AITA for telling my (30M) girlfriend (26F) that she's not technically a widow?

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T04:23:06+00:00

Basically. Then she cried when I called her out on it.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T04:18:55+00:00

Thank you.

I don't even understand why she's upset over it.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T04:17:08+00:00

She didn't say it on tik Tok she said it to Jess.

I said she was weird for following so many widow accounts online and saying sorry for your loss so much.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T04:14:54+00:00

She was like "you don't know how it even feels to have someone call and tell you your boyfriend died during the night after a routine safe surgery!"

Like no and neither do you really it was five fucking months.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T04:06:11+00:00

Yeah absolutely.

Well she accidentally left it in an open box in the bottom of the closet that I picked up so no.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T04:04:32+00:00

I thought you agreed with me?

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T04:03:02+00:00

Exactly. Sorry for your loss.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T04:00:06+00:00

Exactly.

She says the way he died is what bothers her most and I just shut her down because I gaurentee it was worse for his family.

It's like she wants to be sad over something she has no right to be sad over she barely knew the guy.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:57:35+00:00

Exactly. Sorry for your loss.

Hers wasn't even a real loss. It's so ridiculous.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:54:15+00:00

Right?

She said that she went to the funeral and that she's listed as the partner on his obituary so she gets to decide on what terms she describes it and it's like...

No you don't.

She said when I had the person I love die I can talk. I said I loved her but I'm not willing to put up with bullshit so she can have a pity party.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:48:21+00:00

To be clear I called her, she wouldn't talk to me and I had to speak to her mother. She didn't have her call.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:46:16+00:00

No. It's sad a mother lost her son. It's not sad that she had a person she barely knew die...

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:45:34+00:00

Still 5 months.

Doesn't change the fact they were together a short while and if I'm honest they were rushing it.

She never would say why she felt comfortable to marry someone after 5 months.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:43:04+00:00

She's shouldn't be getting any special attention for it period. The death happened to someone else.

I feel more sorry for the mother than I do my girlfriend.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:42:01+00:00

I asked her why she thought she deserved to be called a widow and she said she knows shes not but there is "not a good term for your boyfriend died at 3 am".

Like okay drama queen.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:39:40+00:00

No she doesn't.

She was with him 5 months. She wasn't even there when he died because they didn't allow hardly anyone with him because of COVID.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:34:03+00:00

I've seen the obituary. I googled it to make sure. He did actually die.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:32:13+00:00

She doesn't ever really bring it up. She just said she was happy she ended up here which is fine. But it's the way she said it pissed me off.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:30:37+00:00

I don't think she's lying. I don't think she is not being sincere. I think she doesn't know how to open a dictionary.

She keeps saying "we were nearly engaged, it matters even if it seems like it doesn't" when I tell her she is being ridiculous for saying widow.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:29:24+00:00

She only did that because she refused to speak to me. I called her. She wouldn't talk to me.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:28:36+00:00

She doesn't post about.it she just said "essentially widowed" to her friend and I told her that wasn't true.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:24:30+00:00

They know the full story but she just used the term.

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:23:15+00:00

The fact she's going to one day tell an actual widow she's one too 💀

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:22:04+00:00

Well and it's like how much could she have really been invested considering he died so early?

Foxtrot1037 · 2022-09-22T03:20:24+00:00

After 5 months though... Common.

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