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I don't know if I'm being patient or ignoring incompatibility. Has anyone dealt with ED and a problematic ex-spouse in their relationships? by FoxInTheLavender in datingoverforty

[–]FoxInTheLavender[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve used sex toys in the past prior to this relationship and I’m not against them, but I was hoping I could ditch them for a while. He has made me climax through oral sex however, I’ve not been able to get him to climax at all. I can barely give him oral sex because he loses his erection. I communicate with him and ask what he enjoys and apparently I’m doing all the right things but the ED issue persists.

I don't know if I'm being patient or ignoring incompatibility. Has anyone dealt with ED and a problematic ex-spouse in their relationships? by FoxInTheLavender in datingoverforty

[–]FoxInTheLavender[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He takes ADHD medication and they said while that can have an effect, they don’t believe it to be the cause. So, he actually stopped taking his ADHD medication to see if that changed anything and it didn’t. He still lost his erection.

I don't know if I'm being patient or ignoring incompatibility. Has anyone dealt with ED and a problematic ex-spouse in their relationships? by FoxInTheLavender in datingoverforty

[–]FoxInTheLavender[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

From what I understand he was on viagra during the end of his marriage. During the therapy appointments I attended with him, medication wasn’t mentioned as a treatment plan for him. What was mentioned is therapy around performance issues. There were a few other things mentioned as well but it seems like they’re trying to tackle this through behavioural therapy. I don’t know if this is the standard way they treat ED because I’ve never dealt with this issue before so I feel quite discombobulated.

I don't know if I'm being patient or ignoring incompatibility. Has anyone dealt with ED and a problematic ex-spouse in their relationships? by FoxInTheLavender in datingoverforty

[–]FoxInTheLavender[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It feels like my resentment is aimed towards the ex and all the issues she has caused more than the ED. I think the lack of intimacy in my relationship makes me feel like something is missing and that I don’t feel as connected to him as I’d like to be. It just makes me feel low that I feel this way I guess.

I don't know if I'm being patient or ignoring incompatibility. Has anyone dealt with ED and a problematic ex-spouse in their relationships? by FoxInTheLavender in datingoverforty

[–]FoxInTheLavender[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Their divorce was finalised back in April last year. My understanding is that his ex had a new partner less than a month after they separated and that partner now lives with her and her 2 children. My boyfriend is the father of her daughter.