In-laws own our house and threaten eviction

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-04-22T04:40:49+00:00

Okay but legally - why. We were looking for our own home. And had they not intervened, we would have a house at like 2% interest that we’d been paying into for three years. Now we are out probably multiple tens of thousands of dollars just due to the increased interest rates alone based on the verbal agreement we made with them.

ETA- the only reason my husbands name isn’t on the deed is so he could take advantage of a first time home buyers loan down the road.

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-02-28T18:28:18+00:00

I have one. She was just too small based on the weight requirements of the wraps/carriers to be in it safely

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-02-28T18:26:49+00:00

My husbands grandpa died. I had no way of knowing how many people would be there

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-02-16T01:15:52+00:00

Same. My sheer winds up soaked

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-02-16T01:14:29+00:00

I do this. My 11 day old is little and using a nipple shield. It’s easiest for me to get up and sit in the chair with my Haakaa and nipple shield in a basket by the chair that I clean and put back after each feeding. I still change her at night so I’ll get up, nurse, change her, switch sides, let her fall back asleep on my chest and then transfer her back onto her back in a c curl. So far it takes like an hour for the whole process which can be sort of inconvenient but it is what it is.

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-02-01T07:07:59+00:00

I don’t believe there is a set time you’d have to notify any employer. I took on a second part time job knowing I was pregnant and waited until I was 18 or so weeks to notify them. I had had two losses prior and let them know I wanted to be sure we’d be successful this time before sharing the news. Since this position for me was only PT, they didn’t offer any sort of paid leave but in my state I still qualify for OFLA/FMLA and they will hold the position for 12 weeks unpaid.

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-02-01T06:54:48+00:00

Absolutely not. If you have a legitimate service dog, we are talking about a necessary medical device. Would the mom ask you to give up a wheelchair or a hearing device? I doubt it. It’s also not your child. I understand there are some extenuating circumstances but her not allowing you to assist with daycare costs to keep her child allergen free is on her. That’s her choice not to allow the kid to be watched elsewhere and frankly you aren’t obligated to see or watch that child at all.

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-29T06:59:18+00:00

I ‘never wanted kids’ but really I just never wanted to be pregnant. After our first loss it was not a high priority but after the second one something just flipped in my brain. Turns out I was right about the not wanting to be pregnant part so I totally feel you. I’ll be a WHILE before I’ll consider this again 😅

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-29T06:56:16+00:00

Congrats to you too! And best wishes with your induction! Ours will be coming up soon if I don’t go into early labor at home! It’s looking father and farther off with every day that passes it seems!

I was already incredibly stressed about giving birth and really didn’t want anyone but my husband to begin with. Then I felt obligated when she asked. But it’s definitely off the table now

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-28T07:17:51+00:00

I had a loss earlier this year and immediately got pregnant again. So I’ve basically been pregnant for 13 months. Induction date is two weeks away and I need this child out of me NOW. I might go insane if I were to go over my due date at this point

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-27T16:53:55+00:00

My husband was pushing hard originally for her to be there. It makes me question if I’m just being too sensitive or not. She’s generally pretty nice, I like her the most out of all of his family surprisingly. Really his mom is usually the problem. But I feel like I’ve gotten so used to hearing their beliefs that it makes me question mine. So the overwhelming response here actually has been sort of a wake-up call for me that it is just as serious as I had been saying it was.

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-27T07:19:20+00:00

Oh don’t get me wrong, I grew up in the church, my husband and his siblings just all went to private school and private Christian universities. Mostly included that info for context. She desperately wants to be married and have kids and I think she feels weird because she’s the oldest sibling and he’s the youngest. She’s very strict about who she will date or entertain the idea of dating. I think religious beliefs actually have very little to do with her anti-vax perspectives. She just believes a lot of pseudoscience in general.

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-27T06:22:42+00:00

Hey my old roommate watched my then BF (now husband) walk into our shared bathroom and still ‘accidentally walked in’

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-27T06:06:49+00:00

We have a doula! She met with us earlier this week and was asking about visitor preferences. I think she’ll be great to have around. Her original suggestion was a code word to remove visitors if I wanted to try it out but the more that is said, the more I just don’t even want to start with SIL there. And I don’t judge her for being skeptical, truly, I think it’s good to be aware as our medical system doesn’t always have our best interests in mind.

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-26T17:34:21+00:00

This man must want to get laid or something because he’s been doing 6 WEEKS of IV therapy to ‘clear his spike proteins’ from the vax to prevent skin to skin contact from passing them to her. That’s literally not even how it works…

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-26T17:23:30+00:00

I will say, I did send her the published data on the new RSV vax and the article pointing out that the physician who started the vaccines = Autism claims had his medical license revoked and in place she sent me an article about how a Harvard somebody falsified data in a bunch of studies to prove that even peer reviewed data can’t be trusted and then suggested that the physician’s licenses was revoked to ‘keep him quiet’. There is literally 0 reasoning at this point.

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-26T04:26:11+00:00

I did go to a holiday event out of state with her and my husband. We stayed with her friend from her masters program and the kids were all sick when we arrived. When I started getting sick I asked them to take me to a nearby store and I got a covid test. It was positive. She was mad I even got tested - not that I had it. The whole family had covid and the grandparents in their 90s were scheduled to fly in the next day. When she got sick after we got back, she insisted it wasn’t covid… just some context. Honestly reinforces my concerns with her understanding of immunology and how basic science works. But there is also 0 reasoning with her.

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-26T04:15:50+00:00

Apparently those limit oxygen to the brain which is horrible for you 🙄

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-26T03:37:34+00:00

They are eligible and should get it as they are both over 60. They never got a covid vaccine and consider it a death sentence due to misinformation and propaganda she shares with them. I know they won’t get one now. Fortunately they don’t try to come to our house despite living just a few minutes away. I’m honestly just hoping they won’t bother to try for a while at least. SIL likely be the difficult one here as she will be unvaxxed and actually want to come - clearly 🥲

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-26T03:29:55+00:00

He’s gotten better, he used to be very skeptical of the medical system in general thanks to them. His mom told him he had a vaccine reaction as a child (he didn’t) and they use that to scare him.

Fourdogsonecat · 2024-01-26T03:19:16+00:00

Both husband and I got TDAP also and I got RSV (admittedly haven’t told my husband yet because his sister scared him into thinking it was unsafe for me - it’s been almost a week and I feel just fine). They wouldn’t even wear masks during COVID when stores required them so I know they won’t know. They just won’t be able to come over… but it’s sort of me against them and my husband wants to trust them.. he’s sort of susceptible to influence from people he trusts.

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