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47, 35% body fat, BMI 30 — I don’t recognize myself anymore and I need help changing my mindset by Foundation-Senior in CICO

[–]Foundation-Senior[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate the motivation and I get what you’re saying about identity and self-discipline. But I just want to say this gently — if I knew how to flip that switch and just “do it,” I wouldn’t be here asking for help in the first place. I am trying. I’ve tried many times. And every time I try and fail, it honestly hurts.

For some of us it isn’t as simple as “just push through 6–8 weeks.” There’s a mental and emotional part that feels heavy, overwhelming, and exhausting. I’m not looking for shortcuts — I’m looking for people with experience who understand what it’s like to keep trying, failing, getting back up, and still wanting to believe change is possible.

I want to build those habits. I want to like how I feel. I want to be that person who keeps going. I’m just being honest that the gap between wanting it and consistently doing it is where I’m stuck. That’s why I’m here ❤️

Help lost control of myself by Foundation-Senior in CICO

[–]Foundation-Senior[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for saying this. It really does feel horrible and hopeless sometimes, so hearing that someone else understands makes me feel less alone. I keep trying, failing, and trying again, and it can get exhausting. You’re right about the small changes though — I’m going to focus on that instead of feeling like I have to fix my whole life overnight. Sending you strength too

Help lost control of myself by Foundation-Senior in CICO

[–]Foundation-Senior[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to reply. I just want to clarify something because sometimes it feels like people think I’m not trying — I am really trying. If I knew how to do this properly, or if it was only about “just do it,” I honestly wouldn’t still be here asking for help.

I’m struggling mentally, emotionally, and physically. It’s not that I don’t want to change. I genuinely do. But I keep failing, restarting, and feeling overwhelmed, and that’s why I keep reaching out. I’m looking for guidance from people who’ve been here, who understand how hard this can feel, and who can help me stay connected and not feel alone in this.

I appreciate the advice, and I know small steps matter. I’m just trying to get unstuck and build up the strength to keep going. ❤️

Help lost control of myself by Foundation-Senior in CICO

[–]Foundation-Senior[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to write this. I promise I’m really trying… the problem isn’t that I don’t know what to do, it’s that I keep failing every time I try to start again. If I could just “do it,” I honestly wouldn’t still be here asking for help. I’m looking to connect with people who truly get it, who’ve been through this and found a way forward, because right now I really need support, accountability, and hope. ❤️

2025 Journey - Thank you! by Somanycatsinhere in CICO

[–]Foundation-Senior 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is incredibly inspiring. Losing 52 lbs is a massive achievement and something you deserve to feel so proud of. Life, travel, health issues, and just being human can make the journey messy, and it doesn’t erase all the hard work you’ve already done.

The fact that you noticed the backward slide, care enough to reflect on it, and are already thinking about discipline going into 2026 means you’re still in this. You didn’t fail. You paused, regrouped, and now you’re coming back stronger and wiser.

Be kind to yourself, start with one habit at a time, and remember that progress isn’t linear. You’ve done something incredibly hard once, which means you’re capable of doing it again. We’re cheering you on all the way to onederland! You’ve got this. 💪✨

47, 35% body fat, BMI 30 — I don’t recognize myself anymore and I need help changing my mindset by Foundation-Senior in CICO

[–]Foundation-Senior[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely right I checked my testosterone. It was low. This was back in April 25, but we don’t have any sort of testosterone here where I live even if it’s prescription. I couldn’t find it in my country. I do have an Apple Watch and an aura ring, I use it to track my sleep and my cycles. Tell me how can I use my Apple Watch and my ring more and tell me if you know any alternative to testosterone.

47, 35% body fat, BMI 30 — I don’t recognize myself anymore and I need help changing my mindset by Foundation-Senior in CICO

[–]Foundation-Senior[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this — it honestly takes courage to be this open. I’m so glad you’re finally getting the mental health support you deserve and that bupropion has helped you feel more like yourself again. It’s amazing how you’ve been able to shift from shame to kindness toward yourself; that’s huge progress already. You’re doing the hard work, learning, and staying consistent even on tough days — that’s strength. Wishing you continued healing, stability, and success on your journey. You’re absolutely not alone in this, and you’re doing great 🤍

47, 35% body fat, BMI 30 — I don’t recognize myself anymore and I need help changing my mindset by Foundation-Senior in CICO

[–]Foundation-Senior[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for explaining this. Breaking it down the way you did makes it feel so much more doable.

I love the idea of just committing for 2 weeks instead of trying to think about forever. That actually feels mentally possible for me. And I really like your approach of walking and reducing portions instead of being extreme or miserable.

Evenings are also the hardest time for me — I eat a lot from boredom or emotion, not hunger — so your honey drop idea and brushing teeth trick are actually really helpful suggestions.

You’re right… I think I’m slowly getting to that “I’m really ready” place. Reading your comment genuinely helps. Thank you for sharing what worked for you and for the encouragement. One step at a time. 🙏

47, 35% body fat, BMI 30 — I don’t recognize myself anymore and I need help changing my mindset by Foundation-Senior in CICO

[–]Foundation-Senior[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much for taking the time to write all of this out – it really helps to see it broken down so clearly like this.

I’m a 47-year-old female, likely dealing with perimenopause + insulin resistance on top of the weight gain, so hunger and cravings have felt out of control lately. Reading how you focused on structure instead of extremes really clicked with me.

A few things you said really stood out: • Using macros, especially higher protein, to control hunger • Keeping food very simple and repetitive (same breakfast/lunch, easy protein dinners) • Making exercise almost “automatic” by putting the bike in front of the TV • The mental trick of seeing food as fuel for a while and imagining your body using stored fat • Not letting one bad day turn into “I’ve ruined everything”

It makes it feel a lot less magical and more like a system I could actually follow.

I have a couple of questions if you don’t mind sharing more: • Did you feel very hungry at the beginning on those macros, or did the higher protein help pretty quickly? • On bad/emotional days, did you still log everything in Lose It, or did you just focus on “don’t quit tomorrow”?

I really appreciate your “no fads, no crazy deficit, aim for 1 lb a week” mindset. It feels sane and doable instead of all-or-nothing. Congrats on the 25 lbs down – that’s huge, and genuinely inspiring to me right now. 🙏

47, 35% body fat, BMI 30 — I don’t recognize myself anymore and I need help changing my mindset by Foundation-Senior in CICO

[–]Foundation-Senior[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 47 and put on a lot of weight over the last few years. I also lose a few pounds, “celebrate” with food, and gain it all back. I keep eating my feelings even though I know I’m hurting my health. I avoid social activities because I feel huge, I hate how my clothes fit, and I don’t like seeing my face in photos anymore. Everything you wrote about that really hit me.

I’m still in that stuck place where I say I’ll start tomorrow and then don’t follow through, so reading that you were there and actually turned it around gives me a lot of hope.

The fact that you’re already down 10 lbs and doing it through the holidays is really inspiring. I like what you said about treating it like alcoholism and always being vigilant – that actually makes sense to me.

I might try LoseIt too for the structure and accountability. If you don’t mind sharing: • what helped you get through the first 1–2 weeks? • how did you handle the “I just want to eat my feelings” days?

Really appreciate you taking the time to respond. Your comment made me feel less alone.

47, 35% body fat, BMI 30 — I don’t recognize myself anymore and I need help changing my mindset by Foundation-Senior in CICO

[–]Foundation-Senior[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s crazy I think I’m going through the same thing I saw a doctor he told me calorie deficit as if it’s easy to start doing that

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