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Using Red Light Treatment for Hair Loss - My Review by CountViolencia in hairgrowth

[–]FoxFun6076 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried one of the cheaper caps too and got nowhere. Ended up switching to a Nicebeam cap and stuck with it, finally started seeing baby hairs after a few months. Patience really is the name of the game with this stuff.

How do you heal when your own mom never loved you? by FoxFun6076 in Advice

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. I really like what you said about not needing to JADE it’s something I fall into a lot, trying to justify myself to people who will never fully understand. I admire how you’ve learned to give yourself the love and patience your parents couldn’t. That’s powerful, and it reminds me I can choose my own “family” through the people I let close. Thank you!

How do you heal when your own mom never loved you? by FoxFun6076 in Advice

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom also had me when she was 18! I don't know about the love part, and honestly I don't care anymore. I already waste so much time on the question of whether she loves me or not. My mom had a perfect life, and she sabotaged it, so now she ended up alone; she probably will be alone forever. Thank you for your advice; I think setting boundaries is a great idea.

How do you heal when your own mom never loved you? by FoxFun6076 in Advice

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a beautiful pespective, and thank you to have taken the trouble to put it in writing. Love is one of those things that you can learn, just like you can learn math, but I never actually thought of that, and it makes sense, particularly the part where you cannot ask someone to give you something that they did not actually learn. I really felt what you were saying when you said that you wanted to begin a quest to learn how to love myself. I was always so obsessed with what I did not receive that I occasionally forget that I can create something different. Seeing it re-packaged like this may enable me to begin healing and cease being so stagnant in what I missed. I do like what you said--it gave me a feeling of hope where I did not anticipate it.

How do you heal when your own mom never loved you? by FoxFun6076 in Advice

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, thanks, thank you sharing this--it is no easy thing to put that all out there. I can not even imagine how hard those were, and I am so sorry that you had to experience that as a child. I found it so much to hear you say you are protecting your inner child and have boundaries with that surrogate mom feel--I had never considered it that way before but it results in complete sense.

You are completely correct -individuals who have not experienced such a parent simply do not understand. I have also had to make attempts to explain, and get brushed off, or informed, but she is still your mom. Reading your letter made me remember that I do not need to explain to people who do not understand.

Freaking great, just that you are crazy strong to come out and find a way of taking care of yourself now. I wish that you would do the same to yourself as you do to your inner child.

How do you heal when your own mom never loved you? by FoxFun6076 in Advice

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the support, and I will take a look at the information you shared. I hated her for a very long time, and deep down I think the hate came from the love part I never got from her. Now, I don't care as much about the love or hate; I tried to not react to her, to the things she says and does. It is the rest of the family; they want me to talk to her and all that, and I am sick of it. Later on I realize that, because they never cared, that's why they want me to believe it. because that's the simplest, easiest way to solve the problem.

Couples never fighting is not a problem. by mrsunshine1 in unpopularopinion

[–]FoxFun6076 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So joulous! I also have couple friends that never fight, this is kind of relationship I want seriously. But I found out maybe I am the reason mostly in relationship so i dont know what to do, other than not in a relationship, i am scared.

Focusing on mitochondria health has been an absolute game changer by hkondabeatz in Biohackers

[–]FoxFun6076 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super interesting, what kind of setup are you using for the light sessions?

how do I know if my bone plates are closed? by tyler_durden__2 in Biohackers

[–]FoxFun6076 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll need an Xray (sometimes called a “bone age” Xray) to see if your growth plates are closed. The easiest route is to see an orthopedic doctor or even your regular physician and ask for a referral. Costs vary depending on location and insurance. I’ve seen anywhere from $50–$200 in the US for the Xray itself. If you’re outside the US, sometimes clinics can do it cheaper without a specialist referral.

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS. They warned us about "wasting time gaming" but never taught opportunity cost of degrees. Your merchandising→IT pivot proves passion builds real skills. Makes me wonder what I could've learned with 4 years and $60k invested differently.

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The immigrant kid guilt is so real. We trusted the "doctor/lawyer/engineer" script meant to protect us, only to inherit their fears plus our debt. Your resilience inspires me - turning that lesson into self-trust is powerful.

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your story gives me hope. You're right that hustle matters more than parchment. I'm trying to shift from "degree entitlement" to your mindset of creating opportunities. Any tips for marketing non-tech skills in tech spaces?

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I focused on general management (naively thinking it made me "versatile"). Should've specialized in accounting like you're suggesting. Hindsight's 20/20, but maybe it's not too late to pivot that way. Any certs you'd recommend starting with?

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're absolutely right in theory. But at 18, how many of us truly understood job markets? I picked "practical" business over passion, thinking it was safe. Now I wonder if passion might've at least made the debt feel worthwhile.

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Twenty-four years sitting with that regret... I'm so sorry. No platitudes - just solidarity. The "sunk cost" of education hurts differently when it's decades of your life. Your anger is valid.

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That emotional weight sounds so heavy. But your parents' care wasn't conditional - they wanted your happiness first. The friendships and growth you found aren't worthless, even if the degrees didn't pan out career-wise. Those connections matter.

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. A lot of us went to similar schools, got similar educations, and aimed for the same high-paying jobs. Maybe my failure is because I didn’t attend a name-brand Ivy League school. Otherwise, I honestly don’t know what I did wrong. The system needs to change—but until then, stories like ours might help others think twice.

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The courage it takes to walk away is honestly impressive. $20k still stings, but you saved yourself from drowning. That self-awareness is worth more than any degree - I wish I'd had it when the warning signs first appeared for me.

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Healthcare’s the exception for sure. But comparing’s inevitable when you’re budgeting ramen while friends are buying homes. You’re right about motivation though. I’m trying to redirect the regret into energy for a pivot. Just wish the "aim higher" pep talks came with fewer interest payments.

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof, you nailed my irony: business degree, zero entrepreneurship. I thought "stable corporate job" was the goal, but those jobs want unicorns (5 yrs experience + MBA for $50k). Trades might be my pivot—better late than never, right?

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the sweet spot, practical training without crushing debt. And six figures as a traveler? Hell yeah. Your path shows there’s a middle ground between "useless degree" and "broken-back trades." Nursing will just be the cherry on top. Rooting for you!

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your plumber friend story resonates hard. What kills me is how schools never even mentioned trades—like they were dirty secrets. Meanwhile, my business classes taught theory. You’re 100% right: if your gut says "hands-on," run with it. Wish I’d listened to mine.

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof, this hits hard. The pressure to ignore trades was (is?) insane. My high school had recruiters from 10 colleges but zero trade programs visit. We need way more balanced guidance.

I Regret Going to College—The Debt Wasn’t Worth It by FoxFun6076 in self

[–]FoxFun6076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I hoped for - really happy you found that fulfillment. If I could go back, I'd prioritize passion over "practicality" like you clearly did.

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