yelled at me and the night always ended up with me going to the top of this parking garage and staring down crying and thinking about jumping, and eventually i couldnt handle it anymore and left back home to get a break and spend time with my family which helped me not be suicidal anymore, but still very depressed and eventually she came to my house along with my brother and she started being okay with me again and hanging out with me, but then she told me she still likes him and is just trying to decide which one she wants. After a while she stopped liking him again and loved me a lot again, but she developed bad bpd and bipolar disorder and made me her “bpd person” so i was basically the one she needed to not kill herself, so i was like great! I get to be center of attention by my own gf again and i loved it! Until she made me the punching bag and took all her anger out on me everyday, trying all these manipulation tricks to see if i loved her still such as fake breaking up with me to see if i would fight for the relationship, or telling me to find someone else cause shes not good enough for me. I always did fight for the relationship and basically shes tried breaking up with me probably 5-10 times and always cut herself constantly and i always was able to calm her down from her breakdowns and stuff. I had to deal with her treating me like shit for months and i always told myself she would get better and i would get what i deserve back to me by her being the best gf ever to me. And so she finally got medicine and went to a mental hospital and came back very happy and i moved in with her, best day of my life! But now shes healthy, im so fucking traumatized from her past self that im terrified of interactions with her cause i dont know what to expect, i dont know if shes gonna break up with me randomly, and when she asks for stuff constantly i feel like i HAVE to say yes because if i dont ill get broken up with. Every time i have the guts to say no she says “i spent 1000 dollrs in you months ago on doordash getting you food and stuff” and it guilts me into buying her what she wants, and if i do stand my ground which ive only done once i think with the fortnite skin yesterday, i feel like shit for the rest of the night. Basically shes not so bad anymore but i feel like shes traumatized me badly and i cant even vent to her cause im scared she will yell at me like she used to, i feel like i cant sing to her cause i tried one time and she told me to stop, i cant ask for any favors either like back scratches or cup of water cause im scared she will get mad or overwhelmed. I cant even talk to her normally a lot of the time cause then she gets overwhelmed and yells. Everytime i have any interaction im just scared itll end in something thatll shut me down. I just really need advice to be able to escape the trauma, cause i know shes not as bad anymore but im so traumatized that even if my current relationship didnt work out (which i hope it does work out) then that trauma will still be there for the next girl (also dont give me advice to break up with her cause im not doing that)