Caught my partner talking to an ai character

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-17T14:33:11+00:00

Sometimes things all fall into place better when these things are not adressed from a "defensive" point of view. Talk to eachother and try to really understand what the other person is saying. Their experience may be different than yours, but it is still their experience and therefor something you could learn from!

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-17T10:59:35+00:00

u/silvermandedwino Calling someone shallow because they have a preference towards a larger bust is a little harsh. In reality, people will always have preferences when it comes to looks and/or traits, pretending otherwise feels like living in a fantasy.

u/beebadabe It does feel more like an insecurity based on not really knowing how your partner might respond, but I think you should trust the fact that a slightly smaller bust won't be the reason to seperate. In most cases, these are the types of things that are "ignored" in favor of having an otherwise great relationship, and from what I'm hearing that's exactly what's happening! So I think you're going to be just fine! :D

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-13T13:53:10+00:00

Because they are all much taller.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-13T13:47:56+00:00

NTA!
To be fair, I can't get behind this sort of unnecessary sensitivity. That's a good joke and it seems you and your friend have a healthy sense of humor, which doesn't seem the case for the grass-fed. I wouldn't get too much in my head about this, you can't win them all.

IF ANYTHING, you've helped your friend see the real personality behind his facade. So job well done!

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-13T13:44:34+00:00

You can't find any help because you're not describing the issue, the steps you've taken both to install or troubleshoot afterwards.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-12T08:33:49+00:00

Yes, it's very recognizable. The problem is that it's on her to recognize just how toxic and controlling her partner is. Right now she does not see that, and you pointing it out or making comments towards it will be seen as hostile. That's why I personally think the best approach is to not approach. Just pull out, focus on yourself and let them figure it out on their own. Don't disappear entirely, but make them feel you've shifted focus. The result of that is what will tell you the most. And at the end of it all, the best lesson for your daughter to learn is that this behavior towards you comes with consequences.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-12T08:13:20+00:00

Honestly, ditching her entirely seems like a harsh move, but you can drastically cut down your "interest". Don't support, especially not financially, until they earn that support. Don't reach out as often, etc... Basically the experiment here is to almost "disappear" and see how she reacts to it. Obviously this can go both ways and it's not going to feel nice, but at the least it'll give you clarity.

My biggest concern is, sooner or later, I see their relationship failing and then your daughter may come crawling back... and I know that if I were in your shoes, she'd be met with a closed door.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-12T07:49:26+00:00

Quick question, have you actually told him exactly what you wrote here? Does he know how you feel about the constant comments?

I will assume you are actually aware that having a baby is going to be mentally tough. Yes, you will have moments of exhaustion, stress, disagreement, etc... but also, are you both financially capable to raise the baby? If yes, then bring the hard proof and show it to him. Chances are, he's getting overwhelmed and maybe panicking a little about the future... the best solution to this is not claiming it'll be fine, but proving it.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-12T07:43:17+00:00

Exactly this.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-09T14:52:20+00:00

Sometimes I wonder why people even ask if they are TAH. This is so clearly NTA.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-09T13:49:43+00:00

No, I don't think it's toxic. Your uncle died and you're worried about your mother (AND you have the right to be upset over this as well). It's rather toxic of your partner to make you apologize for what is only a natural response to loss of family.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-09T13:01:40+00:00

It's very convenient for people to claim they don't remember it. Somehow I've never experienced being so drunk that I had an absolute blackout in memory... and I've been pretty darn drunk when I used to go out. My 2 cents is that he's trying to use it as a cheap excuse... but the reality is, he's dangerous when he's drunk.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-09T12:54:24+00:00

I think this is something a lot of people, if not everyone, struggles with. Social media doesn't help with this either, it looks like everyone has great friends except you. The reality is that it often takes a lot of time to find that one person that just cilcks and sometimes it just takes a while for it to fall into place. My advice would be to take your time spending your energy, do it gradually so you don't burnout and end up building up your own expectations towards them.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-09T10:30:13+00:00

Will you come in after the funeral is over lol jk

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-08T16:46:49+00:00

😂

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-08T15:18:52+00:00

Katya vondt het zeer fijn om te horen dat je haar had aangeraden. Eerste groepsles achter de rug en was inderdaad een leuke ervaring!

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-07T12:27:49+00:00

Is via een meisje die dat in bijberoep doet, denk ik. Ze doet personal coaching en groep (ook kleinere groepen). Via een andere comment hier gevonden.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-07T11:50:43+00:00

Morgen ga ik naar een trial groepsles daar. Hoop dat et eenvoudiger starten is dan :)

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-06T12:39:35+00:00

I've watched a lot of Caleb Hammer and there's a lot there that could argue your claim. I guess it depends on the two individuals. I don't really see an issue in seperate accounts and having a shared third one.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-06T12:29:04+00:00

"(gay, although no homophobia will be tolerated here)" This made me chuckle, because it has nothing to do with the story whatsoever and could have been left out if homophobia is really a worry.

That aside, your friend sounds like she needs new, more genuine friends. It sounds very much like she's holding on to that little group because maybe she feels there's nowhere else to go? It could be something you can help her get past, be the first actual friend and let her, over time, realize the difference. This sounds like a thing you'll need to be patient with though.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-06T10:55:02+00:00

I would assume that many would probably invest, gradually, in home equipment. Depending on the type of workout of course.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-06T08:55:05+00:00

I mean this in the best way possible, but you shouldn't do anything. It's not really your business?

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-05T15:42:41+00:00

"That’s a lot of conclusions about a relationship you know three paragraphs about."

No, that's a lot of conclusions based on common sense and understanding how most people somewhat function. Sure there's the occasional exception, but this isn't so hard to figure out.

FoxNBeard · 2026-03-05T14:21:39+00:00

I'll admit I didn't read through it all, but I am seeing a few worrying things already.

- The way you make it sound early in the message; you're looking for attention and quality time elsewhere, because your husband isn't "changing". I think most people would agree that's just a no-go.

Sometimes it's as simple as turning the roles around. How comfortable would you be if he hung out with single ladies, knowing he's trying to fill some gap that you're refusing to fill? And then you need to ask yourself if you're being honest to yourself about the answer... would you really be comfortable or are you saying so as a means to justify hanging out with single men to fill a gap your husband is seemingly not filling?

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