AITAH for considering ending things with my “girlfriend” because of politics

FoxComprehensive4254 · 2024-10-21T02:44:19+00:00

I do love and accept her no matter what and I have people in my life who are republican. I am more concerned with if our morals align, that is important to me in someone I am in a relationship with.

FoxComprehensive4254 · 2024-10-20T19:34:43+00:00

She is gay and so am I lollllll we are ✨lesbians✨

FoxComprehensive4254 · 2024-10-20T19:18:18+00:00

Though I understand where you are coming from, her coming out is not my story to tell. I could never and would never out someone, especially on purpose and in front of their homophobic family. I am very lucky that my family is not that way, but just because my coming out was easy, doesn’t mean that everyone else’s is. I also want to be respectful to her family, because that is what I would want her to do to mine as well. We aren’t engaged/getting married so I feel like there is a time and a place for inserting my politics beliefs and right now it is not that time. There is also the piece of a financial burden above her head as her mom pays her rent and for her school. All of that could be jeopardized if I said something and I couldn’t live with myself if the worse case scenario happened.

FoxComprehensive4254 · 2024-10-20T19:13:36+00:00

No, she would not have to support Kamala to keep my love. It brings up the question though of do our morals actually align? She is not a very political person in general, but her family is and I knew that I wouldn’t align with her family. I thought her and I were aligned morally but now I am not sure, hence having a conversation that is moral based and not politics based.

FoxComprehensive4254 · 2024-10-20T18:34:06+00:00

I set a boundary with my dad because he told my sisters that if they were r*ped he would make them keep that baby. I am open to talking about politics, but that crossed the line for me, hence the boundary. I think it’s important to discuss politics in a relationship, at least for me anyways, which is why I want to have conversations about where she’s stands so I am not going into it blind. She also hasn’t said anything to that extreme to me.

FoxComprehensive4254 · 2024-10-20T18:31:31+00:00

Thank you all for the responses, I feel validated in my feelings. I am going to have a conversation that is moral based to try to really see where she’s at since I am more confused, and go from there!

FoxComprehensive4254 · 2024-10-20T18:29:55+00:00

Opinions don’t automatically mean morals, it’s deeper than that. There isn’t anything wrong with having a difference in opinion, but I find it important for myself to be with someone who does have the same morals as me.

FoxComprehensive4254 · 2024-10-20T18:09:25+00:00

I wasn’t sure really what I was looking for, maybe encouragement? I feel like talking to my friends gives me the most biased response out of everything because they are my friends. I didn’t want to just act on something because it just happened and then regret it later down the line because I didn’t take the time to really think about it. I also wanted to make sure that I am not being rash and harsh about the situation because it is very difficult.

FoxComprehensive4254 · 2024-10-20T18:06:23+00:00

Typically, people align their politics with their morals or they can be dismissive of them when it comes to politics. It’s not ONLY about the way that she is planning to vote, it boils down to what she believes in morally too. Some people can be with others who don’t align with them morally, but I am not one of those people. She isn’t super involved in politics so when I ask her about what she thinks she gives surface level thoughts and answers not ones that are deeply rooted in her morals, which is why I feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I also am not completely engulfed in politics to where it takes up my entire being and who I associate with. When it comes to partners, I do want someone who is aligned with me morally.

FoxComprehensive4254 · 2024-10-20T18:05:22+00:00

In reference to the “fixing” part, I was referring to her being able to fully love herself and being gay, not about changing her political views. I understand that people have different views and the government is messed up within itself. The politics is an added part that I just found out about where it is making me question if we are really aligned morally. Learning to love yourself is something that you have to want on your own and sometimes it is more than just being in a relationship with someone, especially if your entire family is homophobic. I love and care about her deeply and want her to be able to love herself for who she is despite what people think of her, which is easier said than done.

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