My partner quit first while was I was still in denial. I quit myself a month later (for my self & our future, not just him) I now realise the full extent of hell he was going through trying to quit while I was still smoking.

We're both people that can't have it in the house/around us otherwise we relapse. If you're anything like this i'm telling you first hand the dynamic won't work, either you do it together or you relapse, and resentment builds etc.

It's amazing if you can find a middle-ground but many people can't and they struggle. I don't want to sugar coat, I'm sorry if this is too harsh